Virgo men are an interesting bunch of fellows… This sign is ruled by the planet Mercury, this is the planet of communication and intelligence. This sign loves to connect, however, will a Virgo man reach out first?
The thing with Virgo men is that they can be a little passive at times, they don’t have an intense force like a Scorpio or Aries man. They prefer to respond to the signals that show a woman is interested before they make the first move.
This is a shyness that have. This might make you wonder “do Virgos make the first move?” If you’re waiting around for him to text you, this might be the reason why you haven’t heard from him yet… He needs to know that you are interested first, but, more on that later.
Are you curious to find out should you text a Virgo man first, or is it best to wait it for him to reach out? Then this is the article you need to read! Keep on reading to find out more about Virgo men and if they make the first move.
Do Virgo Men Make The First Move?
A Virgo man is innately quite shy. This stems from him being quite insecure and unsure of himself. Have you ever noticed how a Virgo will often pass criticism on to others? This comes from him trying to deflect his own flaws because he feels so insecure and unsure of himself.
So when a Virgo man feels the pressure of being attracted to a woman and wanting to get close to her, he often really gets into his head about it. If you didn’t know this, Virgo men can be quite neurotic and anxious. Especially when they really care about something.
This anxiety can be so intense for a Virgo man that he will often pick himself apart and get in his own way that he never even ends up getting the girl because he worked himself up so much.
If you’re dealing with a Virgo man, then don’t expect him to make the first move as this might be a bit much for him. But if you like him, then you can drop subtle hints to give him the greenlight to show him that you are interested. Here’s how to show a Virgo man that you’re interested (without seeming needy) <<
Will A Virgo Man Reach Out? Or Does He Wait For Me To Reach Out First?
Across the Room: Who Makes the First Move?
Virgo men can be reluctant to go out of their way and make the first move. It’s not because he doesn’t want to. It’s that he doesn’t want to waste any time on someone who may not want him.
This means that if you’re interested in him, you’ll need to actually find a way to let him know you’re into him. Flirt with him, talk to him, gently touch him on the arm or shoulder.
Figure out a clever and witty way to reach out to him so that he definitively knows that you are genuinely interested. At first; he may question your motives. After he starts talking to you, he’ll figure out if you’re for real or have false intention.
Here’s how to flirt with a Virgo man and make eye contact <<
While not all Virgo men subscribe to the same tactics, most of them will want you to let them know that it’s alright for him to come onto you. Once you let him know you like him, he’ll take it from there.
If you haven’t yet met him but have been watching him, find a reason to get nearby him and make some conversation. Once you’re comfortable, you can touch his hand, laugh at his jokes, and give him your “come hither” eyes.
The Next Move
Once you let him know that you have an interest in getting to know him, he should take it from there and begin calling you, asking you out for coffee, or even out for lunch.
He may at first get your number and start text messaging you. He wants to ask you a million and one questions to begin assessing who you are and what you want in your life.
Ultimately, a Virgo will not take an interest in someone with whom he doesn’t feel some sort of chemistry.” He will have “friendly” dates at first. During this time, he’ll figure out if you’re someone he wants to get closer to or not.
There are some Virgo men who may have different moon signs, which could make them want you to take the lead. He should make it pretty obvious to you and quickly what he will want. If he makes the first move, it will depend on him.
Taking Over the Chase
Most Virgo men like the chase. If you’re too easy or open up too much, he’ll get bored. However, if you’re going to allow him to chase you, you cannot seem too uninterested or unavailable.
If you act as though you aren’t all that into it, he’ll think you’re being serious and he’ll go ahead and move on. It’s not worth the risk if you really like him. Pull back just a little bit though.
What I mean by that is, let him take the lead. You can text him good morning but then let him talk from there. He’ll likely want to give you a call as many Virgo men actually want to hear your voice.
He analyzes the way you speak and how you answer questions. It’s part of his “getting to know you” process. Text messages can sometimes be misconstrued and that’s something he doesn’t want to happen.
If he’s the kind of Virgo that wants you to do the chasing and the work, he’ll let you know by gently pulling back and wait for you to text or call him first. He’ll say something like “I think you should call me”. If he makes the first move, you’re lucky.
Once you see he is like this, you should then go ahead and start reaching out a bit more to him. It lets him know that you’re very interested in getting to know who he is and where things can go between you.
Playing Cat and Mouse
Basically, when it comes to Virgo men, it takes a bit of chasing from both sides. If you try to pull back via not answering texts right away, not accepting his calls, or not calling him back, you’d be making a grave mistake.
He will take this as an insult and that you don’t like him. He’ll withdraw and either pull back from you or he’ll go ahead and call it quits so he can find someone else who will be there for him.
Ultimately, a Virgo man is looking for the right match that will stay with him through the duration of time. He wants loyalty and commitment. He isn’t one to take dating lightly.
