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How Can You Tell if Your Virgo Man Is Done With You?

How to tell a Virgo man is done with you? Have you had a falling out with your Virgo guy and now he’s being ice cold? Has he left you feeling as though he’s over you and has moved on?

Here are some key points for you to consider that may help you figure out whether he’s done or just needs healing:

He Isn’t Calling or Texting

You can tell a Virgo man is done with you when he goes painfully silent. Just as a Virgo man becomes incredibly attentive when he’s in love; he’ll do just the opposite when he feels hurt, betrayed, or isn’t in love anymore.

He will pull back and stop contacting you.

If you’ve tried to reach out to him and he still isn’t responding he may be done with you. He will ignore you in every way possible. When he’s upset he may ignore just for a short time.

When he’s done he ignores completely as he’s basically decided to wash his hands of you. It all depends on what occurred before he stopped talking to you as to whether there is any chance or not.

If you live with him he’ll avoid eye contact with you and will speak minimally if, at all. He may find excuses to leave the house or be somewhere other than home with you.

Naturally, if you see him packing his things; he’s done. If you come home and all his stuff is gone, he’s done. These will be more of the obvious signs you can come across.

He Criticizes You

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He tends to be critical when he’s in love because he cares. However, his tone will change and become more like an attack to you when a Virgo man is done with you. His voice will sound different.

Suddenly he will nitpick on things that he finds wrong with you just because he doesn’t like it and wants to exacerbate the situation as much as possible. He wants to hurt you or make you mad.

So whereas his critical nature used to be that of trying to help you and make things better between, when he’s done, he will do it in a really nasty way that will hurt you on purpose.

Virgo men can sometimes be indecisive and not want to initiate breakup even though he isn’t in it with his heart anymore. This causes him to try to be crappy toward you so that you’ll take the initiative.

He will basically try to upset you enough that you’ll draw the line and tell him that YOU are done and want to break it off.

Analyzing Everything

When things are good the Virgo man will be happy to bask in the togetherness you have. He’ll point out all the things you have in common. When he becomes unhappy or is ready to call it quits, again, he goes opposite.

He becomes this angry tyrant that cannot help himself, and it may mean the Virgo man is done with you. He will point out the flaws in the relationship and the differences in an effort to make them seem worse than the things you have in common.

If you notice that he’s suddenly started pointing out all the things that are wrong with your relationship; this could mean that he’s already on the way out with you. It may be a good idea to ask him why he’s saying these things.

Pointing out the inadequacies in what you two have between you is basically saying to you that he isn’t happy.  If he isn’t happy then this means that either you need counseling or he wants out.

He Speaks His Mind

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Virgo men tend to be very blunt when they speak. As such he could very well just tell you that he is done. When a Virgo man is done with you he means it. There is no second guessing or thinking he meant something else.

A Virgo man says what he means and means what he says. Telling you it’s over is a sure fire way of him letting you know. If he hasn’t said it but is displaying the other signs here it may be time to ask him.

He will likely be honest with you if you ask him if he wants to end things. The hard part will be for you to work up the nerve to ask him. It’s better to go ahead and pull that band-aid off and get it over with.

The longer you wait the worse his behavior will become. If not, he’ll just completely cut you off and you’ll never know what happened or why. It’s better to just talk to him.

When a Virgo man wants out; you may want to let him go. If you try to keep him or pressure him to stay with you; he’ll only be resentful. That doesn’t mean that you cannot get another chance later.

Give Him Some Space

It really depends on what happened or why he isn’t in love with you anymore. If it was something that you accidentally said or did you can probably still work it out but you’ll have to give him some time.

Allowing him to go when he wants to go will let him leave with peace of mind. He can then try to work out what happened and what he can do going forward. If he still loves you he may return.

Again, Virgo men are not one to be forced to do anything. So if you find that things are amiss with your Virgo man, you’ll need to give him some of your best efforts of patience.

