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How To Make A Virgo Man Chase You: 7 Rules To Make Him Want You

Getting a Virgo man to do anything he doesn’t see as sensible or necessary is not easy. These men don’t like being manipulated but they respond very well to direct communication.

How to make a Virgo man chase you?

You can tell him clearly that you like being chased by men, and you want him to do it, and if you give him good enough reasons why he should do it, he will!

Virgo men will pursue a relationship with a woman if they know their attention is appreciated and welcomed. Pretending not to be interested in him won’t make him run after you, he will simply stop trying.

The Virgo is one of those who means what he says and says what he means, so he expects others to be the same and is disappointed when what people say, and what they do, is completely different.

Your best approach to get a Virgo interested and in pursuit is to engage with him at a very earthy and authentic level.

He is an intellectual who loves facts and learning new things, so if you hold the promise of rich intellectual stimulation you will get his attention.

1. Don’t Expect Him to Chase You

Virgo men just don’t chase women, not the way other men do. The games and expected roles of romance are ones they just don’t respect or ever engage in. If a Virgo man likes you, he will take his time to collect information and see what you are all about.

Don’t think you can fool him, or manipulate him, his sharp eyes note everything and he rarely forgets a detail. If you understand this point, it will make a Virgo man chase you.

2. Be Patient


Virgo men take their time to decide that they really want from a woman, and once they do, they will do whatever it takes to keep that woman happy and be with her. Unlike some men who love the thrill of the chase and lose interest when they have made a conquest, Virgo men are the opposite.

They will only go after a woman and do whatever they can to charm her after they know she is theirs. If he truly likes you, this will make a Virgo man chase you.

3. Don’t Force Him to Choose

Virgo men don’t respond well to emotional blackmail or ultimatums. If you tell him that you need him to decide if he wants you or not, and he isn’t ready, he will back off or even end the relationship. He will believe you when you say that you can’t wait anymore or that the situation is making you miserable.

Virgo men want you to be happy, if they think they are making you unhappy then they would rather get out of your life so that you can find happiness elsewhere.

4. Make it Obvious That You Want Him

A Virgo man will only go after a woman who wants him and has made it clear. You need to be more honest than you might normally be and tell him that you find him appealing and why. He loves information, so break it down in detail.

Making yourself available does not mean making yourself easy or being pushy, it simply means being there when he is ready to make his move. If he gets the signal, it will make a Virgo man chase you.

5. Ask for His Help


Virgo men love being useful and they want to be a positive, meaningful and helpful influence in your life. Being of service, and making a real difference to your life, makes him feel confident and inspired. Don’t invent a crisis, although he is good in one, just make yourself more vulnerable than you might normally be.

6. Give Him Space

Virgo men need space where they can be alone, independent and private. This is never something that you should take personally. He doesn’t expect or wants you to drop your friends and center your life around the relationship you have with him. He wants his independence and he loves it when you assert yours.

7. Be Active

Virgo men like to be busy and just spending time with you may make him bored. Plan activities, cultural outings or projects that keep him interested and give him a reason to want to be with you. He responds well to anything that he can see as a good idea for practical reasons, so keep that in mind.

How do you make a Virgo man chase you? Let me know in the comment section below!


Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

23 thoughts on “How To Make A Virgo Man Chase You: 7 Rules To Make Him Want You

  1. My virgo partner of 10 years left me for his ex who he was divorcing when we met. I am devistated. Is there any chance whatsoever of his coming back. If so, will your book help?
    Thank you for your advice.

  2. I’m sorry to say but no. Once a Virgo man finds his love it’s set … they can part ways a million times.. they’ll be back.

    1. @ Chanice Odeghe… you are so right. Seen this reaction in many Virgo friends.

      However, unless past partner done something very hurtful to him/ her… then yes he/ she will return. Once he figures it out that he/ she is the love of she/ he life… that’s where they’re going to be.

      I will NEVER date ANY man by taking the place of another OR being 2nd.

  3. I was wondering, how can you prove to a Virgo man that your trustworthy and that your not going to leave him? I have a friend who I really appreciate and needs physical affection from as well as someone to talk to. I don’t know how to show him how much I care and will be there for him.

    1. Hi Juni! To prove to a Virgo man that you are trustworthy takes a great deal of time and effort as well as patience. You cannot hurry a Virgo man along. He has to get to know you over time and trust comes with getting to know you better. The thing is, mosts people’s timing is quite different than his. What is one month to most is like a week to him? One year is like 1 month to him. Seriously, they do not think like most, other people. That being said, give it time, patience and be there for him. He’ll come to see that you’re trustworthy and someone he wants to spend time with. If you’d like to know more about the Virgo man, check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  4. So u mean once his love is set for someone even if he leaves he will ve back?

    Im asking bc me and my virgo guy are wantingvto marry so but will he leave me and go back to his ex? Ges been divorced for 5 years i believe..

