If you’ve met a Virgo man then you know how special they are. These analytical gods have something really unique about them and I am never surprised when my clients ask me all about the inner workings of a Virgo man.
Some of the best qualities of a Virgo man are that they are caring, intelligent, empathetic, and very helpful. These qualities don’t really sound like someone who will be playing you, am I right?
But of course, not everyone is built equally and there are always outliers, no matter what. So are you curious to know if your Virgo man is genuinely interested in you, or if he is playing you? Then this might be the article you need to read.
Here are all the signs a Virgo man is playing you… Some of them are definitely going to surprise you!
Are Virgo Men Players?
With some signs, I can confidently say that they are likely to be players, but when it comes to Virgo men, this is often a mixed bag and you never know what you are going to get – it all depends on the individual!
Virgo men can be very loyal, but then again, you also get a Virgo man womanizer and this always seems to come as a shock to my clients as this guy is so crisp and clean on paper!
This has to do with their mutable nature! Virgo men can quickly adapt and are very malleable, so staying consistent can be a little difficult for them.
If a Virgo man seems to be a player, then this is likely the reason why he can’t commit! It may come down to maturity as well, so just be aware of the signs!
You may also want to read: Is Your Virgo Man Playing Mind Games? Here’s How To Tell
Will A Virgo Man Lead You On?
Virgo men are by nature quite loyal and they take their relationships very seriously. When a Virgo man has made a commitment, he is unlikely to break it as he doesn’t like hurting people.
This is why a Virgo man is unlikely to lead you on. If he can feel that you have stronger feelings than he does, then he will probably break things off before it gets too serious for you.
He is very respectful, but as I mentioned before, there are always outliers when it comes to the signs and nothing is the law! So remember to keep your wits about you.
Warning Signs A Virgo Man Is Playing You
Virgo men are usually very respectful, but then you get the ones that tarnish their very pristine reputations. There is nothing worse than expecting someone to be prim and proper than to realize you’ve just been used because he was either bored, lonely, or horny!
So if you have a suspicion that your Virgo man might be leading you on or playing with your feelings, then keep on reading to find out all the warning signs a Virgo man is playing you:
1. When A Virgo Man Treats You Bad
If you have ever been criticized by a Virgo man then you know how downright painful it is. The way he uses his tongue can really hurt a lot. A Virgo man being rude is one of the easiest ways to spot that he is playing you.
He is trying to keep you at arm’s length and isn’t interested in getting emotionally close to you. Sure, you are good enough to keep around when he is looking to hook up or he finds himself bored and in need of some company.
2. He Is Emotionally Cold
As far as the emotional side of things is concerned, a Virgo can take a very long time to open up to another person. At the very least, if he is trying to get to know a woman, he will at the very least discuss his own desires and life goals with her as he gets to know her.
There is a possibility that a Virgo man who you are hanging out with and who you thought you were getting closer to might be using you if he isn’t telling you anything about him. He doesn’t want to be intimate with you.
When he is not interested, Virgo men can be really cold and cut off from you. One night stands or flings are usually not encouraged by Virgo men. It should be noted, however, that every rule has an exception.
If you have had enough of dealing with his going hot and cold behavior, I strongly recommend checking out my 30-day Virgo Man Love Challenge… It will set you on the right path with your Virgo guy.
3. He Doesn’t Open Up To You
A very important part of his life is his dreams and goals for the future. Only people who he thinks will be in his life for a very long time, if not forever, will be able to hear what he has to say about them.
He talks about it with family and VERY close friends but to a woman he’s talking to, he’s quiet, especially if she seems insignificant to him.
You should know that if he does not open up to you about anything, especially about an important aspect of his life, then he probably isn’t interested in you at all. In this case, he may be playing you or he may only be into you for a hook-up!
Learn here how to get a Virgo man to open up and share his true feelings with you.
4. He Disappears When He Has Business Trips
If a Virgo man is not 100% committed to you, there is a real chance that he’s going to do his own thing when he’s traveling for work. So, is your Virgo man just using you? Not necessarily.
However, he may be seeing other women, having sexual encounters with a co-worker, or perhaps he might be hooking up with a new woman he meets through his company. The possibilities are all there.
It’s also possible he meets someone in a bar that is in the hotel he’s at and figures that no one may never know a thing so why not go for it? Again, Virgo isn’t typically the one-night-stand type of guy but it can still happen.
It happens when he doesn’t feel that he can commit to someone or feels that the person he’s “seeing” isn’t the right person for him. He’s testing his own waters to see what he feels and enjoying the moment.
This may also include him hardly talking to you, if at all, while he is gone on business. He may tell you he’s too busy to talk or he’ll talk to you when he gets back.
Naturally, if he doesn’t talk to you when he gets back, you may as well give up on him.
A Virgo Man Just Wants To Hook Up — Here’s How To Tell
There are some very clear indicators that a Virgo man only wants to hook up with you. Perhaps you get the feeling that this is what he is up to, but if he is doing any of the following, you can know for sure!
5. He Tells You Directly
It is not uncommon for Virgo men to be rather blunt and come off as rude when they tell you that they do not want to be in a relationship with you. If you ask him what he wants, he may actually tell you that he does not want to commit or that he just wants to hook up or be friends with you.
Even though this may be hard to take if you’re having sex with him, it’s important for you to believe him when he tells you this. The man is not plotting anything on the side and he is not lying to you on purpose. Listen to him, he’s telling you what he feels, so you should listen to what he’s saying.
