Hello, gorgeous! So you’ve set your sights on a Virgo man, but you have noticed that he tends to blow hot and cold. You might be wondering why are Virgos so hot and cold. One minute they’re all over you, the next you never hear from them for days.
What is up with the hot and cold Virgo man behaviour? It is so frustrating because all you probably want to do is to move forward with him, but when you check again it feels like you’re only going backwards. What a nightmare!
It can be very confusing to try and understand why a Virgo man behaves like this. But don’t worry, you have come to the right place and I can put your mind at ease and make you understand why this happens and what you need to do about it.
So if you’re curious to find out why a Virgo man would do this, then keep on reading to find out more. I promise you’ll understand what to do next. Here we go:
Virgo Hot And Cold Personality
Virgo men are some of the most confusing guys in the Zodiac. The thing with them is, they have very high standards and because of this they can often be quite critical of others.
A Virgo man may think that you are his perfect match at first, but when he gets to know you he just can’t help but see all of your flaws and want to criticize them. This is often the reason why he will act hold and cold.
This is a man who strives for perfection and whenever something doesn’t align properly with the way he envisions his life, he tends to become quite pessimistic and withdrawn.
You should know, this isn’t really a reflection on you at all. It is he who needs to accept that he cannot control everyone around him and that maybe he should actually learn how to compromise if he wants to be in a happy relationship.
Why Is A Virgo Man Hot And Cold? 7 Possible Reasons For Virgo Man’s Hot And Cold Behaviour
1. He Is Uncertain About You
In the beginning, you feel like you’re in a fairytale relationship and this man has swept you off your feet. His words are right on point, he treats you well, and he makes you feel loved.
His ability to get into your soul makes you feel like a million bucks. This is the one, and no one else can compare to him, so you feel this is it. The feeling is like hitting the jackpot.
Then suddenly your Virgo man starts to pull back, stops calling as much, stops texting, or will only respond if you text him first, he disappears for days at a time with no contact or tells you he isn’t sure this is the right relationship for him.
As doubts creep in, he becomes more anxious. There is a certain amount of skepticism in Virgo men in life, which makes them analyze everyone as well as any relationship, whether it’s romantic, friendship, or family.
His brain is constantly thinking, weighing pros and cons, assessing people, and wondering about their motives. In other words, he overthinks a lot. A situation like this can lead to him doubting the relationship and pulling away from it.
Whenever he’s unsure, he thinks spending time alone with his thoughts is the best way to figure things out. Sadly, he does not always express this to his partners or potential partners.
There is a coldness and hardness to him. Despite his best intentions, he doesn’t consider that he should speak up and tell his partner he has doubts and why. It’s important for him to consider all angles before making a decision. It is important to him to be 100% certain.
2. He Has Been Hurt In The Past
In addition, if he has been hurt in the past, he will carry those wounds forward. Virgo men are serious when they commit to someone. His decision won’t be made until he is certain it is the right one.
If you notice that he’s acting this way, you may try reaching out to him by asking him “I have noticed that you’re pulling back a bit and I was wondering if there is anything I can do”.
Take a look at what he says. Then he might actually tell you about all the things he has going on right now. There might be no connection between you and it. There may be other issues in his life that he is not ready to discuss.
In any case, if you reach out to him and let him know you sense something is off and you’d like to help in any way you can, he’ll either tell you he’s doubting himself or he has other crises on his plate.
3. He Might Not Be Ready For Something Serious
Once again, the Virgo man isn’t forthcoming with his emotions. When it comes to his emotions, he isn’t as honest as he is about everything else in his life. Whenever he is fearful or has doubts, he will clam up.
If he is not ready to open up, you cannot force him to do so. After months of being together, many women write me complaining that their Virgo guy has not opened up to them. There is a difference in time-table between Virgo men and us.
For us, 3 to 6 months may seem like a long time, but for him it is just 3 to 6 days. Because he thinks very slowly, he takes a long time to trust someone enough to let them into his life.
4. He Is Protective Of His Heart
The walls around his heart prevent him from just opening up and divulging all his feelings, talking about his past, or going into other deep emotions. It may take him a year or more (sometimes longer) before he’s comfortable talking to you about what he really thinks or feels.
He won’t get down deep with you until he feels he can trust you not to leave him or criticize him for his past. Until then, he’ll talk about things that don’t have too much emotion behind them.
Here’s more on how to get a Virgo man to open up and become emotionally available <<
Your Virgo man leaves you in limbo when he pulls back. Is there anything you can do when he goes quiet and doesn’t tell you why? You can try something like “I’m worried that maybe I did something wrong, are you alright? Is there anything I can do?” He realizes that you’re in a bind when you ask this question.
Whenever he realizes how impactful not talking to you can be, he’ll try to explain what’s happening and what may happen.
If you struggle with getting your Virgo man to open up and finding the right words to make him feel special, I strongly suggest getting my Virgo Man Love Language guide. It will help you finally speak the same love language as him, and make your bond so much stronger.
5. The Pressure Is Too Much For Him
Do you remember how I mentioned Virgo men can be slow to open up? The more you push him, the colder he will become to you. Relax a little and take a step back. Lean back and let him come to you.
You need to back off while he’s getting to know you and trying to figure out whether he can trust you. Make sure you don’t push him to answer questions he isn’t ready to answer.
Virgo men should never be pressured into marriage. Choosing to do so will be one of the biggest mistakes you ever make. One of the few signs that doesn’t need a companion to live happily is the Virgo. It is perfectly fine for him to remain single.
Having patience, and love, and letting him go at his own pace can help you connect with a Virgo man more easily.