Unless he tells you that he is absolutely done with you; there is always still a chance. It may take a while but it’s there. If he did say he’s done; he is likely telling you exactly how it is.

Watch for the signs and try your best to always provide peace and happiness with your Virgo man. Maybe this whole thing can be avoided. When he loves, he loves very deeply and takes his commitment seriously.

Not all Virgo men are identical. Find out more about the mysterious Virgo man by clicking here.

I hope this helps you understand what you’re dealing with better. Good luck ladies!

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Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

29 thoughts on “How Can You Tell if Your Virgo Man Is Done With You?

  1. Exactly! I’m in a committed relationship with a virgo man born on 4th September. No doubt he’s a great guy! But as a cancer woman, I felt bad he became withdrawn over something I did said but never felt he’ll be angry about. I didn’t hesitate to apologise when I noticed he was acting cold. But we kept the communication going but I knew deep down he wasn’t acting sweet in our chats like he used to. I kept apologising until I got upset and asked him if we were done, yet he ignored. I called but he didn’t pick but he was always online. Until I noticed there was a girl who she was acting sweet with on fb! I confronted him and he still ignored. Yet I apologised but he still ignored and refused to contact me till 3weeks now. I feel hurt but I have left him to enjoy his peace. I will watch him to see if he will be back before 2months time. I have moved on! If he comes back fine… if he doesn’t fine.

    1. A young virgo man came into my life (he is 21 years old and I am 24 years old-). I am a Leo woman. He promised to be there for me and support me, promising to marry me soon and promising a future with me. He cared about me initially because I was in an abusive relationship with another man. So I gave in to this Virgo man thinking he was very serious about me, as he introduced me to his family and I did the same. We went on a trip together within 3 months of our relationship. We got really close in our trip and I thought he was the one, at least that is what he made me feel. But 2 weeks later of the trip, he started to distance from me, and finally broke it off a week later for religious reasons. I was ready to start a future with him, but he decided to part ways and I am confused what really happened with me. He found me broken, promised to fix things, and left me twice broken. He would always told me he loved and cared about me. But his last words were that he wants to be close to God and relationships in general are sinful. We are Muslims by the way. I agree he rushed through this relationship and acted impulsive, and I gave everything and listened to him always because he showed me love and care when I felt broken. But I want to prevent such things ever happening to me in my life because I can not constantly get broken like this.

  2. wow that’s harsh, I mean come on. I know you’re a virgo and I’m not and I’m not letting my sign stand in the way of any communication skillz. Why do I have to stay patient with a virgo man, when he can do the same for me. To me in a relationship or the beginning of it, it has to be give and take and not just take and take because you’re a virgo. And I just have to be patient in it all in the hope he will stay connected with me. I really like this virgo man, but I also like myself and my heart and at this point I just can’t take it anymore and I don’t know if this is worth it all, the pulling and letting go over and over again…

    Good luck to everyone reading this!

  3. Recently my boy friend who is a Virgo got me a hotel so he could go see his son. Who he had with his ex wife. She got a court order saying they can’t be around me even though she has never met me. And I invited some frinds.over to my room and they started smoking and it was a non smoking facility. And got us all kicked out. And they charged my boyfriend. 250$ I played him back. But I am.wonderung if this enough to make him break up with me. I really love him and he really seems to love me. But I have always had bad luck with relationships. So I am scared that this man I actually care about will leave. Am I just being paranoid?

  4. so… it must be really over for us too? he’s ignoring me for quite sometime now.. nothing went wrong though.. why are virgos so likeable??!? ???

  5. I’m in an actual committed relationship with a Virgo man and he goes through being warm and affectionate to very cold to me all in the same day. I’m a Pisces and mostly warm. I give him his space, but answer his requests for food, affection, whatever without holding the returning coldness against him. However, I can’t hold up much longer and am trying to figure out how we can either continue the relationship on a better note without him resenting me or have a non messy mutual break up. I’ve gone quiet, submissive, and pretty much with his flow as things have gotten worse and instead of making him happy, it’s making him a spoiled tyrant. It’s a vicious cycle. The meaner he is, the more accommodating I am while growing emotionally distant.

