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How Much Space And Time Does a Virgo Man Need

How much space and time does a Virgo man need? You’ve just started dating a Virgo man and things feel like they’re moving at a snail’s pace. Why is he taking so much time to get things moving?

So, you may be wondering: How much space and time does a Virgo man need?

Here are some helpful hints:

Virgo Men Move Slow

In most articles you read, you’ll notice the common theme that Virgo men like to take their time rather than dive right into a relationship. They want to get to know you first.

He will want to figure out if you’re the woman that will fit into and complement his life. This requires lots of time and digging. What I mean by digging is asking you 101 questions about you.

Like most other people, he’s afraid of getting hurt. He will take his time and make sure that you’re the one he wants to fully commit himself to. Virgo men love hard when they love.

It will take him a bit of time until he feels comfortable enough to be himself and love someone in that way. Once he does, the floodgates open. How long that will take is going to depend on the guy himself.

There isn’t any set time frame that anyone Virgo man will adhere to. Some want a significant amount of time and some require considerably less. It depends on the woman, the circumstances, and his level of life experience.

If he finds someone he trusts immediately (very rare), he may consider opening up and letting himself flow. However, most will take more time than that to let on what they’re feeling. So, to actually answer this question: how much time and space do Virgo men need – may be tricky.

Space Due To Problems

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In the case where you’ve hurt his feelings or pissed him off in some way, there is no way to wager how long he will remain pulled back or cold toward you. He does need personal space to figure that out.

For some, it may be a few days. For others, it may take weeks. It’s going to depend on how deep the wound or sleight is for him. Just like anyone; it will take him some time to heal.

He is a sensitive guy and his feelings can get hurt fairly easily. At times they can be like giant children that get hurt feelings at the drop of a hat. Some of them may get offended quickly as well.

You never know when you may tick him off or hurt his feelings. You’re better off giving him the time he needs to get to know you. If you don’t, these are the types of things that may occur if you’re not careful.

It may give you a feeling of walking on eggshells. However, the more you get to know about him, the more you realize what he needs and/or wants. This allows you to figure out if it’s ultimately what you want as well.

Personal Time and Space

Many, not all Virgo men require personal space and time to themselves. It’s a healthy process that allows him to remain who he is so that he’s able to continue moving down the right track with his partner.

The Virgo man requires a woman who will allow him to have a bit of wiggle room. He’ll also want for her to be the type of woman who is independent and will want her own space as well.

Being able to spend a little time apart doing your own thing; will ensure that the two of you can come back together and share the fun things you did. It’s healthy and it will help you two maintain a really good groove.

How much personal freedom does he require? Normally it’s not too much. Perhaps a guys night once a week or something like that is typically all he’ll ask. However, some may require more.

If you want to know how much space and time a Virgo man needs, get to know YOUR Virgo guy. No matter if he’s upset or if he just wants time to himself; you’ll get to know your guy so that you can accommodate his feelings as well as nurture your own.

Is a Virgo Man Inconsistent?

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If your Virgo man is being somewhat inconsistent when it comes to the time he wants to take for himself, you’ll need to work with him to find some sort of compromise.

He needs to understand that if he wishes to have a “routine” in his relationship or marriage he’ll need to be part of that process. He cannot just expect you to do all the bending.

Let him know you need him to be more consistent and not random with when he wants space. He’ll most likely comply with what you want as to keep the peace and happiness between you two.

Many sites and articles make him out to be very complicated and difficult but honestly; if you take the time to actually KNOW him; he’s not as bad as he’s made out to be.

He definitely has things he’s picky about and he is sensitive. So, how much space and time does a Virgo man need: he wants what he wants and doesn’t want to get hurt.

That’s the simplest thing I can say about him. If you want to know how much time and space a Virgo man needs, the best thing you can do is communicate with him.


He appreciates and responds the best to the woman who actually will open up and talk to him about what she feels rather than making him guess or assuming he should know. Trust me, he doesn’t know. He isn’t a mind reader.

Since he’s not good at taking mind games; it’s more beneficial to just tell him the truth and let him know what you need from him. By doing this you open up the door and have a better chance of success.

If you’d like to learn even more about the Virgo man, what he wants in bed, how to turn him on or get him to fall in love with you; check out my guide to his heart. Reading the “Virgo Man Secrets will help you develop techniques and steps you can take to make him yours forever.

What do you think? How much time and space does a Virgo man need?


Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

19 thoughts on “How Much Space And Time Does a Virgo Man Need

  1. Hi so I started seeing this Virgo male who happens to be 23 years old. Same age as me. This guy when I saw him on the first date he asked me to give him a massage which led to an aggressive sex. Which I didn’t want to have but it happened again though. And then again when I kept letting him know that I don’t want to have sex but I would love to hang out with you and he seems to be saying that it’s okay. And on our 2nd hang out he snuck me into his house and gets naked and we have sex and after sex we start having a massage and then again he tells me that we have to leave. After that the 3rd time I told him no sex then he tells me that I have to give him a massage and which I do and then later on we have sex and then we happen to spend 3 hours together. After that, what we do is he asked me if I was hungry and then he tells me that I have to pay for it which I do. Then later on we eat in a car and asked him if he ever spent time with someone like this. He says with confidence no!. He seems to enjoy it with me. Later on I texted him asked him that this is just purely sexual right. He says ya. So I sent him a long text messages that “I think we should also stop seeing each other. It was nice meeting you. So it’s better to end this before things starts to get messier. I don’t want to be your fuck buddy. I want to have a good friendship relationship and see where it goes from there. But you never gave me that chance. If you think you are open to that let me know. I will be ready to see you. Until then it’s better we don’t see each other.”
    After he didn’t return my text at all it’s been 1 day now. Will he ever come back to me and have a relationship with me?
    Will he ever reply my texts or he won’t ever again. Please help.

    1. You need to have more confidence in yourself. This guy is young ! Who wants to be tied down at only 23 years old. If someone that wants what you want: A committed relationship. He doesn’t want that so move on and live on my friend 🙂

    2. Hi Suchita!

      Ok, if he’s pushing you for sex then he’s not into you for anything else sweetheart. It sounds like he has some kind of addiction or something and is trying to use you for it. If he cannot spend time with you without sex then something is definitely wrong. I’m glad you told him that you don’t want to be a friend with benefits. He did’t return your message because you were right and he was busted. Sadly he probably won’t return to you because all he wanted was a good time in the sack with you. BTW, a Virgo man who actually loves you, wouldn’t try to get you to have rough sex if you weren’t comfortable with it. This guy didn’t care about your feelings which is another reason to just turn your back and move on from him.

      1. Hi there (^^,)

        I am a capricorn.

        I have been talking to a virgo man for 2 months. It was flirting sometimes and serious talk.

        I met him the 1st time when I went to his house. There was intense sexual tension between us but we didnt act on it.
        He talked alot but mostly businessand some about his x when I asked why they ended things.

        Then after that we talked on the phone for another 5 months but not everyday. He initiated mostly.

        Then the 2nd time we met he took me to his friends house. Apon arrival and taking our things to our room he kissed me.That night he begun to relax around me and touched and held me alot!
        The same night we spent the night over at his friends house. We all went to bed after having the low key party and then he started initiating sex. When it was time to actually doing it he mentioned that we should stop before going to far.
        I immediately straddled him and we had sex.
        When we slept that night he would also cuddle me.

        That morning we all had breakfast and we were outside alone waiting for the others to join us for almost 10 minutes then he mentioned that he is going to do something cute for me on valantines day the comming year which would be 2021 and 8 mnts from now.He was still touching and holding me alot.

        Later that day on our way to my home he mentioned that he was planning on taking me along on a vacation with his parents.
        He dropped me off at my place then a day afterwords the messages got strange.

        Now he just asks me how I am doing and that he hopes I am having a great day. Then when I reply he doesnt even read for days and then when he eventually does reply its the same thing over again.
        But I should mention that he did apologized and said that his business is keeping him very busy if that is worth anytything at all. But he finds time to be on fb!!

        This weekend which is 4 days from now. Him and I are going with his friends to a secluded farm for the weekend to just enjoy ourselves. His friends invited me along.

        I am a capricorn woman reading all this things on a virgo man possibility thinking me through before moving on into a relationship and wanting his personal space.
        To be honnest I don’t like what all the negative traits I read about virgo men from other woman commenting on forums.

        I like him alot and I like attention from a man to just show me he is interested in me so I can be sure. But this virgo doesnt do this at all which gives me mixed signals on whether he sees me as a relationship kinda girl or not.

        I am giving so much detail because I would hate to waste my time or get hurt by this man or any other for that matter.

        I want to know if I should end it with this man before I love him or should I say out loud what I am feeling for him so it is clear to him I am interested in him.

        I do not want to get hurt so desperately!

        Please help!!

        1. Hi CC!

          Just remember that not all Virgo men are the same sweetheart. He may have details in his chart that make him more sweet, secure, and less critical. You never know what you’re going get unless you give it a chance first. I just read a story about a Capricorn woman with a Virgo man who she’s completely in love with and treats her very well. So there you go. Sometimes it works but you don’t know unless you take the risk. It’s really that way with all relationships. If you would like to know more, please read my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  2. Yes, Virgo men are sooo slow. My first love was a Virgo man….18 years ago. I put my heart out on the line and then was greeted with silence. So, I moved on. He still messaged occasionally, but I had closed the door on anything more than friendship. Fast forward from him 8 more years and I worked with another Virgo and we had a mutual attraction. He is older than me and had already had a messy marriage and divorce and said he wasn’t ever going that route again, so we just had sex sometimes–or so I thought. If I knew more about Virgos, I would have seen there were more signs. Fast forward again, I’ve been married with kids and BOTH of these Virgos still remain in contact as friends, asking for updates with pictures of my family and talking a few times a year, if that often. Then I mention that I’m getting divorced and they both spring on me confessing their love all these years and how they made mistakes in not choosing to be with me. So 18 years for one and 12 the other. Too bad it backfired for them both because I’m done with men.

