Will A Virgo Man Reach Out First? Find Out Here

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Have you found a Virgo man completely irresistible and wondering what you can do to get near him? Will a Virgo man reach out? Find out here...

Virgo men are an interesting bunch of fellows… This sign is ruled by the planet Mercury, this is the planet of communication and intelligence. This sign loves to connect, however, will a Virgo man reach out first? 

The thing with Virgo men is that they can be a little passive at times, they don’t have an intense force like a Scorpio or Aries man. They prefer to respond to the signals that show a woman is interested before they make the first move. 

This is a shyness that have. This might make you wonder “do Virgos make the first move?” If you’re waiting around for him to text you, this might be the reason why you haven’t heard from him yet… He needs to know that you are interested first, but, more on that later. 

Are you curious to find out should you text a Virgo man first, or is it best to wait it for him to reach out? Then this is the article you need to read! Keep on reading to find out more about Virgo men and if they make the first move.

Do Virgo Men Make The First Move?

A Virgo man is innately quite shy. This stems from him being quite insecure and unsure of himself. Have you ever noticed how a Virgo will often pass criticism on to others? This comes from him trying to deflect his own flaws because he feels so insecure and unsure of himself. 

So when a Virgo man feels the pressure of being attracted to a woman and wanting to get close to her, he often really gets into his head about it. If you didn’t know this, Virgo men can be quite neurotic and anxious. Especially when they really care about something. 

This anxiety can be so intense for a Virgo man that he will often pick himself apart and get in his own way that he never even ends up getting the girl because he worked himself up so much. 

If you’re dealing with a Virgo man, then don’t expect him to make the first move as this might be a bit much for him. But if you like him, then you can drop subtle hints to give him the greenlight to show him that you are interested. Here’s how to show a Virgo man that you’re interested (without seeming needy) <<

Will A Virgo Man Reach Out? Or Does He Wait For Me To Reach Out First?

Across the Room: Who Makes the First Move?

Virgo men can be reluctant to go out of their way and make the first move. It’s not because he doesn’t want to. It’s that he doesn’t want to waste any time on someone who may not want him.

This means that if you’re interested in him, you’ll need to actually find a way to let him know you’re into him. Flirt with him, talk to him, gently touch him on the arm or shoulder.

Figure out a clever and witty way to reach out to him so that he definitively knows that you are genuinely interested. At first; he may question your motives. After he starts talking to you, he’ll figure out if you’re for real or have false intention.

Here’s how to flirt with a Virgo man and make eye contact <<

While not all Virgo men subscribe to the same tactics, most of them will want you to let them know that it’s alright for him to come onto you. Once you let him know you like him, he’ll take it from there.

If you haven’t yet met him but have been watching him, find a reason to get nearby him and make some conversation. Once you’re comfortable, you can touch his hand, laugh at his jokes, and give him your “come hither” eyes.

The Next Move

Once you let him know that you have an interest in getting to know him, he should take it from there and begin calling you, asking you out for coffee, or even out for lunch.

He may at first get your number and start text messaging you. He wants to ask you a million and one questions to begin assessing who you are and what you want in your life.

Ultimately, a Virgo will not take an interest in someone with whom he doesn’t feel some sort of chemistry.” He will have “friendly” dates at first. During this time, he’ll figure out if you’re someone he wants to get closer to or not.

There are some Virgo men who may have different moon signs, which could make them want you to take the lead. He should make it pretty obvious to you and quickly what he will want. If he makes the first move, it will depend on him.

Taking Over the Chase

Most Virgo men like the chase. If you’re too easy or open up too much, he’ll get bored. However, if you’re going to allow him to chase you, you cannot seem too uninterested or unavailable.

If you act as though you aren’t all that into it, he’ll think you’re being serious and he’ll go ahead and move on. It’s not worth the risk if you really like him. Pull back just a little bit though.

What I mean by that is, let him take the lead. You can text him good morning but then let him talk from there. He’ll likely want to give you a call as many Virgo men actually want to hear your voice.

He analyzes the way you speak and how you answer questions. It’s part of his “getting to know you” process. Text messages can sometimes be misconstrued and that’s something he doesn’t want to happen.

If he’s the kind of Virgo that wants you to do the chasing and the work, he’ll let you know by gently pulling back and wait for you to text or call him first. He’ll say something like “I think you should call me”. If he makes the first move, you’re lucky.

Once you see he is like this, you should then go ahead and start reaching out a bit more to him. It lets him know that you’re very interested in getting to know who he is and where things can go between you.

Playing Cat and Mouse

Basically, when it comes to Virgo men, it takes a bit of chasing from both sides. If you try to pull back via not answering texts right away, not accepting his calls, or not calling him back, you’d be making a grave mistake.

