Getting a Virgo man to do anything he doesn’t see as sensible or necessary is not easy. These men don’t like being manipulated but they respond very well to direct communication.
How to make a Virgo man chase you?
You can tell him clearly that you like being chased by men, and you want him to do it, and if you give him good enough reasons why he should do it, he will!
Virgo men will pursue a relationship with a woman if they know their attention is appreciated and welcomed. Pretending not to be interested in him won’t make him run after you, he will simply stop trying.
The Virgo is one of those who means what he says and says what he means, so he expects others to be the same and is disappointed when what people say, and what they do, is completely different.
Your best approach to get a Virgo interested and in pursuit is to engage with him at a very earthy and authentic level.
He is an intellectual who loves facts and learning new things, so if you hold the promise of rich intellectual stimulation you will get his attention.
1. Don’t Expect Him to Chase You
Virgo men just don’t chase women, not the way other men do. The games and expected roles of romance are ones they just don’t respect or ever engage in. If a Virgo man likes you, he will take his time to collect information and see what you are all about.
Don’t think you can fool him, or manipulate him, his sharp eyes note everything and he rarely forgets a detail. If you understand this point, it will make a Virgo man chase you.
2. Be Patient
Virgo men take their time to decide that they really want from a woman, and once they do, they will do whatever it takes to keep that woman happy and be with her. Unlike some men who love the thrill of the chase and lose interest when they have made a conquest, Virgo men are the opposite.
They will only go after a woman and do whatever they can to charm her after they know she is theirs. If he truly likes you, this will make a Virgo man chase you.
3. Don’t Force Him to Choose
Virgo men don’t respond well to emotional blackmail or ultimatums. If you tell him that you need him to decide if he wants you or not, and he isn’t ready, he will back off or even end the relationship. He will believe you when you say that you can’t wait anymore or that the situation is making you miserable.
Virgo men want you to be happy, if they think they are making you unhappy then they would rather get out of your life so that you can find happiness elsewhere.
4. Make it Obvious That You Want Him
A Virgo man will only go after a woman who wants him and has made it clear. You need to be more honest than you might normally be and tell him that you find him appealing and why. He loves information, so break it down in detail.
Making yourself available does not mean making yourself easy or being pushy, it simply means being there when he is ready to make his move. If he gets the signal, it will make a Virgo man chase you.
5. Ask for His Help
Virgo men love being useful and they want to be a positive, meaningful and helpful influence in your life. Being of service, and making a real difference to your life, makes him feel confident and inspired. Don’t invent a crisis, although he is good in one, just make yourself more vulnerable than you might normally be.
6. Give Him Space
Virgo men need space where they can be alone, independent and private. This is never something that you should take personally. He doesn’t expect or wants you to drop your friends and center your life around the relationship you have with him. He wants his independence and he loves it when you assert yours.
7. Be Active
Virgo men like to be busy and just spending time with you may make him bored. Plan activities, cultural outings or projects that keep him interested and give him a reason to want to be with you. He responds well to anything that he can see as a good idea for practical reasons, so keep that in mind. Click here for more great tips on how to make a Virgo man chase you!
How do you make a Virgo man chase you? Let me know in the comment section below!
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,
Anna Kovach
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My virgo partner of 10 years left me for his ex who he was divorcing when we met. I am devistated. Is there any chance whatsoever of his coming back. If so, will your book help?
Thank you for your advice.
I’m sorry to say but no. Once a Virgo man finds his love it’s set … they can part ways a million times.. they’ll be back.
@ Chanice Odeghe… you are so right. Seen this reaction in many Virgo friends.
However, unless past partner done something very hurtful to him/ her… then yes he/ she will return. Once he figures it out that he/ she is the love of she/ he life… that’s where they’re going to be.
I will NEVER date ANY man by taking the place of another OR being 2nd.
Hi Chanice!
When a Virgo man really loves someone, it’s hard for him to wash them out of his heart. So even if he knows it’s probably not going to work, he may try again and again. He wouldn’t do this for anyone else. If it’s someone he loves but not to the extent of Soulmate, he’ll walk but for his one and only, it’s hard for him to let that go.
