Let’s see, are Virgo men toxic? If you’ve ever been captivated by a Virgo man’s careful and pragmatic nature, you know there’s a lot to love about this earth Zodiac sign. However, just like the virgin maiden they’re symbolized by, their perfectionist tendencies can sometimes create unnecessary obstacles…
No sign will make you feel taken care of like a Virgo. He is amazing at being of service to his partner, and this can make you feel like you’re a princess. It’s an addicting feeling!
But what happens if their natural traits go too far, though? What are the toxic Virgo traits in the relationship? And how can you approach their toxic traits?
As a relationship astrologer, I can tell you that you are in the right spot to get some advice just for this situation! So, if you’re dating a Virgo man, here are their negative personality traits. Let’s see, are Virgo men toxic?
Are Virgo Men Toxic?
Virgo is ruled by the planet Mercury, and Mercury carries with it nervous energy passed on to Virgo. With this nervous energy, Virgos can become extremely critical.
Virgos need to have everything in place. Everything needs to be perfect for these guys, and if they perceive something as being off, they will criticize. Communication supported by criticism easily becomes challenging and turns into a toxic approach.
Virgo men are toxic, but at times they can be very frustrating. You can establish a difficult connection with your Virgo man because it brings constant tension. You may often quarrel with him and at times have unbearable communication, especially if you are talkative or proposing new ideas and opinions.
This could lead to competing with each other on an intellectual level, which brings tension, rivalry, and power struggles. This might be a burden for you…
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5 Examples Of A Virgo Man Toxic Traits In A Relationship
1. Putting Out Your Flame
Virgo men are ruled by the whip-smart Mercury, a small but mighty planet that keeps our noodles working like a fine-tuned machine. Virgos are much like that in their personalities. They have an active mind, but they don’t have a lick of romanticism or appreciation for hopes and dreams that seem out of reach.
If you’re the type of woman who is dreamy and less logical, then being with a Virgo can feel like a total wet blanket over all of your hopes. Desire world peace? “It’ll never happen; people have always been violent.” Want to get rich? “What a joke; you call in all the time!”
This toxic trait definitely doesn’t feel toxic to the Virgo man, who is not usually aware of the effect. They believe they’re giving great advice that has a dose of realism.
2. Feeling Like You’re Never Good Enough
More than any other trait on this list, this is the most common in relationships with Virgos. This is because their ruler Mercury is great at picking up on the flaws in a machine to get everything moving smoothly and efficiently. As a result, they are very good at finding what’s wrong so that perfection can be achieved.
What the Virgos forget is that human beings aren’t meant to be perfect and there will always be areas that every human is “failing” in. Pointing out everything keeping their partner from perfection is going to simply make their partner feel bad while disempowering them to make change in the first place!
3. Lack Of Appreciation For You
Virgo men have a hard time feeling grateful for anything because, in their minds, they have nothing to be grateful for until everything is absolutely perfect. The catch is that nothing will ever be perfect, so they find themselves having a hard time appreciating the people around them.
A Virgo will be far more likely to offer “I see that you’re doing x thing again” rather than “wow, I saw how hard you tried not to do x thing again; you’re really making progress.” This can leave you feeling like all of your efforts just don’t matter at the end of the day, even if you’re trying very hard.
I would counter any Virgo critique with the ways that you’re improving. The Virgo doesn’t naturally see this as easily as what still needs improvement.
4. You Feel He Is Watching You
A Virgo is very much of the mindset that if someone else can’t do it, then they’ll just do it themselves. Since they know that they’ll do any action up to their very high standards, they just trust themselves to do it more than others, likely including you.
If the Virgo is like this, then you may find yourself not doing a lot of work because the Virgo will do a lot of it. If this is because they’re the kind of Virgo that shows love through service (there are many of them!) then enjoy your time off and your vacation courtesy of the Virgo!
However, Virgos also might just be afraid that you’ll screw something up, so they just go ahead and do the action themselves! This can leave you feeling incapable and incompetent. You can feel disempowered to take action because Virgo is so good at taking it for you.