    Thank u…Roxy

  5. My Virgo man hardly spends time with me ..he makes excuses like his car is messed up or he doesn’t feel well or something with his job ect ect .he’s consistent when texting me he hasn’t missed a day yet but physically we don’t spend enough time and he has lied to me in saying he’s coming then something ends up happening and he doesn’t show up..I’ve been with him for 5 months and still haven’t been to his place or haven’t met his mom or his friends yet..We haven’t even gone on a date yet and when he comes over it’s for two or three hrs then he leaves..he says he loves me and wants to marry me but I feel like something else is going on..he barely texts me during the day like he use to..I love him but I feel neglected with him and this is not what I want..He says he will never hurt me but he does and he doesn’t even know it and I’m not letting him know how I’m feeling because if he really loves me he would show it like I do it to him everyday..I’m just going to end up leaving him sooner or later ..

    1. Sandra sorry to hear that. From what you’ve said and based on my own personal experience, something is definitely shady with your Virgo man. I’m currently dating a Virgo man and we’ve only known each other a month but yet I have seen him a minimum of twice a week. I’ve been to his place and I’ve also met a few friends (once, accidentally but the other time he asked me to hang with him and his friend), we’ve been on several dates. Regardless of him being a Virgo man or not, you deserve someone who will love you and treat you in the way that you want to be and deserve to be treated. In a nutshell, You deserve better than what you are getting.

      1. Hi Pez! Thank you for your input. Virgo men are very different and there are various things that could be going on with their mental versus their emotional which can sometimes be a conflict. Not all Virgo men are the same so it’s imperative to know more about each one of them in order to asses what is going on with him. I’m glad that you’re doing well with your Virgo but that could change at any moment based on their unpredictability. It may be important for you to learn more about Virgo man as well so that you can be prepared for anything that could arise. They’re all unique and sometimes do things out of left field. It’s better to know right? Check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

    2. Hi Sandra! It sounds like your Virgo guy is confused about what he wants. What he does isn’t consistent with what he says. It’s easier for him to say all the right things when it’s via text but when he has to face it and actually live it, he cannot seem to get himself there. That means he has reservations about it and doesn’t know how to cope with what he’s doing. You will need to basically tell him that “we need to talk face to face as soon as possible” so that you can sort through everything. Tell him how you’re feeling in an honest way and then ask him what his thoughts and feelings are as well. Get on the same page and then you can figure out if you two have a future or if you should leave it alone. This has to be face to face though, not via text. Tell him it’s imperative to see him. If you’d like to know more helpful information about the Virgo man, please check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  6. So me and my Virgo have known each other since we were in 3rd grade, kinda always really really liked each other, he wanted to date in middle school but i said no, we were still friends even throughout high school but he dropped out and didn’t see him again since my senior. So recently i contacted and we decided to link. We went out on a date then after things got hot everything was wonder. We link the day after things got hot again but this time it was almost a lil awkward but not that bad we was still okay i think. Next day i texted him gm but never replied even though i know he seen it because he was on Facebook. He still hasn’t texted me and it’s been almost a week. I really really like him don’t plan on living anytime soon. Or ever. How can i tell him that if he won’t talk to me and Why did he stop talking to me it’s not like we’re strangers?

    1. I have been seeing a virgo man for 2 months now. I knew him before 2 years ago. He tried to Persue and I refused caused to me he seemed like a player. Recently when he contacted me I decided to give him a benefit of a doubt and accept his proposal. I go to his house once a week. He showed me his friends at work. But he hardly responds to my texts and calls. He is a very busy guy. But I feel there is someone else in his life. He is always texting while with me. Sometimes late nite calls. I playing it cool but am hurting so bad. Am aries. I am inlove with him. But I want to leave him. I feel neglected though our sex life is getting great everyday. What can I do. I don’t trust him. I feel am not the love of his life. He never take me for dinner or movies. Only in his bed. Can I hold on a little While? Or it’s better for me to walk out of this relationship now? Advise please.

      1. Hi Bessy! Thank you for writing in about your painful Virgo man situation. If your Virgo guy hasn’t declared a commitment to you then he feels like a free agent. Most Virgo men do not act like players. Many of them are very old fashioned but some may be affected by moon signs or rising signs that make them a bit different than the norm. You mentioned bedding him. He probably feels he has the best of both worlds without the strings. I think you need to have the exclusivity talk to see where he stands and if he’s not down for it, walk on. You deserve better than this. You probably should learn more about the complicated Virgo man by checking out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

    2. Hi Liah! He may be wondering what you are feeling or thinking after the date you had and is waiting for you to reach out. If you’re waiting on him to reach out to you then perhaps you should make the 1st move to see if he replies. Shoot him a text saying hi and that you’d love to hear from him again and maybe get together soon. See what he says then you’ll figure it out from there. Either he’ll continue to ghost you (if he isn’t into it) or he’ll get back to you and let you know why he hadn’t reached out sooner. He may just be busy so give it a try. It may help you more to learn all you can about the Virgo man. Check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  7. All the things you’ve written about describes him to a T but of course I did the standard stuff of expecting him to chase, hiding my true feelings, ignoring him when we had a fight and telling him I may find someone else when he asked for space. These are all advise I got from different people about how to deal with guys but looks like it’s backfired with my Virgo man. Did I ruin my chances forever? Can I ever get him back?