Im an Aquarius/Pisces i have a virgo friend we are both involved he claims he wants to be together he is always with me we never go a do or two without being together for hours at a time we talk laugh play hold great conversations but i feel he never dies what he says for me but he always wants any and everything from me he calls me his girl i have met everyone in his family that means anything to him all his childhood friends tell him why is he not with me we have never bedded i have known him almost 4 long years but for his girlfriend his is there for het and hers kids when he can be he sometimes goes out of his way i got and pick het kids up food with him she knows about me she hates me even tho we havent even really kissed he has lied to her at first about me but it was such a tangled webb that she found out the truth and we are together everyday all day i spend more time with him then she does he tries to step it up but its half assed but he never stops asking me for aide but i he keeps saying he wants to be together but he not doing anything about it but he shows up at my job he knows he dies me wrong he says it but i care for him deeply i just don’t want to waste my time do u think i have a shot but as an Aquarius u know ill hurt a little but ill get over it but we have such a deep connection its gonna be so very hard
Hi Iyesha!
It sounds like he wants to be with you but if he’s not giving you the things he promises then you need to call him out on it. Tell him he needs to be a man of his word and if he says he’s going to do something for you then he needs to fulfill that. It’s not fair for you to be the one always giving. He needs to give to you. He may be afraid to do that but he needs to work past it too. Be patient with him and loving. If you need more help though, you can check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.
I was wondering, how can you prove to a Virgo man that your trustworthy and that your not going to leave him? I have a friend who I really appreciate and needs physical affection from as well as someone to talk to. I don’t know how to show him how much I care and will be there for him.
Hi Juni! To prove to a Virgo man that you are trustworthy takes a great deal of time and effort as well as patience. You cannot hurry a Virgo man along. He has to get to know you over time and trust comes with getting to know you better. The thing is, mosts people’s timing is quite different than his. What is one month to most is like a week to him? One year is like 1 month to him. Seriously, they do not think like most, other people. That being said, give it time, patience and be there for him. He’ll come to see that you’re trustworthy and someone he wants to spend time with. If you’d like to know more about the Virgo man, check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.
So u mean once his love is set for someone even if he leaves he will ve back?
Im asking bc me and my virgo guy are wantingvto marry so but will he leave me and go back to his ex? Ges been divorced for 5 years i believe..
Thank u…Roxy
Hi Roxy,
Whether or not he’d stay with you or go back to her depends on how much he loves you. If he loves you more then he will stay by your side always. If he loves her more then she is the one who holds his heart and he may want to get back with her at some point. You have to know where his love stands and it’s probably best you ask him how much he loves you and if it’s more than her. He should tell you the truth.
My Virgo man hardly spends time with me ..he makes excuses like his car is messed up or he doesn’t feel well or something with his job ect ect .he’s consistent when texting me he hasn’t missed a day yet but physically we don’t spend enough time and he has lied to me in saying he’s coming then something ends up happening and he doesn’t show up..I’ve been with him for 5 months and still haven’t been to his place or haven’t met his mom or his friends yet..We haven’t even gone on a date yet and when he comes over it’s for two or three hrs then he leaves..he says he loves me and wants to marry me but I feel like something else is going on..he barely texts me during the day like he use to..I love him but I feel neglected with him and this is not what I want..He says he will never hurt me but he does and he doesn’t even know it and I’m not letting him know how I’m feeling because if he really loves me he would show it like I do it to him everyday..I’m just going to end up leaving him sooner or later ..
Sandra sorry to hear that. From what you’ve said and based on my own personal experience, something is definitely shady with your Virgo man. I’m currently dating a Virgo man and we’ve only known each other a month but yet I have seen him a minimum of twice a week. I’ve been to his place and I’ve also met a few friends (once, accidentally but the other time he asked me to hang with him and his friend), we’ve been on several dates. Regardless of him being a Virgo man or not, you deserve someone who will love you and treat you in the way that you want to be and deserve to be treated. In a nutshell, You deserve better than what you are getting.
Hi Pez! Thank you for your input. Virgo men are very different and there are various things that could be going on with their mental versus their emotional which can sometimes be a conflict. Not all Virgo men are the same so it’s imperative to know more about each one of them in order to asses what is going on with him. I’m glad that you’re doing well with your Virgo but that could change at any moment based on their unpredictability. It may be important for you to learn more about Virgo man as well so that you can be prepared for anything that could arise. They’re all unique and sometimes do things out of left field. It’s better to know right? Check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.
Don’t put up with that. He’s hiding something.
Hi Sandra! It sounds like your Virgo guy is confused about what he wants. What he does isn’t consistent with what he says. It’s easier for him to say all the right things when it’s via text but when he has to face it and actually live it, he cannot seem to get himself there. That means he has reservations about it and doesn’t know how to cope with what he’s doing. You will need to basically tell him that “we need to talk face to face as soon as possible” so that you can sort through everything. Tell him how you’re feeling in an honest way and then ask him what his thoughts and feelings are as well. Get on the same page and then you can figure out if you two have a future or if you should leave it alone. This has to be face to face though, not via text. Tell him it’s imperative to see him. If you’d like to know more helpful information about the Virgo man, please check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.