He will take this as an insult and that you don’t like him. He’ll withdraw and either pull back from you or he’ll go ahead and call it quits so he can find someone else who will be there for him.

Ultimately, a Virgo man is looking for the right match that will stay with him through the duration of time. He wants loyalty and commitment. He isn’t one to take dating lightly.

If he blesses you with his attention, he apparently sees something that can become very strong and amazing between you two. He doesn’t play games either. He is above doing that. It’s best that you don’t implement any.

While it may seem like it’s a dance of sorts, the two of you flirting back and forth should ultimately lead somewhere of significance. If he makes the first move will depend on what he thinks of you.

He Needs a Little Push

He’s a delicate soul that needs a bit of prompting and yet given the tools to pursue you as you pursue him. It’s more of an equal thing.

I’ve had some clients write in and say that their Virgo sometimes doesn’t text back and feels a bit cold. They do require a bit of personal space and as long as you give it to them, they’ll give you the moon.

This romantic guy needs his equal. It’s up to you to see if you’re ready for the challenge of doing the wonderful “courting dance” that will be done in getting to know him for who he really is.

Hopefully, this gives you a good idea of what it’s like to get a Virgo man and how to get him to want you.

So, who makes the first move depends on both of you.

A Virgo Man Doesn’t Initiate Contact — What Does It Mean?

When a Virgo man doesn’t initiate contact it can mean a multitude of things, it really depends on where you are in your relationship with him if it is something you need to be worried about or not. 

If you just met him and he doesn’t initiate contact, then it probably means that he is shy and unsure if you want him to reach out to you. He could be suffering from self-doubt and uncertainty about where your head is at. 

However, if you and your Virgo man have an established connection and been on quite a few dates, and he isn’t initiating contact with you, then this is something you might have to be concerned about. 

He may have learned that the two of you are incompatible and wants to do the slow fade so that you get the message that he is no longer interested in you. 

However, if you reach out to him and he responds in a happy and enthusiastic way, then he might just be a little shy and want you to be the one to initiate the contact. Feel it out and see what you think it means. 

Will A Virgo Man Text You First?

As I have mentioned before, it is very rare for a Virgo man to text first because he can be a little insecure and shy if he isn’t sure of how you feel about him. He needs a green light to know that it is okay to pursue you.

This is a man who takes consent very seriously and the last thing he wants is to come across as a creep. This is why I think it is very important for you to make it fairly obvious to him that you are interested. 

This will give him the go-ahead to know that he is welcome to text you first. But you might have to suck it up and text him first to break the ice. It is better to find out if he is actually interested in you than to keep guessing.

Are you considering texting your Virgo man first? Well, check out my quiz to see if you should text him or not << This should help you make a decision! Are you ready to take matters into your own hands? This should give you some guidance!

How To Get A Virgo Man To Initiate Contact With You?

1. Drop Hints That His Texts Are Welcome

Virgos don’t like to assume anything. They are easily the least presumptuous sign when it comes to how they feel people respond to them. 

Where some signs will always believe that others would go out of their way for them, roll out the red carpet, and welcome them with open arms (I’m looking at you, Leo), Virgos tend to feel weird even requesting a cup of water. 

For this reason, Virgos can be quite shy. They don’t know if their communication with you is totally acceptable to you. As a result, you’ll notice radio silence from Virgo man quite often. 

I have found that encouraging the Virgo man to reach out is helpful. Virgo doesn’t want to let anyone down. If you let them know that you really want them to reach out to you then you’ll see the Virgo making a bigger effort.

If you want to master a Virgo man’s texting style and know what the best texts are to send your Virgo man then there is only one thing you should do. Check out my Virgo Text Magic Guide <<

2. Be Extra Receptive When He Does Reach Out

So, you’ve slyly let your Virgo love interest know that you’re open to his texts. He’s been starting up some conversations, but how do you ensure that he continues to reach out to you first? 

A Virgo is used to being the main support in a relationship. He typically does a lot of the drudge work in a relationship that is needed to keep a couple together. They get very little praise for this extra effort (typically). 

When a Virgo is going outside of his comfort zone to text you first, you can ensure that he continues to do this by acknowledging his efforts the best that you can. 

When your Virgo man reaches out to you first, try to respond quickly and authentically. Virgos are socially attuned and can see when an answer is just obligatory. 

Every once in a while, tell him how much you appreciate the way that he listened to your request to text first. It’s okay to call out the ways that he helps the relationship or soon-to-be relationship blossom!

Learn more about what a Virgo man wants in a relationship here <<

3. Be Open To Phone Calls

Virgo men are ruled by Mercury, speedy planet of communication, efficiency, and thought processes. It’s a planet essential to living a social life in a community. 