If he blesses you with his attention, he apparently sees something that can become very strong and amazing between you two. He doesn’t play games either. He is above doing that. It’s best that you don’t implement any.
While it may seem like it’s a dance of sorts, the two of you flirting back and forth should ultimately lead somewhere of significance. If he makes the first move will depend on what he thinks of you.
He Needs a Little Push
He’s a delicate soul that needs a bit of prompting and yet given the tools to pursue you as you pursue him. It’s more of an equal thing.
I’ve had some clients write in and say that their Virgo sometimes doesn’t text back and feels a bit cold. They do require a bit of personal space and as long as you give it to them, they’ll give you the moon.
This romantic guy needs his equal. It’s up to you to see if you’re ready for the challenge of doing the wonderful “courting dance” that will be done in getting to know him for who he really is.
Hopefully, this gives you a good idea of what it’s like to get a Virgo man and how to get him to want you.
So, who makes the first move depends on both of you.
A Virgo Man Doesn’t Initiate Contact — What Does It Mean?
When a Virgo man doesn’t initiate contact it can mean a multitude of things, it really depends on where you are in your relationship with him if it is something you need to be worried about or not.
If you just met him and he doesn’t initiate contact, then it probably means that he is shy and unsure if you want him to reach out to you. He could be suffering from self-doubt and uncertainty about where your head is at.
However, if you and your Virgo man have an established connection and been on quite a few dates, and he isn’t initiating contact with you, then this is something you might have to be concerned about.
He may have learned that the two of you are incompatible and wants to do the slow fade so that you get the message that he is no longer interested in you.
However, if you reach out to him and he responds in a happy and enthusiastic way, then he might just be a little shy and want you to be the one to initiate the contact. Feel it out and see what you think it means.
Will A Virgo Man Text You First?
As I have mentioned before, it is very rare for a Virgo man to text first because he can be a little insecure and shy if he isn’t sure of how you feel about him. He needs a green light to know that it is okay to pursue you.
This is a man who takes consent very seriously and the last thing he wants is to come across as a creep. This is why I think it is very important for you to make it fairly obvious to him that you are interested.
This will give him the go-ahead to know that he is welcome to text you first. But you might have to suck it up and text him first to break the ice. It is better to find out if he is actually interested in you than to keep guessing.
Are you considering texting your Virgo man first? Well, check out my quiz to see if you should text him or not << This should help you make a decision! Are you ready to take matters into your own hands? This should give you some guidance!
How To Get A Virgo Man To Initiate Contact With You?
1. Drop Hints That His Texts Are Welcome
Virgos don’t like to assume anything. They are easily the least presumptuous sign when it comes to how they feel people respond to them.
Where some signs will always believe that others would go out of their way for them, roll out the red carpet, and welcome them with open arms (I’m looking at you, Leo), Virgos tend to feel weird even requesting a cup of water.
For this reason, Virgos can be quite shy. They don’t know if their communication with you is totally acceptable to you. As a result, you’ll notice radio silence from Virgo man quite often.
I have found that encouraging the Virgo man to reach out is helpful. Virgo doesn’t want to let anyone down. If you let them know that you really want them to reach out to you then you’ll see the Virgo making a bigger effort.
If you want to master a Virgo man’s texting style and know what the best texts are to send your Virgo man then there is only one thing you should do. Check out my Virgo Text Magic Guide <<
2. Be Extra Receptive When He Does Reach Out
So, you’ve slyly let your Virgo love interest know that you’re open to his texts. He’s been starting up some conversations, but how do you ensure that he continues to reach out to you first?
A Virgo is used to being the main support in a relationship. He typically does a lot of the drudge work in a relationship that is needed to keep a couple together. They get very little praise for this extra effort (typically).
When a Virgo is going outside of his comfort zone to text you first, you can ensure that he continues to do this by acknowledging his efforts the best that you can.
When your Virgo man reaches out to you first, try to respond quickly and authentically. Virgos are socially attuned and can see when an answer is just obligatory.
Every once in a while, tell him how much you appreciate the way that he listened to your request to text first. It’s okay to call out the ways that he helps the relationship or soon-to-be relationship blossom!
Learn more about what a Virgo man wants in a relationship here <<
3. Be Open To Phone Calls
Virgo men are ruled by Mercury, speedy planet of communication, efficiency, and thought processes. It’s a planet essential to living a social life in a community.
This is why Virgos sometimes don’t do well in conversations that last all day long via text. While they enjoy communication, long and aimless discussions can leave Virgo men banging their head on their phone.
Virgos often will attempt to expedite the process by dropping you a line. It’s faster to say what needs said that way and Virgos are usually okay with short, to the point phone calls.
