When will a Virgo man come back after no contact, and is there a way to make him regret pulling away in the first place? If your Virgo man has suddenly gone silent, you’re not alone — many women find themselves confused when this practical earth sign shuts down emotionally.
The good news is that silence doesn’t have to be the end. A Virgo man may retreat to process his feelings, but with the right approach, you can gently draw him back. By understanding what motivates him — and what makes him second-guess his decisions — you can spark his desire to reconnect without chasing him.
If we haven’t met yet, I’m Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer and author of Virgo Man Secrets. For over two decades, I’ve helped women all over the world understand Virgo men and learn how to bring them back after periods of distance. With the right blend of patience and strategy, you can inspire him to reach out again — and even regret letting you go.
1. Cleanse Your Life of Negativity and Clutter
Does no contact work on a Virgo man? If your Virgo man has gone quiet, you might have too much chaos in your life for this pragmatic sign. He becomes distant if you are not consistent. If you want to get him back after no contact, take an honest look at your routines. If your home or car are cluttered, start by taking time to organize and deep-clean.
Clearing your life of clutter also extends to your attitude, mind, and energy. Though Virgo men are not as sensitive to energy as their opposite sign of Pisces, men born under this sign can have a low tolerance for complaining and negativity. If you give yourself a negativity detox, your Virgo man will feel comfortable with you again.
2. Avoid Anger and Defensiveness
Similarly, sometimes Virgo men become distant if you’ve been on the defensive. This is easy to do with a Virgo guy as they can be critical perfectionists. But if you want to encourage your Virgo love to come back, avoid defensiveness.
Instead of putting walls up when he sets limits or gives you difficult feedback, try to be humble and receptive to what he has to say. Your Virgo man is not without fault, but if you are prone to impulsivity and anger, you can unintentionally turn off a Virgo guy.
3. Give Him Breathing Room
Sometimes Virgo men need space to breathe. They can be overwhelmed if you are too interested and can fade into the background when you are too eager. This can be a recipe for disaster with a Virgo man. If he’s gone quiet, give him some space.
Let your Virgo man have breathing room when he is avoiding you and more likely than not, he’ll come back when he’s ready. Virgos can be independent and they keep themselves busy. They often need space to pursue their hobbies and work. Sometimes, a Virgo guy doesn’t even realize how long he’s been silent, his absence doesn’t affect him the same way it affects women who care about him.
4. Don’t Play Mind Games
Whatever you do, avoid playing mind games with a Virgo guy. If you resort to tricks and manipulation to make him contact you, he’ll catch on. Men born under this sign are clever and astute. They know when they’re being played and have no tolerance for it. Leaving a Virgo man alone can be one of your best options, at least initially.
It’s best to be candid with a Virgo man. He needs a consistent partner and won’t trust you if you test him and push boundaries to get him back. If anything, these tactics will make him think he was right to distance himself in the first place.
5. Remain Sensible and Calm
What happens when you stop contacting a Virgo man? Your heart may race when you check your phone, but don’t let your panic show. When a Virgo man goes quiet, avoid projecting your anxiety onto him. Stay calm and grounded if you want him back. Meditate, breathe, count to ten and don’t chase him.
If you let worry and fear cloud your judgment, chances are you’ll seem too eager and make choices that scare him away. Your Virgo guy is patient and needs a partner who shares his reserved nature. Even if you don’t feel calm, stay practical and fake it while you give a Virgo guy time to come around.
6. Confide in a Therapist
Just because a Virgo guy is distant doesn’t mean you are left dealing with your feelings alone. A therapist or confidant can soothe your nerves and help you maintain perspective. You may be tempted to seek your Virgo’s validation, but seeking his approval is a mistake when he goes quiet.
Instead of looking to a Virgo to solve problems and impart wisdom, this is an ideal time to seek a counselor who can be impartial and supportive. Keep a distance and let your Virgo man have space when he goes quiet.
7. Seek His Advice (but not too soon)…
Of course, there will come a time when it’s important to seek a Virgo guy’s opinions. Sharing insight is his specialty and seeking his guidance makes him feel appreciated. But if you look to a Virgo man to help you solve problems before he’s ready, your efforts may backfire. Instead of looking to a Virgo man for support and input, give him space. Mark a random date on your calendar at least two weeks in the future.
If you don’t hear from your Virgo guy in that time frame, reach out to him. Your Virgo will appreciate the down time and he’ll want to help you solve problems once you’ve given him some space.
What to do next…
When you’re left waiting, it’s only natural to ask yourself when will a Virgo man come back after no contact or if his silence means the end.
The truth is, Virgo men often retreat to process their emotions, but that doesn’t mean his heart has let you go. With the right approach, you can remind him of the bond he still feels with you.
If you’re tired of second-guessing, my brand-new program Does He Love Me? will give you the clarity you’ve been craving. Inside, I reveal the hidden signs of real love and how to know if your Virgo man is ready to return. And if you’ve ever wondered when will a Virgo man come back after no contact, this guide will help you finally understand what’s going on beneath the surface.
You may also love my Text Magic program, which teaches you what to say to reignite his curiosity and get him reaching out first.
And for more insight into Virgo’s darker side, don’t miss my article on When a Virgo Man Disrespects You — it will give you a deeper understanding of his behavior and what to watch out for.
Before you go, tell me — have you ever given a Virgo man space and had him return more committed than before?
Or did his silence linger longer than you expected?
Sharing your story might be exactly what another woman needs to hear right now.
With love,
Your sister and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