This is why Virgos sometimes don’t do well in conversations that last all day long via text. While they enjoy communication, long and aimless discussions can leave Virgo men banging their head on their phone. 

Virgos often will attempt to expedite the process by dropping you a line. It’s faster to say what needs said that way and Virgos are usually okay with short, to the point phone calls. 

A lot of people have an aversion to phone calls these days. But, recognize that a phone call from a Virgo is their best way to get what really matters in the conversation in a way that they are comfortable with.

Accepting phone calls as a form of initiating contact is going to make the Virgo a lot more comfortable reaching out to you.

Read next: Possible Reasons Why A Virgo Man Ignores Your Text Messages

4. Be Ready To Answer Questions

Virgos are famously humble. They don’t like to keep the focus on themselves. Rather, they seek to be a guardian angel to all others around them. Hence, they’d rather talk about you and what you’re up to. 

Being willing to talk at length about yourself is crucial when talking to a Virgo man. Virgos are all about collecting information so that they can see the parts that make up a whole. When it comes to people, it’s no different.

Virgos will ask you lots and lots of questions. They want to know more about you! They like seeing all of the puzzle pieces that make up who you are as a person. They’re trying very hard to understand what all the parts add up to make. 

When you are willing to answer questions about yourself, the Virgo wants to keep coming back for more to find the ‘whole picture.’ You’ll be securing a place for him in your inbox if you are willing to be forthcoming. 


How Long Does It Take For A Virgo Man To Ask You Out?

As I have mentioned befire, Virgo men are very shy and this often influences them in a major way when it comes to dating. It can take them ages to ask a woman out because they are so shy. 

A Virgo man will want everything to perfect and to feel assured that they won’t be rejected. This is why a Virgo man needs a lot of greenlights and reassurance that you are actually going to say yes when he asks you out! 

So to answer this question, expect the Virgo man to take his time asking you out. However, you will need to make it obvious to him that you actually do want to go on a date with him. You can do this by making subtle hints that you like him and want to spend time with him.

Will A Virgo Man Come Back After No Contact?

A Virgo man will come back after no contact, but this really depends on the relationship you had with him. Were the two of you in quite a serious relationship, or was it more of a fling?

This will definitely influence the way he sees you and the attachment he has to you. If there was a strong connection and you disappear, then he is definitely going to wonder what happened to you. 

This is when he will contact you. However, don’t expect to hear from him if the relationship you had was fleeting and not very serious. Remember, Virgo men hate wasting time, be that yours or his.

So if he really feels like things don’t really have the potential of going anywhere in your relationship, then he probably won’t pursue you again.

Read next: What To Do When A Virgo Man Goes Silent Or Distant

Will A Virgo Man Lead You On?

A Virgo man is one of the more respectful signs in the Zodiac. The Virgo man tends to be more honourable than other guys and won’t do anything to hurt you intentionally. 

A Virgo man isn’t likely going to lead you on as he is quite straightforward and usually knows what he wants. If he wants a relationship then he’ll go for it, if he doesn’t he will let you know!

But, my best advice is always for you to trust your gut and follow your own instincts. If something feels off, it probably is!

How Do You Know If A Virgo Man Is Playing You? << Check Out Here

If Your Virgo Man Pulls Away, DON’T Do This…

I’ve heard from so many of my clients that their Virgo man is AMAZING when they are in person with him… So charming, sweet, funny, and really connected!

But he can tend to pull away when you’re not with him.

It’s a super frustrating situation for any woman. And if you are like my other clients who have been through this, you’re probably feeling REALLY confused.

“Why is he so hot and cold through text?”

“Why does he back off when we aren’t together?”

And most importantly… “What can I DO about this?”

First, I want to share the things you definitely should NOT do in this situation…

  1. Don’t get clingy or needy and ask him if something is wrong or beg to see him
  2. Don’t force closure if you’ve had some conflict. Wait until you can talk in person about important issues. Text can EASILY lead to miscommunication.
  3. Don’t assume that there IS a problem. He could just be really busy.
  4. Don’t let fear drive your actions. Assume the best and not the worst.
  5. Don’t chase him. Chase your dreams and goals instead.
  6. Don’t stalk him on social media. Give him space.
  7. Don’t get upset with him or freak out. This will only push him away.

So what SHOULD you do instead?

  1. Take some time out to reflect on the situation and consider logical reasons for his actions.
  2. Date other men if you aren’t exclusive. Don’t lock yourself down with him if you aren’t yet in a committed relationship with him.
  3. Give him space and time with zero pressure. He might be overwhelmed with work or not be feeling well. 

Your Virgo man should be the sprinkles on the cupcake of your awesome life, not the cupcake itself. Let him reach out to you when he’s ready. Virgo men like to lead. You need to let him do that!