So me and my Virgo have known each other since we were in 3rd grade, kinda always really really liked each other, he wanted to date in middle school but i said no, we were still friends even throughout high school but he dropped out and didn’t see him again since my senior. So recently i contacted and we decided to link. We went out on a date then after things got hot everything was wonder. We link the day after things got hot again but this time it was almost a lil awkward but not that bad we was still okay i think. Next day i texted him gm but never replied even though i know he seen it because he was on Facebook. He still hasn’t texted me and it’s been almost a week. I really really like him don’t plan on living anytime soon. Or ever. How can i tell him that if he won’t talk to me and Why did he stop talking to me it’s not like we’re strangers?
I have been seeing a virgo man for 2 months now. I knew him before 2 years ago. He tried to Persue and I refused caused to me he seemed like a player. Recently when he contacted me I decided to give him a benefit of a doubt and accept his proposal. I go to his house once a week. He showed me his friends at work. But he hardly responds to my texts and calls. He is a very busy guy. But I feel there is someone else in his life. He is always texting while with me. Sometimes late nite calls. I playing it cool but am hurting so bad. Am aries. I am inlove with him. But I want to leave him. I feel neglected though our sex life is getting great everyday. What can I do. I don’t trust him. I feel am not the love of his life. He never take me for dinner or movies. Only in his bed. Can I hold on a little While? Or it’s better for me to walk out of this relationship now? Advise please.
Hi Bessy! Thank you for writing in about your painful Virgo man situation. If your Virgo guy hasn’t declared a commitment to you then he feels like a free agent. Most Virgo men do not act like players. Many of them are very old fashioned but some may be affected by moon signs or rising signs that make them a bit different than the norm. You mentioned bedding him. He probably feels he has the best of both worlds without the strings. I think you need to have the exclusivity talk to see where he stands and if he’s not down for it, walk on. You deserve better than this. You probably should learn more about the complicated Virgo man by checking out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.
Hi Liah! He may be wondering what you are feeling or thinking after the date you had and is waiting for you to reach out. If you’re waiting on him to reach out to you then perhaps you should make the 1st move to see if he replies. Shoot him a text saying hi and that you’d love to hear from him again and maybe get together soon. See what he says then you’ll figure it out from there. Either he’ll continue to ghost you (if he isn’t into it) or he’ll get back to you and let you know why he hadn’t reached out sooner. He may just be busy so give it a try. It may help you more to learn all you can about the Virgo man. Check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.
All the things you’ve written about describes him to a T but of course I did the standard stuff of expecting him to chase, hiding my true feelings, ignoring him when we had a fight and telling him I may find someone else when he asked for space. These are all advise I got from different people about how to deal with guys but looks like it’s backfired with my Virgo man. Did I ruin my chances forever? Can I ever get him back?
Hi Maryel! Thank you for writing in regarding your icky Virgo man situation. Yes, it sounds like taking other’s advice may have backfired. Virgo men typically don’t do a whole lot of chasing. They want to know that the woman they are pursuing actually wants to be with them, is open, and cares. It’s hard to say if you’ve ruined your chance forever because each Virgo man is very different. I think what you should do is open up to him with a heart to heart. Tell him how you really feel and tell him that you approached it wrong before but now you’re ready to do it the right way. Find out more about how to approach a re-connection by checking out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.
Hi, i had a virgo man ex bf ,i met him online last 2016, we had like almost 2years talking online until we met in March 2018 in japan, he flew over to japan just to met me and be official in our relationship, and then he met me again for twice in philippines last june 2018 he spent 3 weeks , We’ve been together as boyfriend girlfriend for 9months, we broke up last december 2018 , because he supposed to fly over to Philippines to meet me because i am from Philippines originally, but then i can feel that something is goin on , i was really excited that he is coming over to meet me for the 3rd time and i even made up somw surpises for him when he arrives, but then he said he needs to sort out some stuff , he is confused, he doesnt know whats wrong with him, and i ask him are you dating a new girl? And he said NO. I asked him many timesbut he said, he cant date any girl because he is inlove with me,he just needs to sort out some stuff and fix his life, and he said to me that just wait for me and i’ll come to you and find you,
Regarding to his situation he has a nice job. I dont really understand what makes him confused, but he is making me confused too, so i decided to broke up with him, he dont really wanna broke up with me but he sees that im not happy anymore so he agreed, . Almost 1 month now since we broke up, but we are still texting started last january 3, he seems like okay he been texting me regularly, make some jokes, and he even open up again to have a vacation together , and feels like i dont wanna believe anymore,
Could you help me what should i do? Thanks
But he is not closing doors for us, he is still open about where i end up, if its to other guy or him. Please Help, what should i do? Should i wait for him?
