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5 Shocking Things Every Virgo Man Wants

When you begin on a loving journey with a Virgo man, you probably want to know what his motivations are. Fear not, because using Astrology we can pinpoint what it is these men are after.

You may be wondering what’s going on under a Virgo’s surface… are there things I should know?

Virgo men are not the most easy-going sign of the Zodiac. They are hard to please on a good day, so rest assured that if he agrees to take any steps forward with you, that you are well ahead of the learning curve.

Some spicy Virgo men may find themselves on one knee just a short while after dating. But my experience tells me that often a Virgo will allow the relationship to mosey on at a slow pace until the relationship is dying.

Anyway, you’re in luck because I’m here to tell you about the things a Virgo man is looking for in a woman. If you fulfill these needs then you’ll soon find yourself looking into the eyes of a dedicated Virgo lover.

Remember that Astrology can tell us about any and all human behavior. Everyone has a sign and a chart, after all.

So, let’s take a look at the less obvious things that a Virgo man is seeking in a partner.

5 Shocking Things Every Virgo Man Wants

1. He Needs Understanding of His Cyclical Nature

If you are given the opportunity to date a Virgo man, you will quickly realize that this guy has steadily repeating needs.

He needs time to be distant and time to be close. He wants both, but he can only be one at a time.

He will need some time to sit quietly in a reflective state in relative solitude, but afterwards you’ll find him running back to you to watch your favorite show together.

Virgos have heavily varying energy levels and to find a partner who is understanding of that would endear them for the long haul.

2. They Need Emotional Stability

virgo man needs emotional stability

Virgos are practical Earth signs, so one might believe that they don’t need a whole lot of emotional care because they seem pretty self-sufficient. Incorrect! Virgo men need to know that their relationships are stable to sleep well at night.

A Virgo man may seem like he is emotionally solid, but if he senses a disturbance in the relationship, it will drive him out of his mind.

These partners are steadfast and caring, however they need to be convinced that you are happy in the relationship with them.

After all, if there’s one thing we know about Virgos, it’s that they are fixers, and they’ll quickly tire of the relationship if it feels that their effort to maintain happiness and joy with you just isn’t paying off.

He needs validation that all of his hard work and efforts to keep the peace are working for the greater good of the relationship.

3. He Wants to Help You Grow and Evolve

We know Virgo men are hard workers who see something wrong and address it immediately. We know they are looking for ways to improve themselves but they also look for ways to help those around them achieve their goals.

That’s because he sees people stuck and stagnant and unhappy with their position in life and he has a deep urge to help.

One thing to watch for is that his advice, while it has good intentions, can begin to feel like criticism, like you just aren’t good enough the way you are. A healthy dose of good communication can sort all that out though, because as we learned, Virgo men are ready and willing to pursue emotional stability.

4. He Needs Time for Love-Making

Your Virgo man likes a nice tight ship when it comes to the relationship, and sometimes this applies to the bedroom as well.

A Virgo man needs to know that you find him attractive just the way he is. He might even read dry spells in the bedroom as your love for him withering away.

If you aren’t feeling the sparks at that moment. it’s important to tell him this so that he can be reassured that it isn’t because the romance is dying, and that the schedule can pick up where it left off when the time is right.

This seems like an annoying trait to many people, but the truth is that he just needs to know that he consistently turns you on.

To a Virgo, consistency is the best way they know how to show their love for you. They can consistently show up for you and this is their super power.

Just keep in mind that it’s important to have good, open communication about your sex life. At the end of the day you’ve just got to be open to expressing your true feelings on the matter.

Virgos are responsive to good communication, they are ruled by Mercury, after all, the planet of speech and words. Speaking with them about any sexual concerns you’ve got is likely to be productive.

Read next: 7 Perfect Gifts to Give Your Virgo Man

5. He Might Be a Health Aficionado

Your Virgo guy might be fit as a fiddle on top of being a bit of a neat freak around the house. He likes to make sure everything is in order, and that includes his body.

He’s the type of guy who goes the whole nine yards and tries to turn you on to HIIT and wheatgrass shots. Bonding for him might be done best in the gym.

Be aware that this is because a Virgo loves the concept of perfection. He wants a perfect life, perfect wife, perfect house, and perfect body. Or else, in his mind, he has failed.

This is not the most mentally supportive way of looking at things for many people, and he may even exhaust himself. Even to the point where he might give up on his overall wellness because in his mind, if he cannot do it perfectly then it is not worth even trying.

Now, this is where you come in. You have the power to show him that life can consist of some failures here and there and you can still come out on top as the winner.

He’ll pay attention to your method because he is always interested in new ways to succeed.

Your influence can be a way to show him that there are other, less stressful ways of going about life.

So, show this man that eating ice cream one night and going rock climbing the next is a totally okay way to live your life!

If your Virgo man is doing any of these things, you’ll know you’ve accessed the more neurotic half of him… which is good news in many ways because this means you have crashed through any walls that he’s put up and you’re on your way to mutual growth.

Let me know how these tips work in the comments! I would love to hear your stories about your Virgo man. What other tricks have worked that you’ve tried which I didn’t mention? Share them with me! I’d love to hear about it.

Share your story (or situation) with our community in the comment section below (don’t worry, it’s anonymous).