Text can be challenging, and I don’t want you to feel alone in this. I don’t want you to lie in bed unable to sleep because you are worried about why your Virgo man is pulling away.

And there is no need for you to do that.

Especially when I can guide you on how to deeply connect with his heart through text messages… 

Because when you know SPECIFICALLY what to text him based on his astrology…

He WON’T be pulling away anymore. And you’ll never again have to worry about what to say to your lovely Virgo man through text anymore.

Go see what I mean here now so he never pulls away again <<

xoxo, Anna

About Author

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38 thoughts on “Will A Virgo Man Reach Out First? Find Out Here

  1. I really enjoy and appreciate your in site…I absolutely adore my Virgo man …I understand him on so many Levels because I’m a Virgo woman …but he still puzzles me.

    1. Hi Rachelle!

      Virgo men can be different than Virgo women due to the hormonal differences. It makes absolute sense that women think differently than men therefore there will be some things that work well for the male aspect but not so much the female aspect. Hang in there, if you two can find common ground and keep your communication open, you can find success!

  2. Hello. I want your opinion please. I am Dating a Virgo man 2 month now, we speak everyday.He said he wants a relationship but we haven’t met for 5weeks! And never had sex.He always says he is busy with work, and although he spends time with friends he never asks me out. When I compain that this is not a normal relationship and ask him why he is avoiding me, he replies that everything is fine and that he likes me,and its all in my mind.I stopped contact him , and he doesn’t understand that he pushed me away. Is this normal?

    1. The things he is saying sounds like something a Covert narcissist says. RUN! Don’t go by what he says,….watch what he actually does! Which isn’t much. You can do better girl!!!

    2. no one is busier than a person who is not interested in you. You deserve better than this. This has got nothing to do with him being a Virgo. If he wanted to be with you he would have made time.

    3. Hi Mary!

      I actually agree with the other two people who commented to you. Virgo men make effort when they really like someone. Your guy is no different. If he keeps blowing you off yet hanging out with other people then he’s showing you by his actions that he’s not that into you. Until he picks up the pace, you’ve got nothing to work with. Call him out on his actions and if he tells you it’s all in your head then walk away honey. You deserve better!

  3. I gave this guy my number after working woth him a short period of time and perceiving all the eye contact from him as the go ahead. It’s been 5 days and he hasn’t called. I’m trying not to think of it, but I am. I also complimented him in front of his dad saying “I see where he gets his good looks from” (which he seemed to like), would touch him subtly on his arm or back here and there and would sometimes look at him and try to hold eye contact here and there.

    Did I do too much? Is it normal for them to take this long to call or is he just not interested?

    1. Hi Ariel! I think that he’s not sure of what your intention is and that may make him uneasy. I’m not saying you did too much but Virgo men are fickle. They analyze everything you do and say. Be that as it may, they’re not good at picking up on hints or trying to guess what it is you want from them. Even if you are physically touching him and flirting, he may still not fully “get it”. He may think you’re being merely friendly. I suggest you just tell him that you like him and you’d like to see what the future holds between you if he’s up for it. Sometimes just telling him verbally what you want works wonders. If you need more tips, you may want to check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

    2. I am dating a virgo guy from past 6 months. Initially it felt like he is interested in me genuinely. But now I think he just wanted a physical relationship (which did start between us from February 2021…). Then afterwards when I wanted to discuss about the future with him, he became conscious and was like “Not to keep any expectations, as it will be good for you and as well as me…”. I now think he just wanted to have a physical relationship but nothing serious. But I really wanted someone to share my thoughts with and who would be there for me with me. Not that I don’t enjoy physical pursuits, but that was not my primary interest at all. Now am not saying he dissapointed me or anything but still broke my heart as he had earlier unintentionally maybe gave me hopes about a life with him. Like I did know what I was getting myself into but still am very very attracted to him both emotionally and physically and mentally too. Maybe it’s because he’s a Virgo and am Aries woman. I also find him very very boring though. But still am obsessed over him. It’s because of his calmness, kindness, silence, just maybe because he’s an ideal virgo, who’s very lively and magnetic. I see him as a perfectionist and I really like it. He has told me about the girls who had proposed him before. Maybe even I’ll be included as one among that list. Like I wanna offer him everything he needs, mainly his very very important thing, “his personal space” to even marry him and be together with him. Because he really gets me going… like reading, working out, having freedom… which is amazing right? Such an ideal partner to have in your life! I really like him for the way he is. I know he makes me feel like a nun but still I just can’t get him out of my mind. From the day I saw him, not a single day that goes by where and when I don’t remember him. He’s always on my mind. The thing is I can move on in a dime if he’s not interested in me. But even when I ask him if he’s not into me or is seeing someone else or if I should start seeing someone else,… I just get some annoyingly confusing replies. Haha not answers but replies which suck. Am tolerating him from like 6 months. I need a green or a red light, but this guy is showing me yellow! What should I do? He doesn’t even text me properly, not even once in a day. Like come on, no-one can be this terribly busy or workaholic right?! I have read that Virgos are workaholics, but isn’t this too much?? I don’t know he can say things on my face. I won’t mind. He can say that he doesn’t like my head or this whatever “go with the flow” thingy is not working. Coz am just becoming impatient and restless. I want an answer because we Aries are brutally honest and fast approaching and not used to this type of slomo nature of Virgo people. So we expect even them to be honest and serious and be decisive. But he’s like “You can’t control life and shit”. Yes we can’t control it but can’t we even have hopes for life together and try to win that life? But he’s like, he doesn’t even wanna try. Maybe or may not be I think it’s because he had a breakup once before. But just because of that we can’t give up on trying again right? Or else maybe he’s more into good looking people just like him. I just don’t know how to tell him how I feel. Am afraid if he’s gonna feel that am being pushy or if he’s not into me as much as am into him, it’ll be very insulting for me. I’ll be ashamed of getting to know his “No”. Haha this generation is so weird. We can take out our clothes in front of people who we barely know but can’t talk our hearts out. Not fair… :_(