There is a risk of getting hurt if you think that a Virgo man is going to suddenly change his mind and want to be with you when he didn’t want to be with you before. Sex is sex and he’ll keep doing it as long as you allow it.
6. You Only Hear From Him When He Wants Sex
A Virgo man one night stand is something that happens out of the ordinary. He isn’t the type of guy to pick up a random girl at the bar and sleep with her only wants.
Although a Virgo man might not want commitment, he would rather be more open to sleeping with a woman he has some kind of familiarity with. He might just see you as an occasional hook-up.
You’ll notice that you never hear from him unless it is for a booty call. This is him being firm in his boundaries and showing you that he wants nothing more from you than sex. Believe him when he shows you this side of him.
7. His Communication Sucks
The intelligent Virgo man enjoys stimulating conversations. He likes to talk about many things when he is with someone, and he always wants to keep the conversation going. In case you find that he is being quiet or that he doesn’t seem interested in discussing anything of importance with you, then be wary.
Despite the fact that he may have other reasons for being quiet, he shouldn’t be quiet all of the time. There is a possibility that he is still hung up on someone else or that he may be actually seeing someone else, as a result, he does not feel the need to say much.
Obviously, when a Virgo man goes cold in terms of not texting, calling, or returning texts, he’s probably done with you and you no longer have a relationship with him. There is a good chance that he is fishing for sex if he contacts you after weeks of not talking.
This is not the type of person you want to spend your life with, so keep searching for someone who you will be able to interact with in a meaningful way in real life.
8. He Doesn’t Put Any Effort Into The Relationship
Trust me, when a Virgo man wants to be with you and is in love with you, he’ll put lots of effort in. You will be his queen and you’ll just know that you can trust him and rely on him. You’ll never have to wonder.
Virgo man going ice cold is the biggest indicator he is done or he’s only interested in you when he feels like it. That may mean seeing you once a week or once every other week. You may be asking yourself: is your Virgo man just using you? It is likely!
More Telltale Signs A Virgo Man Wants To Be Friends
It is very possible that you may have a connection with a Virgo man, but then you realize that he might just see you as a friend. This is especially true if the two of you have never slept together. Here are some of the signs he just wants to be friends:
9. Virgo Man Acts Disinterested
You’re likely a very beautiful woman with a lot going for her (most of my readers are). So if you are putting out all the signals that you are interested in a Virgo man and he isn’t catching the bait, then chances are good that he just wants to be friends.
This might not be a bad thing. You don’t have to have a romantic or sexual relationship with every man you meet. So if he seems disinterested in you romantically, but still makes effort with you as a friend, is this truly a bad thing?
This doesn’t mean he is playing you. Perhaps you misread all of his signals!
10. He’d Rather Spend His Time Alone Than With You
All Virgo men need some “alone time”. However, if he’s seeking more and more of it, he’s trying to get away from you even if he’s not saying it. He’ll get while the getting is good and then he’ll pull away.
I’ve had numerous clients write in about their Virgo man going quiet and spending less time with them. It’s typically because the Virgo man isn’t feeling it and doesn’t think there is a future there.
He’ll go out of his way to cut ties and communication. If he still craves whatever spark was there, to begin with, he’ll go for that again when he’s lonely or feels he needs to talk to someone.
When he’s playing you, he may go quiet again and you’ll wonder if you’ll ever hear from him. This isn’t a good way to live. You should probably let go and move on with yourself. Is your Virgo man just using you? Could be.
11. You’re The One Always Making Plans
Virgo men are very intuitive, they know when a woman is interested in them. They pick up on all kinds of signs and signals. He might really like you as a person and want to keep you as a friend and this is why he would rather you reach out to him.
He might be afraid that if he shows any level of interest in you that you will take it and run with it and think that the next step is marriage. If you’re the one always reaching out and making plans with him, then chances are good that he just wants to be friends with you.
What To Do When You Discover Your Virgo Man Is Using You?
There is really only one thing you should do when a Virgo man is using you, and that is to go completely silent and no contact with him. You deserve so much better than someone treating you like this.
Have some self respect and move on from him. Yes, I know this really hurts and you probably want closure. But sometimes it is best if you just let things go. Maybe see a therapist or a psychic if this will help you to move through the pain.
So, Do Virgo Men Like Playing Mind Games?
Virgo men are very smart and intelligent, but they really aren’t the type of guys to play games or want to manipulate women. They’re a bit too direct and forthcoming for this kind of behavior.
There has to be a real motive for a Virgo man to play mind games. Otherwise, he can come off that way and totally not be what he’s trying to achieve. He believes in being truthful.
A Virgo man also doesn’t like anyone playing mind games with him. He doesn’t want to have to guess what is on your mind, how you feel about him, or what you want. In fact, he’d probably tell you that he isn’t good at guessing games.
So, a Virgo man playing games are something really rare, and usually, only come up with the sign when the man is particularly immature. It is best to steer clear from these Virgo men as they will drive you mad and you deserve so much more than that.
Is Your Virgo Man Distant After Intimacy?
Does your Virgo man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer? Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?
If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.
He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment…
If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times. And both are caused by childhood trauma.
When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant…
Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…
It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior.
But that won’t fix it.
And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.
Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology.
It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.
So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…
Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.