Are you talking to a Virgo man and wondering why he never hits you up first? What is the deal with that anyways? How can you encourage him to reach out to you first? 

Hi, I’m Anna Kovach. I’ve been practicing Relationship Astrology for a while, so I know a thing or two about how Virgo men tend to operate in the talking phase of a relationship.

What can I say, they’re hard to figure out! That’s why I’m grateful that you’re here. I can help you out by providing you with my four best tips to get a Virgo man to initiate contact with you. 

It’s a bit of a process, but it’s foolproof. Keep on reading to find the answers that you’ve come here for. I’m excited for you to get that solution that you’ve been searching for. 

4 Ways To Get A Virgo Man To Initiate Contact With You

1. Drop Hints That His Texts Are Welcome

Virgos don’t like to assume anything. They are easily the least presumptuous sign when it comes to how they feel people respond to them. 

Where some signs will always believe that others would go out of their way for them, roll out the red carpet, and welcome them with open arms (I’m looking at you, Leo), Virgos tend to feel weird even requesting a cup of water. 

For this reason, Virgos can be quite shy. They don’t know if their communication with you is totally acceptable to you. As a result, you’ll notice radio silence from Virgo quite often. 

It’s frustrating if you’re someone who expects straightforward communication from your love interest. But all hope is not lost!

I have found that encouraging the Virgo man to reach out is helpful. Virgo doesn’t want to let anyone down. If you let them know that you really want them to reach out to you then you’ll see the Virgo making a bigger effort. 

2. Be Extra Receptive When He Does Reach Out

So, you’ve slyly let your Virgo love interest know that you’re open to his texts. He’s been starting up some conversations, but how do you ensure that he continues to reach out to you first? 

A Virgo is used to being the main support in a relationship. He typically does a lot of the drudge work in a relationship that is needed to keep a couple together. They get very little praise for this extra effort (typically). 

When a Virgo is going outside of his comfort zone to text you first, you can ensure that he continues to do this by acknowledging his efforts the best that you can. 

Virgos tend to work under the radar. Being seen for what they contribute to the relationship will surprise them but also keep them coming back for more.

A little positive reinforcement never hurt anyone, right? 

When your Virgo man reaches out to you first, try to respond quickly and authentically. Virgos are socially attuned and can see when an answer is just obligatory. 

Every once in a while, tell him how much you appreciate the way that he listened to your request to text first. It’s okay to call out the ways that he helps the relationship or soon-to-be relationship blossom!

Ensure that he’s not the only one initiating contact. Think about how good it feels to have someone independently think about you and reach out to you. Virgos appreciate that feeling too! 

3. Be Open To Phone Calls

Virgo men are ruled by Mercury, speedy planet of communication, efficiency, and thought processes. It’s a planet essential to living a social life in a community. 

People ruled by Mercury (like Virgos) are usually chatty, interactive, and intelligent. They’re also looking for the most structured and predictable way of going about any problem that arises throughout their days. 

This is why Virgos sometimes don’t do well in conversations that last all day long via text. While they enjoy communication, long and aimless discussions can leave Virgo men banging their head on their phone. 

Virgos often will attempt to expedite the process by dropping you a line. It’s faster to say what needs said that way and Virgos are usually okay with short, to the point phone calls. 

A lot of people have an aversion to phone calls these days. If you’re one of those people, it can take some getting used to. Recognize that a phone call from a Virgo is their best way to get what really matters in the conversation in a way that they are comfortable with.

Accepting phone calls as a form of initiating contact is going to make the Virgo a lot more comfortable reaching out to you. 

4. Be Ready To Answer Questions

Virgos are famously humble. They don’t like to keep the focus on themselves. Rather, they seek to be a guardian angel to all others around them. Hence, they’d rather talk about you and what you’re up to. 

Being willing to talk at length about yourself is crucial when talking to a Virgo man. Virgos are all about collecting information so that they can see the parts that make up a whole. When it comes to people, it’s no different.

Virgos will ask you lots and lots of questions. They want to know more about you! They like seeing all of the puzzle pieces that make up who you are as a person. They’re trying very hard to understand what all the parts add up to make. 

Asking questions is their way of unlocking the keys to different parts of you. Virgos are thorough and can’t leave any stone unturned. 

It’s okay for you to attempt to dig into their lives too. He won’t be mortally offended. Just make sure to realize that you’re going to be the primary focus for him.

When you are willing to answer questions about yourself, the Virgo wants to keep coming back for more to find the ‘whole picture.’ You’ll be securing a place for him in your inbox if you are willing to be forthcoming. 

Read next: 8 Reasons Why Women Fall For Virgo Men

Wrapping Up

Virgo men are not the easiest to get out of their shell. Their natural tendency to assume that others might not want to hear from them makes them especially difficult to entice into initiating contact. 

Despite this, letting him know your desires forthright is a great start. Complimenting his ability to change and grow for you is another winning tactic. You can expect more contact from a Virgo when you’re open to accepting phone calls as well. And being willing to fill him in on parts of your life that he’s curious about will also have him hitting you up far more often. 

Are you talking to a Virgo guy right now? Have you had a personal winning strategy to getting him to reach out first? Let me know what your method is in the comments below. 

Something I always like to acknowledge is that these articles are helpful, but sometimes they don’t get to the root of your personal relationship problems. I have created a solution in the form of my VIP Consultations. They allow me to get familiar with your personal relationship to take full advantage of everything that I’ve learned over the years. What have you got to lose?

Wishing you all the luck in the Universe, 

Anna Kovach