      1. Hi Anu!

        Here’s the thing… tell him regardless of what happens. It won’t be anymore of a disappointing loss than he already is now. Why not go ahead and go for it. Tell him how you feel and what you want. If he doesn’t want it, he’ll tell you. Either way there is nothing really to risk. Tell him the truth. You’ll feel much better after you get it out and find out the results. If you need more info check out my book “Virgo man secrets”.

  4. I met a Virgo man who I really do like. He’s going through a lot of things in his life and I’m trying to be understanding. I think this is why he’s opened up to me and we’ve been in touch almost daily for several months. It has been very slow going. He says he’s not ready for a really committed relationship, but also told me he was afraid he’d lose me. We became good friends and there has always been an attraction. We met after about 5 months of talking and he flew out her just for one night to see me. It was a great date, we were so comfortable with each other. He was holding my hand in no time. We talked for 6 hours and did a little making out, but not too far. Though farther than I think we both expected. He was the one initiating all of it. When he left, he was texting me all the time and then about a week later he was quiet. For the first time he didn’t even answer my text and I did get a little upset. He asked me to manage my expectations. I told him I didn’t think we were in a relationship, but it was more about respect. After that he answered my text immediately. He said he needed some time though and he was being pressured to go back to his wife, who left him. After another week, I told him I had thought about things and believed we should try and just stay friends, because I didn’t want to get hurt. He said he respected that and wanted to stay in touch and still see each other. Since then he really hasn’t asked me about my life at all, his text are short and just answering me. The last text he sent me was about a week after I had sent him one and he just wished me Merry Christmas. I later text him telling him how much respect I had for him and what a good man I thought he was and I missed talking with him and wanted to try again. He hasn’t gone back to his former relationship, but he hasn’t answered me in over two weeks. What can I do?

    1. Hi Elle! It seems that now you are stuck in the friend zone since you put yourself there. I totally get why you did it but unless you indicate to him otherwise, he’s going to believe that you’re just friends and therefore he doesn’t have to keep up with you as much as he may have when you two were a little more. If you want more you need to tell him that and let him decide if he’s up for it yet or if he’s still hesitant. Ask him and let him know how you feel. If you need more tips or tricks, you may want to check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  5. I am a virgo man. I read a few of your articles and you hit the target on our ways. We are finicky, sensitive, and we protect our hearts from getting hurt. We help others with no intentions of a reward. Helping people makes us happy. And when we meet women we only give 50% of our love then slowly move in. As soon as love stings we back off and if we like what we see, feel emotionally & physically, and intellectually with no games involved we go in full bore with an open heart.

    1. Hi paul,

      Im currently is chasing this virgo man. We had events where we were together. These events went on for almost 2 weeks. It was ultimately great. He gave signals and it was great. We spooned and hugged and kissed. The attention he was giving me was great.

      We eventually talked what was happening and he told me frankly that he’s looking for someone and looking for a serious relationship.

      Its been 2 weeks since and what have been happening is i text him all the time. Morning greetings and all. as well as goodnight. And the convo has been great. But he never texts me first.

      I wont be asking until when do i need to keep doing this because i dont mind. But whem do i need to limit and have that talk regarding going into more serious approach? I know virgo man dont like to be pushed. Do i need to be patient until he approaches me with more serious talks?? Thanks

      1. Hi Talker!

        I think your mistake is that you’re chasing him. Virgo men like strong independent women. He doesn’t want to be chased. He sees that as a weakness or flaw in a woman. If you’re constantly reaching out to him and he’s stopped responding or initiating, it’s because he doesn’t like it. Try backing off a bit and only messaging him once in a while. Once he sees you have a life and aren’t focused completely on him, he may pick up the slack and be more interested. Do not talk about serious issues until he’s ready otherwise you’re pressuring him. Take your time and be patient!