6. His Self-Esteem Is Struggling
Virgo men usually have a very well-done appearance and seem successful. Behind closed doors, he struggles with his self-worth and esteem. Making Virgo man acting hot and cold.
Only those he allows in will know this, of course. Hence, if you have been chosen by him to be a part of his world and heart, you will need to comfort him and make him feel valuable.
It’s important to reassure him in every way possible. You may experience less pulling back and more hot moments instead of him being cold. If he’s insecure, and you make him feel comfortable it will bring him peace.
His emotional walls will start to come down once he knows he can trust you and that you’ve got his back. You should be very careful with this guy’s heart. Even the slightest insult could send him into a tailspin because he is very sensitive.
7. He Struggles With Anxiety
A Virgo man spends a lot of time analyzing, contemplating, and daydreaming. It is a trait of a Virgo man to act hot and cold at the same time. He is constantly analyzing your actions and your words in a relationship. By doing this, he is able to get to know you better.
Furthermore, it means that he is able to distinguish between lying and telling the truth. Whenever he thinks about what is happening, what has happened, or what may happen, he creates anxiety for himself.
Keep in mind that the Virgo man needs to be reassured often if you’re in a serious relationship with him or are at least trying to get there. As far as his actions and words are concerned, he wants to make sure he is doing the right thing.
You can reduce his anxiety by letting him know he’s on track with you. Be patient with the process as it may take some time. Anxiety is something he needs to deal with on a constant basis, so you need to be patient in allowing him to trust you.
How To Deal With A Virgo Man Who Is Blowing Hot And Cold
Let’s face it girls, Virgo men are insecure and this is usually the reason why they blow hot and cold. They really think they don’t deserve an amazing woman like you and this is why they will push you away.
You can try and reassure your Virgo man that you care about him and that you aren’t going anywhere. But you need to understand that you are going to have to be patient with him because he doesn’t move as fast as some other men or us women.
You need to know your worth, but also know how to make your Virgo man feel good and like you care about him. Just remember, don’t compromise yourself to make him happy. Make yourself number one!
How To Reconnect With A Virgo Man When He Goes Cold
His life will be transformed when the right person emerges and shows him love as he has never experienced, and patience and diligence. He will either tell her everything at once or divulge enough information so that she comprehends it.
When a Virgo man becomes distant, be patient. It seems like he’s always thinking about something. We can blame good old Mercury for being the ruler of his sign.
Virgo men may experience nervousness, neurosis, and anxiety as a result of this planet. It is important to give him the space he needs so he can sort out his feelings rationally since he will be thinking about a million things at once.
The more you text Virgo men about where they are and what they are up to, the more they may feel the pressure, which isn’t good. It will take him time to forgive you and to breathe. Give him space to do so.
When a Virgo man keeps blowing hot and cold, you can try any of these tips and I am sure this will help you to get your Virgo man to stop ignoring you. It might just take a little bit of elbow grease to get you where you want to be!
FAQ About Virgo Man Hot And Cold Behavior
Why Would A Virgo Man Go Distant When Everything Seemed To Be Going Well?
A Virgo’s disinterest in having a relationship with you is one reason for his distance. Usually, they come on hot and heavy when he first agrees to date you, but he may change his mind as he gets to know you.
You can’t figure out what happened when he suddenly pulls back! There is something about you that he does not like and does not think that it can be changed, so it immediately turns him away from you. This might be painful to hear, but it is the truth – I am sorry.
Whenever he finds problems or differences that he does not want to address or that are not fixable, he will just bail out. It may be that he does not want to hurt your feelings and does not want to tell you what it is.
The Virgo man requires a lot of care and maintenance. If you stick with them, they can be worth it. You should keep in mind that if the Virgo man is distant and you haven’t heard from him for a long time, he is probably finished. There is no point in sticking around then – have some self-respect.
How Do You Tell If A Virgo Man Is Confused About His Feelings For You?
He may act hot and cold if he feels too much anxiety, stress, or pressure, and this could seem like he’s distancing himself from you. It may not even be because of you but it feels like it, however, usually this is because he is confused about his feelings for you.
Considering that he’s been through this before, and you realize that it’s nothing to do with you, perhaps you can remain strong for him and understand that he’ll emerge when the time is right.
When you know you haven’t done anything wrong, don’t take it personally. Probably he’ll tell you he’s in a bad mood or having a hard time. Let him have some space at that point because you know it’s not you.
In this state, he may lash out or become very cold toward you, so watch your step if you push him. It is important to be gentle, loving, and understanding of his needs.
It is possible that he is physically suffering from anxiety problems. To cope with the feelings he sometimes experiences, he may also be on medication or doing natural methods. This can cloud his judgment and make him unsure about what he is truly feeling.
Why Most Dating Advice Can Be Dangerous With A Virgo Man…
Over the years, I’ve had a lot of my clients send me advice they got from dating coaches. They wanted to know if it would work with their Virgo man.
And I literally wanted to scream with frustration…
Because most dating advice definitely will NOT work if you use it with a Virgo.
You see, Virgo men are VERY different than men of other signs. And if you use standard dating advice with a Virgo, it can backfire. He might disappear forever and you’ll never hear from him again.
I don’t want that to happen to you. Especially when it is SO easy to draw him to you and get him to connect deeply with your heart.
You just need to know the specific phrases to tell him…
So he’ll NEVER want to lose you. He’ll be wrapped around your finger… And it won’t take him long to put a ring on that finger either.
These phrases are the EXACT thing you need to turn everything around with him.
So… for heaven’s sake… DON’T listen to normal dating coaches! They give out the same advice for ALL men… which is absolutely insane.
Because your wonderful Virgo is NOT like other men… at ALL.