    1. Hi Hannah Tchobanoff!

      Yes mam. Virgo men are methodical and old fashioned. They like courting a woman. I’m not at all surprised by what you’ve shared with me. I completely understand your frustrating. I hope you don’t mean you’re done forever though. You shouldn’t be alone because of a couple of let down men. Hang in there sweetheart!

  3. Hi, I was seeing a Virgo man for about 8 months on and off as we were both in other relationships but my relationship was over anyway and it was just a case of me waiting on him to move out. So the Virgo mans relationship broke down a few months after that and we got back together but not for long again and he now said he’s not ready to commit as he has a lot to deal with. I have asked if we will pick the relationship back up but never had a straight answer back just that he has a lot to think about. We still say hi on the passing but that’s it so I don’t know where I stand with him. Do I give him more time as it’s been a few weeks now or am I just holding on to false hope?

    1. Hi Maria!

      If he’s going through things and trying to figure himself out then it could take a while for him before he’s ready to be relationship ready. I think you should develop a good friendship with him and then see where it leads you. It may help bring you back to one another once he gets past whatever it is he feels he needs to work on. Yes, give him more time but be friendly. Read more about Virgo in my series “Virgo Man Secrets”.

      1. Hii,

        I started my relationship with Virgo friend from school as LDR. He ghosted me after 6 months saying there’s no future.
        Again after 6 months he came back saying he still loves me. We started dating again. It was LDR.
        After a few months my ex pretended to be him and texted me. We had a quarrel over this and again had a breakup.
        After 2 months I finally shifted to his city. We met once had sex too after that he started avoiding me. Things became normal Then he moved to his village and preparing for competitive exams now. So again we are in LDR.

        He had an ex who had betrayed him so he has trauma over that. Now again my ex texted me and him too. Things have again gone messy. He’s not talking to me. He’s definitely has major trust issues. He neither says he’s into me nor he says he hates me.

        It’s all so messed up. Should I wait for him? How should I make him believe I still love him.

        He’s not replying to my texts and calls. I already said probably i would contact him after his entrance exam is over.
        Please suggest.

  4. Hey,Anna! I am a scorpio women and my man is virgo we have a smooth relationship from the past 5 years but now he is only wanting space he said that i am emotional what to do in that case?

    1. Hi Priya Aher!

      Well in all honesty, Scorpios or the other water signs are known to be sensitive and emotional. While you may not realize it, he’s seeing it and he doesn’t like it much. The thing is, I think your Virgo may be using this as an excuse to pull back. The way to give him some space is start making plans with your friends or things you can do alone. Give him that space. Try to make less time for him. That will shake him and make him realize he needs and wants you. I know it’s hard to do but if you are able to pull it off, he will not ask for space again. It’s important to always keep an independent life from him though because he does need space sometimes naturally. Let him go camping or whatever by himself. He’ll really appreciate it! I wish you all the luck of the universe!

      1. Yes, right now I am giving him space he said he just want spend some time alone and even I told him that in this period we will not talk he came to talk to me but I didn’t talk it right na ? Any suggestion if you have please tell.

        1. Hi Priya!

          I’d love to keep giving you answers but I have so much to do and I’m only one person. If you need more assistance please consider purchasing some of my guides on Virgo man. You’ll get a free VIP consultation via email if you decide to do that. I wish you all the best !

  5. I love virgo man so much. He is so possessive for me. And again and again he take space. He get frustrated without any my fault. He take space because in their mind what’s going on I don’t know he ignore messages. Don’t talk with me or calls me. Only just Said that I want space. I don’t understand what can I do plz help me .

    1. Hi Krishna padhiyar!

      Goodness he’s giving you a run around. Tell him you don’t like whatever game he’s playing. Tell him that if he wants you then he needs to be more consistent. Space is good but not if it’s too often. Possessive or jealousy isn’t good though. Try to create healthy boundaries for yourself and please check out my guides on Virgo Man Secrets. I wish you all the very best!

  6. I am cancer. And he is Virgo. My relationship with him from 5 years my Virgo man wants freedom. He said that he didn’t like everyday calls from time to time he feels it’s his responsibility to calls or messages me. In the starting he was called me like mad and now I think he get bored from all these things what should I do

  7. He is virgo man and I am cancer woman. We are in relationship from 5 years. In starting he used to call or message every day but now a days he said that he feel like his responsibility like calls and messages. He said that I love you so much but he wants freedom. He doesn’t wants everyday calls and messages. What can I do plz help me

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