    2. Hi Paul!

      Thank you so much for writing in on behalf of Virgo men. I’m glad that you’ve verified much of what I’ve tried to help women with. You guys are complicated but very loving and loyal when you find the right one. I know this to be true. Again, I appreciate your input. I wish more Virgo men would reach out!

  6. I really love a Virgo male and I can’t get him out of my mind. I’m a Sagittarius girl to and I don’t under stand. I don’t find him boring either. He goes around asking other people about me and what I am doing. Then he gives out comments what type of girls hes interested in When my friend tells me this it makes me all happy. But then later when he’s around me he is quite and doesn’t talk. I want him to open up to me.

    1. Hi Janna! Your Virgo guy probably actually likes you and feels shy when he’s around you which is why he gets all awkward. This is totally 100% normal for a Virgo man to do sweetheart. You’ve got to open him up slowly and be patient with him. You’ve also got to let him know directly that you’re interested in him. Once you do that then he knows he has a green light to make the next move and get the ball rolling. Don’t be afraid to reach out and make the first move. He wants to know you’re into him. Once he knows, he’ll start acting accordingly. He may still act very shy or reserved for a while until he really gets to know you. Again, this is all normal. If you’d like to know more about the Virgo man, you may want to check my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  7. This article is awesome! May I have some Advice?

    There’s this video sun, Gemini moon, Man I have been chatting with for about 2 months now. At the beginning I came on really strong (asked him out 3 times, and flirted obviously) and he told me that he just wants to be friends. Though the more we talk and get to know each other the more strongly I feel. Since he ”Friend zoned” me, and since then I have given him the space to be himself. (waiting a day or 2 before he or I will text each other) Reading this article did shine some light and confirmed how I approach him is most likely the right way. But is it possible he can still be interested in me? If he says goodnight to me, and at one point he helped me find upgrades for my PC and offered to help me financially? (He said he would loan me some cash, though it felt like he was just saying that out of courtesy. He asked me what was wrong and .. ha I let him have it.) I always take interest in what he does when the conversation arises and make mental notes on his likes and dislikes. At times I can be very vocal about my likes and dislikes and can see how that might Deter him. Though when I start a conversation he always has lots to say, and it’s fun! but never asks me questions, and doesn’t make any effort to be “Friends” other than the occasional Fortnite Matches we play together with his brothers.

    I am a Piscese sun, Cancer moon. So I am probably reading too much into this. Any advice is appreciated.

    1. Hi Natasha! When it comes to Virgo men, you have to take them at face value. They typically have well thought out things many times over before they say it in which case, they do mean what they say. If he’s saying he only wants to be friends then that is likely what he means. Even if he likes you for more, he’s going to wait a good long time before he goes down that road because honestly, he’d rather be friends first and get to know you. Try to stick with the friendship and maybe within some time he’ll come around and show more interest. Be patient and keep doing things how you have.

  8. I’m a Aries women dating a Virgo man for the pass three weeks. He was very attentive with me the first two weeks of us meeting.he would text me throughout the day, asking to see me, telling he missed me and hasn’t felt this way for a long time for someone. After two weeks we were together intimately and I noticed he stoped communicating the way he had prior. When we see each other’s he’s very attentive and loving with me, makes me feel like I’m the only one After being intimate and throughout the night while sleeping he will hold my hand. He dose still call me a night to talk and occasionally he’ll text me once a day. But when I send him a text seems like he’s not replying till the end of the day if that. This has led me to ask for advice regarding him asking for me to spend memorial weekend with him on a trip but he’ll be taking. I told him I would confirm with him if I didn’t have my kiddos. I did send him a text message last week letting him know “I would love to join him if he still wanted me to.” He never replied to my text nor have I brought it up to him again. I’m feeling a bit anxious regarding the subject as I would like to spend the weekend with him and I would like to plan ahead.
    My question is, Is he still interested in me? Should I ask him the next time we talk on the phone about spending memorial weekend together?

    1. Hi Ruth, I’m sorry I hadn’t seen this sooner. I wonder how your Memorial weekend went and how things are between the two of you. The best policy with Virgo men is to always be honest and upfront about what you’re thinking or feeling so that they know where you stand and then they have to figure out what they want and if it matches up with your desires. I do hope things are going well but if you have other questions, you might want to check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  9. I have a crush on virgo man, We met during My cousin brother’s wedding we had eye contact,offered me and my mom help of car when we were stuck.During wedding he was around /nearby whenever i observed,came to talk but didnt asked my Name.But i really find him genuine.I have checked his instagram to check wheather he is single or commited(seems single),should i sent him instagram request?

