When you begin on a loving journey with a Virgo man, you probably want to know what his motivations are. Fear not, because using Astrology we can pinpoint what it is these men are after.
You may be wondering what’s going on under a Virgo’s surface… are there things I should know?
Virgo men are not the most easy-going sign of the Zodiac. They are hard to please on a good day, so rest assured that if he agrees to take any steps forward with you, that you are well ahead of the learning curve.
Some spicy Virgo men may find themselves on one knee just a short while after dating. But my experience tells me that often a Virgo will allow the relationship to mosey on at a slow pace until the relationship is dying.
Anyway, you’re in luck because I’m here to tell you about the things a Virgo man is looking for in a woman. If you fulfill these needs then you’ll soon find yourself looking into the eyes of a dedicated Virgo lover.
Remember that Astrology can tell us about any and all human behavior. Everyone has a sign and a chart, after all.
So, let’s take a look at the less obvious things that a Virgo man is seeking in a partner.
5 Shocking Things Every Virgo Man Wants
1. He Needs Understanding of His Cyclical Nature
If you are given the opportunity to date a Virgo man, you will quickly realize that this guy has steadily repeating needs.
He needs time to be distant and time to be close. He wants both, but he can only be one at a time.
He will need some time to sit quietly in a reflective state in relative solitude, but afterwards you’ll find him running back to you to watch your favorite show together.
Virgos have heavily varying energy levels and to find a partner who is understanding of that would endear them for the long haul.
2. They Need Emotional Stability
Virgos are practical Earth signs, so one might believe that they don’t need a whole lot of emotional care because they seem pretty self-sufficient. Incorrect! Virgo men need to know that their relationships are stable to sleep well at night.
A Virgo man may seem like he is emotionally solid, but if he senses a disturbance in the relationship, it will drive him out of his mind.
These partners are steadfast and caring, however they need to be convinced that you are happy in the relationship with them.
After all, if there’s one thing we know about Virgos, it’s that they are fixers, and they’ll quickly tire of the relationship if it feels that their effort to maintain happiness and joy with you just isn’t paying off.
He needs validation that all of his hard work and efforts to keep the peace are working for the greater good of the relationship.
3. He Wants to Help You Grow and Evolve
We know Virgo men are hard workers who see something wrong and address it immediately. We know they are looking for ways to improve themselves but they also look for ways to help those around them achieve their goals.
That’s because he sees people stuck and stagnant and unhappy with their position in life and he has a deep urge to help.
One thing to watch for is that his advice, while it has good intentions, can begin to feel like criticism, like you just aren’t good enough the way you are. A healthy dose of good communication can sort all that out though, because as we learned, Virgo men are ready and willing to pursue emotional stability.
4. He Needs Time for Love-Making
Your Virgo man likes a nice tight ship when it comes to the relationship, and sometimes this applies to the bedroom as well.
A Virgo man needs to know that you find him attractive just the way he is. He might even read dry spells in the bedroom as your love for him withering away.
If you aren’t feeling the sparks at that moment. it’s important to tell him this so that he can be reassured that it isn’t because the romance is dying, and that the schedule can pick up where it left off when the time is right.
This seems like an annoying trait to many people, but the truth is that he just needs to know that he consistently turns you on.
To a Virgo, consistency is the best way they know how to show their love for you. They can consistently show up for you and this is their super power.
Just keep in mind that it’s important to have good, open communication about your sex life. At the end of the day you’ve just got to be open to expressing your true feelings on the matter.
Virgos are responsive to good communication, they are ruled by Mercury, after all, the planet of speech and words. Speaking with them about any sexual concerns you’ve got is likely to be productive.
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5. He Might Be a Health Aficionado
Your Virgo guy might be fit as a fiddle on top of being a bit of a neat freak around the house. He likes to make sure everything is in order, and that includes his body.
He’s the type of guy who goes the whole nine yards and tries to turn you on to HIIT and wheatgrass shots. Bonding for him might be done best in the gym.
Be aware that this is because a Virgo loves the concept of perfection. He wants a perfect life, perfect wife, perfect house, and perfect body. Or else, in his mind, he has failed.
This is not the most mentally supportive way of looking at things for many people, and he may even exhaust himself. Even to the point where he might give up on his overall wellness because in his mind, if he cannot do it perfectly then it is not worth even trying.
Now, this is where you come in. You have the power to show him that life can consist of some failures here and there and you can still come out on top as the winner.
He’ll pay attention to your method because he is always interested in new ways to succeed.
Your influence can be a way to show him that there are other, less stressful ways of going about life.
So, show this man that eating ice cream one night and going rock climbing the next is a totally okay way to live your life!
If your Virgo man is doing any of these things, you’ll know you’ve accessed the more neurotic half of him… which is good news in many ways because this means you have crashed through any walls that he’s put up and you’re on your way to mutual growth.
Let me know how these tips work in the comments! I would love to hear your stories about your Virgo man. What other tricks have worked that you’ve tried which I didn’t mention? Share them with me! I’d love to hear about it.
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Wishing you all the luck of the universe
Your friend and relationship astrologer,