Hi sab!
I think that you need to ask him flat out “why are you cold toward me if you don’t want anyone else? Why are you confused? Should I move on?”. By asking that, he’ll have to own up and give you the love you deserve or he’ll have to tell you to move on then you can get the closure you need. I would hope he straightens himself out though and tries to work on it with you. I wish you the best sweetheart!
My virgo man has been married to his wife for 20 years and has 2 teenage children and a grandson. He separated from her in 2015 and moved in with me. We have the most amazing relationship and we click on every level of life. But last year his wife decided she wanted to try again. So every weekend since last August he would spend there. She begged him to move back in. So November of last year he did and is still there. But he still complains to me every day how he feels like he has made a huge mistake by going back there. He said things are worse then before. He says that he really only went back to make sure his kids and animals were taken of. He tells me that he feels trapped now and doesn’t know what to do. He has talked to his wife about their issues but nothing has changed as of yet and he is extremely frustrated and wants to come back to me but he doesn’t know how he can because he will just worry about his kids all the time. What can I do to help him without being too much. I’m a Taurus and he and get along better then I ever with any other man in all aspects of life. Do you think i have a chance to win him back ?
Every man will do a poor me story to keep his back up plan (you). A person can make sure
their kids are taken care of not living in that home, thousands of men do it everyday. You
can not compete with a woman he has history and kids with, especially when he left you to
go back to her. Wasted time is worse than wasted money. Do you really want to win a
man back that involves you breaking up a family? Why do you want to be second choice?
He left you and slept with another woman to work out things with her. Every couple has
low points, He has showed you that he would rather work on his low points with her than
enjoy happy moments with you. Keep in mind, when a women that “wins” a man back
from his family, ends up having trust issues with him.
Hi Donna! Thank you for writing in about your complicated Virgo man situation. Virgo men are perpetually moral typically. What I mean by this is, he feels his family is his #1 priority and was possibly afraid that if he were to deny his wife of what she wanted that she may try to yank visitation with the kids and pets. This paranoia and over thinking things made him give in to her and give her what she wants. Now he knows he made a mistake but as he said, he’s feeling stuck. He could choose to tell her it’s over and he wants to move on but he hasn’t. Until he does that then you may want to try focusing on your own path. There are lots of things that you should learn about Virgo before you continue waiting for him. If you’d like to check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.
I have been talking to a Virgo guy at school for a month and a couple weeks n anytime we fight it’s about him not being consistent he could go a whole week without talking to me if he just says good morning n good night he use to call everyday n he just hugs me in school he tells me he is sure of me but still hasn’t asked me to be his girl. He tells me he cares about me does small favors has even said he loves me but he plans no dates I’m a Taurus he tells me he knows he has to work on commutation with me but I feel like I should get distant even tho I hate the games
Hi nisa!
I wouldn’t play any games with him. I’d be straight up with what you want from him and if he cannot live up to it then you have every right to move on. He sounds immature and until he matures, he’s going to be like this. If you need a more stable relationship, you might want to try to get with another earth sign or water sign. Then perhaps you can find someone who is ready to settle down. Otherwise you’d have to be patient enough to wait for him to mature and change.
I have known this virgo guy for a month. We dated for a month and one evening he sent a text saying since we can’t get married let’s call it a quit. Till now he hasn’t told me exactly why he called off the relationship. He has no reason and I am wondering why
Hi Chisom!
I’m so very sorry this has happened to you. Sadly, there is no way to know what his reason was without him telling you. Ask him for answers. You deserve to have the truth from him and you need to have closure if he’s dead set on staying apart. Demand that he tell you exactly what happened because you need to know.
Hi, I’ve been seeing a virgo guy for a year. I’ve fallen deeply in love with him, he’s extremely caring, he texts daily, spoils me wherever he can, the sex is the best I ever had, we are both very sarcastic, we spent entire nights talking..but I ended up breaking up with him as we were never officially together and I couldn’t keep committing myself to someone who claims that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship as he is too “damaged” for it..that said, it has now been over a month and we are still texting every day! He “blames” me for ending things and pushing him away but he also doesn’t want to start seeing each other again..and I’m sorry to ask but..what is this? I truly care for him and I miss him like crazy but we are so different and I sometimes just don’t get him, like at all ! Because at times I am convinced that his behaviour tells me that he doesn’t care and then there are other times when I’m convinced he really does care..by the way I’m a cancer ascendant scorpio..in case that might help..