    1. Hi Heer!

      Yes, if you are interested in him then you’ve got to be totally honest in letting him know that otherwise he may be oblivious to it and you’ll never hear from him. Go ahead and send him a request. If he is interested, he’ll let you know but you’ve got to take initiative first!

  10. I’m an Aquarius in love with a Virgo guy, we were first loves and now we are adults (28&29) we have had a back and fourth sexual/ a little emotional relationship, in the beginning we were both in relationships cheating ??‍♀️(Not proud of the fact) so I cut it off…now he has broken up with her and I’m still with my guy I cheated on and can’t stop thinking of my Virgo….(6 months later after I ended our affair) he reached out on my birthday which lead me back into his love trap and I went to visit him to talk but more than talking happened. I’m wondering how he see me, what do I mean to him! I want to be with him but I feel like I look like a side piece of ass but he respects me so much and we just have a connection that I want in my relationship (I don’t plan to be with the man I’m with because of this feeling for my Virgo) keep my cool with my Virgo tho and I don’t try and put all of my feelings out there assuming he knows since we are first loves. So when do I make my next move on my Virgo in this scenario: haven’t seen each other in months and not the first time speaking but a few messages in and I’m visiting him at his place and having sexual relations half way the visit. Now I feel whore ish but at the same time it was him so I’m comfortable with the fact!!! When do I reach out to him again? When do I tell him my true feelings of him being my Happily Ever after. ? We were together in a relationship for 3 years the first time and ended because I walked away! I’ve actually walked away from him 4 times throughout our whole time knowing each other!

    1. Hi Sharis!

      Wow that’s surprising he took you back so many times. Normally when a Virgo man is done, he’s done because they hold grudges. Your Virgo must have had a sign in his chart that allowed him to be more accepting. I think you should reach out and be 100% honest with him. That’s how they roll and appreciate honesty. If you need more help though, you can check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  11. hi, I am a cancer lady. I met my virgo guy during his masterclass. he is Zumba instructor. initially he was noticed by my friend as he was looking at me when he was leaving the room. (this was before his class.) my friend said, do you know him? I said no. then my friend said he was staring you for a long time. then I turned towards him and he turned away. then before his class. he introduced himself. I then go towards the left side, I am short and I could not see him that much. he also went towards my direction. then he did his class. during the warm up he was gesturing for us to smile, yet he was staring at me. then he cut his class in half. he was on my right side. then he turned to his left and was looking for me. then he run towards me. stood in front of me. he was trying to grab my hands. too bad, I am so new to any kind of relationship. he stood there for good 5 minutes and was staring at me and he later placed his hand to his heart. during this time, he is still staring and smiling at me. I just gave my best while dancing. then after the class. we took a picture, he literally pulled me towards him and holding me by the waist. then I went home after the class. too bad we didn’t exchange numbers as he is so busy. I am bit weirded out if I ask him. 2 days down the road, I added him on Instagram. I told him that I enjoyed his class. he responded saying he did have great time and he told me how much he enjoyed dancing with me. then he placed a heart emoji. then we did talk but not too much. I don’t want to come across as desperate. I did expressed to him I like him. it took him 1 day not to respond to that his response was. he is busy responding to all his emails, messages and he told me not to apologize, again he placed a heart emoji. I did met his parents through Instagram. I met them the day I added him on Instagram.i told him that your parents are amazing. I overheard his parents that , I am very gorgeous and polite. then I did text him good morning for at least a week. he had not responded. I never really expect. I just wanted to let him know, I am still around. then unfortunately, due to this pandemic we are having. he had to stop his job. then I suggested for him to do a virtual Zumba. then he did just 2 weeks ago. he then started to say thank you a lot lately. I am joining his class. however, whenever I put comments on his facebook. he always like or puts a heart. but to me , honestly, I just to start being friends first, even if I told him I like him. I forgot to mention that I added him on facebook. I am the person who doesn’t really care if he added me. although, he has a page and he added me. he is more active on facebook. I just wanted to know. if there is any chance for anything at all.

    1. Hi michelle!

      There is a chance but you need to be totally transparent with him. If you like him, make sure he knows it. Let him truly understand what you want and what you’d like to have happen between you. Either he’ll be down with it or he’ll tell you friends only. You won’t know though unless you actually take the chance! Go for it! If you need more help though, you can check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  12. Hi, I have a complicated situation right now! I need your help! I,ve been going to a dentical clinic for two years now to put braces on my teeth. At first my dentist (he is a 32 virgo and I’m a 27 capricorn) showed me signs that he might has interest on me like touching and tightening my shoulder/get too close to my face/making long eye contacts/observing me from afar and…. then slowly i’ve developed interest on him too and even texted him on his birthday and send flowers to him but the problem is he is super friendly and talkative and nice almost with everyone else so it seems like he sees me as a friend and nothing more.also he’s super relaxed and comfortable with me and always calls me by my first name while he calls others by their family names also when i smile and make eye contact with him he would do the same and keep it for long seconds before he begins to talk…….
    so i was wondering does he like me? is it alright that i make a first move and ask him out on a date? what is your advice?! btw Thank you for your helpful blogs!