A lot of people have an aversion to phone calls these days. But, recognize that a phone call from a Virgo is their best way to get what really matters in the conversation in a way that they are comfortable with.
Accepting phone calls as a form of initiating contact is going to make the Virgo a lot more comfortable reaching out to you.
Read next: Possible Reasons Why A Virgo Man Ignores Your Text Messages
4. Be Ready To Answer Questions
Virgos are famously humble. They don’t like to keep the focus on themselves. Rather, they seek to be a guardian angel to all others around them. Hence, they’d rather talk about you and what you’re up to.
Being willing to talk at length about yourself is crucial when talking to a Virgo man. Virgos are all about collecting information so that they can see the parts that make up a whole. When it comes to people, it’s no different.
Virgos will ask you lots and lots of questions. They want to know more about you! They like seeing all of the puzzle pieces that make up who you are as a person. They’re trying very hard to understand what all the parts add up to make.
When you are willing to answer questions about yourself, the Virgo wants to keep coming back for more to find the ‘whole picture.’ You’ll be securing a place for him in your inbox if you are willing to be forthcoming.
How Long Does It Take For A Virgo Man To Ask You Out?
As I have mentioned befire, Virgo men are very shy and this often influences them in a major way when it comes to dating. It can take them ages to ask a woman out because they are so shy.
A Virgo man will want everything to perfect and to feel assured that they won’t be rejected. This is why a Virgo man needs a lot of greenlights and reassurance that you are actually going to say yes when he asks you out!
So to answer this question, expect the Virgo man to take his time asking you out. However, you will need to make it obvious to him that you actually do want to go on a date with him. You can do this by making subtle hints that you like him and want to spend time with him.
Will A Virgo Man Come Back After No Contact?
A Virgo man will come back after no contact, but this really depends on the relationship you had with him. Were the two of you in quite a serious relationship, or was it more of a fling?
This will definitely influence the way he sees you and the attachment he has to you. If there was a strong connection and you disappear, then he is definitely going to wonder what happened to you.
This is when he will contact you. However, don’t expect to hear from him if the relationship you had was fleeting and not very serious. Remember, Virgo men hate wasting time, be that yours or his.
So if he really feels like things don’t really have the potential of going anywhere in your relationship, then he probably won’t pursue you again.
Read next: What To Do When A Virgo Man Goes Silent Or Distant
Will A Virgo Man Lead You On?
A Virgo man is one of the more respectful signs in the Zodiac. The Virgo man tends to be more honourable than other guys and won’t do anything to hurt you intentionally.
A Virgo man isn’t likely going to lead you on as he is quite straightforward and usually knows what he wants. If he wants a relationship then he’ll go for it, if he doesn’t he will let you know!
But, my best advice is always for you to trust your gut and follow your own instincts. If something feels off, it probably is!
How Do You Know If A Virgo Man Is Playing You? << Check Out Here
If Your Virgo Man Pulls Away, DON’T Do This…
I’ve heard from so many of my clients that their Virgo man is AMAZING when they are in person with him… So charming, sweet, funny, and really connected!
But he can tend to pull away when you’re not with him.
It’s a super frustrating situation for any woman. And if you are like my other clients who have been through this, you’re probably feeling REALLY confused.
“Why is he so hot and cold through text?”
“Why does he back off when we aren’t together?”
And most importantly… “What can I DO about this?”
First, I want to share the things you definitely should NOT do in this situation…
- Don’t get clingy or needy and ask him if something is wrong or beg to see him
- Don’t force closure if you’ve had some conflict. Wait until you can talk in person about important issues. Text can EASILY lead to miscommunication.
- Don’t assume that there IS a problem. He could just be really busy.
- Don’t let fear drive your actions. Assume the best and not the worst.
- Don’t chase him. Chase your dreams and goals instead.
- Don’t stalk him on social media. Give him space.
- Don’t get upset with him or freak out. This will only push him away.
So what SHOULD you do instead?
- Take some time out to reflect on the situation and consider logical reasons for his actions.
- Date other men if you aren’t exclusive. Don’t lock yourself down with him if you aren’t yet in a committed relationship with him.
- Give him space and time with zero pressure. He might be overwhelmed with work or not be feeling well.
Your Virgo man should be the sprinkles on the cupcake of your awesome life, not the cupcake itself. Let him reach out to you when he’s ready. Virgo men like to lead. You need to let him do that!
Text can be challenging, and I don’t want you to feel alone in this. I don’t want you to lie in bed unable to sleep because you are worried about why your Virgo man is pulling away.
And there is no need for you to do that.
Especially when I can guide you on how to deeply connect with his heart through text messages…
Because when you know SPECIFICALLY what to text him based on his astrology…
He WON’T be pulling away anymore. And you’ll never again have to worry about what to say to your lovely Virgo man through text anymore.
Go see what I mean here now so he never pulls away again <<