Hi Elli!
Your guy sounds like he has a severe insecurity issue. His self worth must be in the toilet from things i his past. This is why he would feel he’s not good enough for you or too damaged to have a relationship. He doesn’t want to hurt anyone and he doesn’t want to get hurt either. It sounds like he really does care for you though. He wanted your reassurance but you broke it off with him so he got angry and lashed out at you. He needs to be told how good he is, how loving he is, and how much you really do care for him. I know it doesn’t make sense but when they feel low about themselves, they are insecure, and they push people away even though they don’t mean it. He didn’t mean it, you ended it, he got angry and hurt. I hope this helps!
Hi Anna,
I’ve been in a committed relationship with a Virgo man (birthday is September 1) for about two years. We met on a dating app and been inseparable ever since. When we first got together, it was magical. He even mentioned that it was the happiest he had ever been. Since then, he bought us a house and two puppies, but in between all of that…so many emotional fights, verbal abuse and arguments. Fast forward to now, it has become a very toxic relationship and he has asked me to move out because he said he has become very unhealthy and he needs space and time to get back to where he wants to be mentally and physically. He said our personalities just do not mesh and he is very disappointed in the turn out of this relationship. We do have an incredible sexual chemistry – one that I have not had with anyone else.
He did mention that myself and our relationship was similar to his prior, which I get very jealous thinking about.
I am fighting so hard for our relationship because I do not want this to be the end. It’s been a very tough year for us I will agree, but nothing that can’t be adjusted if both parties are willing. I’ve begged and pleaded that he change his mind, but it doesn’t seem like he will and is still planning for me to move out. For the time that we are still together in our house, he’s been reaching out, texting, etc. and we still even hang out. He says he still cares a ton about me and loves me, but just can’t do this anymore. When I asked him about what will happen when I move out, he said he didn’t know what the future holds. What does that mean? He did tell my therapist that he didn’t think there was hope anymore. I notice that many things that he says, he acts the opposite and vice versa…so it confuses me so much as to what he is trying to tell me.
What do I do? When I move out, is there a chance we will stay in touch beyond coparenting our pups? Does he truly love me and want to improve himself to then be with me again?
For reference, I am a Libra on the cusp of Scorpio (October 21)
Hi Em!
Ouch, it hurts when they compare you to their previous relationship but somehow they cannot seem to help themselves. I don’t think they do it to hurt their partner but they say things that just come out wrong and it does actually feel like a deep cut when they do. This is something that is going to require time, patience, and great communication. You’ll have to do it with a bit of time and space as well. You cannot force the issue or he’ll totally 100% end it. Stay in touch with him, yes. In time, he’ll try to work on himself and get it together. I cannot tell you for sure he’ll be back but if you follow the advice I just gave you, he just might. I wish you all the best!
Hi Ana,
You are definitely the most insightful person when it comes to understanding Virgo men. I’m here to seek your advice. As you are probably aware, dating during Covid times has been extremely difficult to say the least. I met my Virgo man through a dating app and we talked for about a month before we met. We have been exclusively dating for 2 months now however we have not called each other boyfriend or girlfriend. Recently, our communication has not been super great. He’s been on vacation for 2 weeks and I’ve barely heard from him. I also feel like I’m the one who has to reach out most of the time to make plans. When we actually spend time together, things are great! He gives me all of his attention and seems genuinely interested in me as a person. I am starting to develop feelings (I’m a cancer) and wish we talked more. How do I express this to him without pushing him away? I’m so used to being chased and right now I feel like he is so nonchalant about everything. For example, I asked him to FaceTime while he was on vacation, and he said he could not that night and never offered an alternative time. Is he withdrawing, or am I just overthinking?
Hi Al!
Thank you for writing in. Bless you sweetheart for the kind words. One of my very best friends is marrying a Virgo man so I have a bit of extra insight there. She’s been through much with him. Virgo men can be lazy with the mundane. They see keeping in touch as that way unless they’re crazy over heels in love. I can honestly tell you that if you want more with your guy, you need to just be very honest and tell him. Virgo man wants you to tell him the truth. It makes it easier for him so then he doesn’t have to try to guess or figure it out. Virgo men don’t really chase much it seems. They know they don’t need someone to make them feel whole and so they don’t bother. Just tell him! If you need more information, please read my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.