  13. Hello am arise and he is Virgo
    We started dating last year early September he was so loving always calls we chart all night sometimes till 3am
    October we had little misunderstanding
    He told me something and warned me not to confront the person
    But I went ahead and did it
    But after that I apologized
    The calls and charts and every dropped down
    He only calls once a day
    Till next day or two days

    But from December 26th 2020
    He stopped calling he stopped coming to see me
    On my birthday he didn’t call or text to wish me
    In the night I jus saw his call he called me to come out behold he brought a birthday cake and wines
    I am to travel next day he came early picked me and dropped me at the station he do call time to time to asked my location till I arrived safely
    Same thing on the day I came back
    Before I arrived the station the parked his car was waiting to pick me
    He brought me back home
    Since then he didn’t come to see me again
    But he call once in a day
    Until last week when I was sick he came to check up on me
    Now my worries are
    He doesn’t call the day he use to before that incident happened
    He stopped chatting with me
    If I text it takes hours before he replies sometimes he doesn’t reply
    For 3 days now we didn’t communicate
    Should I move on or still have patience am confuse

    1. Hi Eve!

      Alright so you have some concerns and I understand that. I don’t think he’s given you a reason to break it off from 3 days of no contact. Reach out to him and say hi. He’ll probably message you back. Sometimes Virgo man wants you to initiate the contact. Don’t throw this away just yet sweetheart. Be patient with him. Tell him what you want also! If you need more help, check out my books on Virgo Man Secrets.

  14. hi i see my virgo man on instagram .he just followes 2 or 3 girls that followed him . after one week i accepted his follow request then after a few time i replied his story and he answred me in a few minute and after 2 or 3 days he posted 2 photos about story topic that i was replied . second time that i replid his story after an hour he started like my sweet and cute photos not sexy ones .after few days again he posted some photos about topic that i replied .and my third reply he send me ❤this emoji .is he like me ?why he dosnt open to me?
    im a cancer girl please help me !

    1. HI zzzz!

      Your Virgo guy sounds very sweet. I think he probably IS interested in you, yes. He’s not particularly the flirty type of guy unless he’s interested in someone. A heart emoji means something too. If you just met him he’s not going to open up because it takes him time to really trust someone enough to do so. He will get there if you are patient and give him some time. I wish you all the best!

  15. I’ve been seeing this Virgo man for a few months now, when I send a text or call him he always answers right away, should I always be the one to contact him first, or give him time to contact me first? I know he loves me as all the signs are there, but he never said it, we hug and kiss when I get ready to leave him at the end of the day or night, never experienced someone like this. What should I do?

    1. Hi Anonymous!

      I say that you two should find a comfort zone. There is no right and wrong with this. It’s whatever you two are good with. If all the signs are there that he loves you then don’t question it sweetheart. Stick with what works! He’s not a big text messenger. They’re old fashioned and prefer in person or on a phone call. So if you want to text, it’s best if you do it if you’re alright with it. I wish you the best but you can get more information about Virgo man via my guides on “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  16. Hi I worked with this virgo guy im a leo he was quite rigid grumpy can tend to be negative but being a leo I wasn’t having that and as time grew he softened alot still very reserved kept his feeling close to his chest but I noticed he was comfortable with me. He started saying things like darling and I guess flirting it kinda of unexpected. But only when it was just me around he never referred to anyone else at work like that I did notice I made him laugh and smile and being a leo im very out’s spoken and speak my truth and mind I think I grew to be attracted to him on the last day cause he was leaving I said goodbye and I will miss him he said we will see each other around I said aye how (confused look on my face) he said maybe one day I could come these ways for a drink and I said oh ok well I will give you my number and he said no take mine does this mean he’s interested in me or something lol. I’m a direct person he likes that about me told me never to change but where it concerns love You need to come out and just tell me I can’t play games and I certainly ain’t chasing no man I guess what I’m asking do you think he’s interested in me

    1. Hi Just a woman!

      Exchanging numbers and pet names? Um… yes he’s interested sweetheart. If you’re as direct as you say you are then you should definitely tell him that you’re interested. He needs that “green light” from you. Once he gets it, he’ll step forward and take it from there. Give it a try! I wish you all the very best in love and life!

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