    1. Hi Maryel! Thank you for writing in regarding your icky Virgo man situation. Yes, it sounds like taking other’s advice may have backfired. Virgo men typically don’t do a whole lot of chasing. They want to know that the woman they are pursuing actually wants to be with them, is open, and cares. It’s hard to say if you’ve ruined your chance forever because each Virgo man is very different. I think what you should do is open up to him with a heart to heart. Tell him how you really feel and tell him that you approached it wrong before but now you’re ready to do it the right way. Find out more about how to approach a re-connection by checking out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  8. Hi, i had a virgo man ex bf ,i met him online last 2016, we had like almost 2years talking online until we met in March 2018 in japan, he flew over to japan just to met me and be official in our relationship, and then he met me again for twice in philippines last june 2018 he spent 3 weeks , We’ve been together as boyfriend girlfriend for 9months, we broke up last december 2018 , because he supposed to fly over to Philippines to meet me because i am from Philippines originally, but then i can feel that something is goin on , i was really excited that he is coming over to meet me for the 3rd time and i even made up somw surpises for him when he arrives, but then he said he needs to sort out some stuff , he is confused, he doesnt know whats wrong with him, and i ask him are you dating a new girl? And he said NO. I asked him many timesbut he said, he cant date any girl because he is inlove with me,he just needs to sort out some stuff and fix his life, and he said to me that just wait for me and i’ll come to you and find you,
    Regarding to his situation he has a nice job. I dont really understand what makes him confused, but he is making me confused too, so i decided to broke up with him, he dont really wanna broke up with me but he sees that im not happy anymore so he agreed, . Almost 1 month now since we broke up, but we are still texting started last january 3, he seems like okay he been texting me regularly, make some jokes, and he even open up again to have a vacation together , and feels like i dont wanna believe anymore,

    Could you help me what should i do? Thanks

  9. But he is not closing doors for us, he is still open about where i end up, if its to other guy or him. Please Help, what should i do? Should i wait for him?

  10. My virgo man has been married to his wife for 20 years and has 2 teenage children and a grandson. He separated from her in 2015 and moved in with me. We have the most amazing relationship and we click on every level of life. But last year his wife decided she wanted to try again. So every weekend since last August he would spend there. She begged him to move back in. So November of last year he did and is still there. But he still complains to me every day how he feels like he has made a huge mistake by going back there. He said things are worse then before. He says that he really only went back to make sure his kids and animals were taken of. He tells me that he feels trapped now and doesn’t know what to do. He has talked to his wife about their issues but nothing has changed as of yet and he is extremely frustrated and wants to come back to me but he doesn’t know how he can because he will just worry about his kids all the time. What can I do to help him without being too much. I’m a Taurus and he and get along better then I ever with any other man in all aspects of life. Do you think i have a chance to win him back ?

    1. Every man will do a poor me story to keep his back up plan (you). A person can make sure

      their kids are taken care of not living in that home, thousands of men do it everyday. You

      can not compete with a woman he has history and kids with, especially when he left you to

      go back to her. Wasted time is worse than wasted money. Do you really want to win a

      man back that involves you breaking up a family? Why do you want to be second choice?

      He left you and slept with another woman to work out things with her. Every couple has

      low points, He has showed you that he would rather work on his low points with her than

      enjoy happy moments with you. Keep in mind, when a women that “wins” a man back

      from his family, ends up having trust issues with him.

    2. Hi Donna! Thank you for writing in about your complicated Virgo man situation. Virgo men are perpetually moral typically. What I mean by this is, he feels his family is his #1 priority and was possibly afraid that if he were to deny his wife of what she wanted that she may try to yank visitation with the kids and pets. This paranoia and over thinking things made him give in to her and give her what she wants. Now he knows he made a mistake but as he said, he’s feeling stuck. He could choose to tell her it’s over and he wants to move on but he hasn’t. Until he does that then you may want to try focusing on your own path. There are lots of things that you should learn about Virgo before you continue waiting for him. If you’d like to check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  11. I have been talking to a Virgo guy at school for a month and a couple weeks n anytime we fight it’s about him not being consistent he could go a whole week without talking to me if he just says good morning n good night he use to call everyday n he just hugs me in school he tells me he is sure of me but still hasn’t asked me to be his girl. He tells me he cares about me does small favors has even said he loves me but he plans no dates I’m a Taurus he tells me he knows he has to work on commutation with me but I feel like I should get distant even tho I hate the games

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