5. They Use Their Helpfulness Against You
A Virgo is naturally helpful for more than one reason. They love to be of service to others, and as we’ve discussed, they often feel like they’re going to do the job better than anyone else, including you. This is another toxic Virgo man trait.
This can be a problem when they begin to talk about how they do everything and you do nothing while ignoring the fact that they often have a huge hand to play in the setup as it is!
They could also use their helpfulness as a way to get you to depend on them.
Read also: Warning Signs A Virgo Man Is Playing You
How To Deal With A Toxic Virgo Man (Follow These Easy Ways)
If your Virgo man nitpicks you, and this has you feeling like a failure, then it’s time to bring this to his attention. Virgo isn’t evil, and they don’t want to make you feel bad. They really want to improve everything around them. So, if you explain to him the ways he can be most helpful to you that don’t make you feel bad, then he will likely be on board.
When you bring attention to the ways that you have improved or the ways you are totally rocking it out, then it forces the Virgo to rethink his approach to your progress.
With enough time for you to appreciate all of your own progress, your Virgo man will be left with no choice but to also see what a Rockstar you’ve become.
If you’re a strong-willed woman, then it’s okay to tell him to take a step back. Just because something isn’t done to his standards doesn’t mean the world will spontaneously combust, and he’ll learn that eventually.
He loves the feeling of being depended upon and in a way. Don’t let it happen! Make sure you’re doing what you need to be doing so that you keep your power. This also tells your Virgo man that he can focus on his own issues instead of yours.
So, here is how to deal with a toxic Virgo man:
- Explain why you need his support
- Tell him to take a step back and reflect on the situation
- Be patient and give him space
- Don’t be dependent on him
FAQs On Virgo Men Toxic Traits
How to know if you can handle a Virgo man’s toxic traits? Well, luckily for you I have compiled questions that might come up in your relationship. Hopefully, this can help you navigate your relationship with your Virgo man.
What Are The Negative Traits Of A Virgo Man?
The Virgo man’s ego is extremely sensitive, and he cannot handle criticism and rejection. He is prone to criticizing others a lot, which is a very negative trait. He sees imperfection in others, and yet he thinks he is a perfect man.
Virgos are workaholics. They will not come home until every task is checked off their list and every problem is solved at the office. This will take away your time with him because he often carries his work home until he checks all the boxes.
Virgos have naturally obsessive-compulsive personalities. Everything has to be neat, orderly, and perfectly in place.
Last but not least, Virgo men are introverts. They like to keep to themselves as much as possible. Most of the time you spend together will be at home or possibly in nature with no one around.
Why Are Virgo Men Toxic?
If you are wondering if Virgos are toxic in a relationship, you need to know that Virgo men are control freaks, and as such, they can be very manipulative. They are commitment-phobic and transfer their insecurities to their significant other with criticism and toxicity.
This makes them toxic. They could be self-absorbed and extremely detached. If not handled well, they can seriously damage your confidence.
Some Virgo men can be pretty obsessive and neurotic; these are the types of guys who tend to be very committed but also very controlling.
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Are Virgo Men Players? Can You Trust A Virgo Man?
In my opinion, Virgo men are some of the best guys to date, as they are very caring and sensitive toward a woman’s needs. They make very good romantic partners, but there is a side to them that can be a little neurotic and confusing.
So I can totally understand if you are wondering, “Are Virgo men players?” You must’ve noticed that the Virgo man might change his mind often or come across as quite indecisive, and as the woman dating him, this is probably quite confusing.
Virgo men are not players. But of course, there are always outliers in a group, and some Virgo men are players, but this is definitely rare.
End Anxiety About Your Virgo Man…
It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with a Virgo man who won’t commit.
I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Virgo guys.
I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her. She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.
As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that.
But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him. Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.
How could she just give up on that?
But it wasn’t easy.
It took a LOT of work.
She had to learn how to speak a different language… Virgo man’s love language.
And it worked!!!
So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Virgo man is MADLY in love with you… And never feel anxious about him again…