And if you’re dying to know more tips and secrets to score and keep your Virgo man, you need to check out my Virgo Man Secrets here.

Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and relationship astrologer,

Anna Kovach



5 thoughts on “5 Shocking Things Every Virgo Man Wants

  1. Hey Anna, so I feel like I don’t have a chance with this Virgo man I know. So first off, he is from a different place, he isn’t in the US, so different timezones and stuff. We knew each other on this game we met each other on, become friend’s had fun, he wasn’t really into relationships back then, he didn’t have much experience, I found him again after two years of being apart, and we have both changed, he acknowledges that I have changed (In a good way). He says that I’m amazing ( Told me this when I told him all of my interests), he says I never fail to impress him, he’s so smart and there’s just something about him that’s so attractive, when we met again all my feelings for him from back then came flooding back, he keeps me guessing about him “It’s more fun that way” as he says, which I find so intriguing, I can tell he knows more about relationships. ( Apparently read a book on what women want, need, etc He just loves psychology, he was using that to attract someone else, I don’t know if it’s worked or not, maybe she just wasn’t interested) There are big pauses in our conversation, so should I try to close that, by texting a little faster? He’s told me about this one girl, Lucy, she likes him and tries to get him to make the first move, he did mention that she was a friend, so I don’t think it might’ve worked out, but now I just feel like I probably have zero chances after hearing that. I’m a fighter for what I want, and I want him (Scorpio sun, Gemini Moon, Leo Rising) This is new territory trying to win over the heart of someone so smart, and I’m ready for whatever it may bring. So, do I have a chance with him? Does he like me even a little bit? I want to ask him if he has a girlfriend but I don’t know if I should, any advice for any of these questions??

  2. Hey Anna, so I feel like I don’t have a chance with this Virgo man I know. So first off, he is from a different place, he isn’t in the US, so different timezones and stuff. We knew each other on this game we met each other on, become friend’s had fun, he wasn’t really into relationships back then, he didn’t have much experience, I found him again after two years of being apart, and we have both changed, he acknowledges that I have changed (In a good way). He says that I’m amazing ( Told me this when I told him all of my interests), he says I never fail to impress him, he’s so smart and there’s just something about him that’s so attractive, when we met again all my feelings for him from back then came flooding back, he keeps me guessing about him “It’s more fun that way” as he says, which I find so intriguing, I can tell he knows more about relationships. ( Apparently read a book on what women want, need, etc He just loves psychology, he was using that to attract someone else, I don’t know if it’s worked or not, maybe she just wasn’t interested) There are big pauses in our conversation, so should I try to close that, by texting a little faster? He’s told me about this one girl, Lucy, she likes him and tries to get him to make the first move, he did mention that she was a friend, so I don’t think it might’ve worked out, but now I just feel like I probably have zero chances after hearing that. I’m a fighter for what I want, and I want him (Scorpio sun, Gemini Moon, Leo Rising) This is new territory trying to win over the heart of someone so smart, and I’m ready for whatever it may bring. So, do I have a chance with him? Does he like me even a little bit? I want to ask him if he has a girlfriend but I don’t know if I should, any advice for any of these questions?? Please help

    1. Hey Anna, so he hasn’t contacted me in awhile, no idea what happened
      He asked me if he could see my palm ( for a palm reading) I gave him it, and then after that he just didn’t text anymore, that was so weird, asked him a question why he wanted it no response, so later on the next day, I texted him with a good afternoon text, no response
      Anna.. I think he may be racist… I don’t want to assume! But like, I am black, and the photo, of course showed my skin color.
      So here’s just a little thing to show you, to get my point across better
      1. We both talk on Discord ( Different countries no phone numbers of course)
      2. On discord he has thing’s connected to it, Reddit, Spotify, Steam, etc
      3. On Reddit, you can see the time someone has been on or off.. Anna, he was on like 10 minutes ago, last time I checked
      4. I usually ask people if they are racist, when they ask to see me, and I didn’t ask him that

      Now I don’t know if he has a computer, but on Discord he uses his phone, we texted a lot, even with big gaps, and then it stops, I don’t remember dropping hints I liked him or anything, so yeah
      If he has time to be on Reddit for atleast 10 minutes, then he has time to text back, a “Hey” or something, so I don’t think he’s busy
      Yes he could be taking a break during whatever he’s doing but like, it’s not that hard to send a quick text
      I’m thinking about doing a test, making another Reddit account, texting him on it, and see if he responds, and that would tell me everything
      But should I ask if he is racist or something?

      1. Ok well I know this is long, I don’t assume he’s racist ( Even though it is weird, that he stopped texting after I sent him my hand) And I will let him be, he isn’t my boyfriend, but we’ve been talking for awhile and then he just disappears?? Either way, I know he has family, studies, and everything else. When he wants to talk to me, then he will I’ll just try and wait, no matter how many times I wish he would text
        But I still would like to know if I have a chance with him

      2. Hi Kønnié

        Either he is a palm reader legitimately and saw something he didn’t like OR yes, he could be racist. I would actually be very candid with him and ask him. You could also try the alternative test you are talking about. There are always ways around this but hey, if you need more information about Virgo men, I can certainly help you if you read Virgo Man Secrets. Good luck! I hope you get the answer you’re looking for.

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