    He admits to liking to argue just for the sake of sport or just to have something to do and I think that’s a sickness. There’s enough trouble in the world without causing trouble in a relationship.

    1. I totally understand accommodating to them with hopes to make a positive effort within the relationship but feeling stuck because it’s only making him spoiled. OMG you hit it right on the nose ! They are tyrants ! What sign makes THEM move and has them wrapped around their finger?? I’d love to know

    2. They’re only good for a fun piece of a$$. I swear he is my soulmate, but it’s not worth the sh*t treatment he gives me. Done?

    3. Hi PiscesGal! Virgo men have these mood swings with how they act because they are built to be alone. They are the one sign in the Zodiac that doesn’t need a partnership to be happy. They can be an eternal bachelor and be totally cool with it. That being said, they sometimes don’t know how to cope with how they are feeling or act accordingly if something changes. Their mind is constantly bombarded with thoughts and analytical obsessions. They are riddled with constant thoughts and feelings which makes them critical of themselves as well as others. They’re hard to understand but there is hope! Don’t be co-dependent and cater to him when he’s being distant. Stand up and tell him exactly how you feel. He prefers a strong woman opposed to a woman that tries to give him all he wants. Sounds odd I know but it’s true. There are so many things you need to know sweetheart. Check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets” as I think it will reveal much to you.

  6. My Virgo man if I can still call him that went from texting me last week missing my kiss and me being next to him to five days of no calls and unanswered texts. Nothing went wrong no fighting or anything we talk things over and never miss more than two days no communication its been almost six. I am hurt because I don’t know where this came from there were no signs that I saw I love him more than I’ve ever loved anybody but I can’t fight for you if you’re done I’m not the stalker type but I need to know if its completely over and why.

    1. Hi “In Limbo”. thank you for writing in about your Virgo man situation. Virgo men sometimes struggle with being alone and being with someone. They love being alone doing their thing but they also love being with someone. Virgo is the one sign in the zodiac who doesn’t actually need a partnership to live happily and can live solo. That being said, I think he’s probably trying to figure out if he can be in a relationship or if he wants to be alone. Two days of no communication really isn’t anything in the grand scheme of things. Virgo men do not have the same time frame as everyone else. 1 week to most would be like a day to him. He’s a slow mover and the only way to get through is with communication (not via text) and patience. If you’d like to know more about Virgo man and what they’re really like, check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  7. its been 7 weeks since i last spoke to my virgo man … im a cap…. we didnt argue maybe had a lil tiff about communication but nothing major to blow up about. i dont know whats going on and i need answers.. i have reached out and left messages , called ,everything in my power to contact him and nothing … never been in this type of situation before, pls helwe talked before he did the ghost move and i asked him if he still wanted to be in the relationship, i even offered to start over between the two and he said he would like that , i tried to reassure him that i am not going anywhere i love him and he knows there is no one else. i dont understand how can you give someone the silent treatment when you dont like it yourself…. advice anyone

    1. Hi Nikima! Thank you for writing in about your difficult Virgo man situation. It sounds like maybe he has something going on in his life that he doesn’t want to discuss. Perhaps some tragedy happened or something that was rather a soul-crushing for him. If it’s something that he’s deeply hurt by or depressed about, he typically will not want to reach out and talk about it. He takes this burden on and may even sometimes be somewhat OCD about it. He’ll obsess and worry instead of talking about it with someone and finding some solutions for healing. All you can really do is give him some time and space. Perhaps send him a text saying “I care very much and am still here. I’m concerned I haven’t heard from you. I hope you’re alright” and see if he answers. If not, wait a week then try again. Do this about 3 weeks in a row. If still nothing, then you’re forced to let go and move on. There is a good chance though that he’ll reach out. If you’d like to know more about Virgo man, please check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  8. Am a sag girl, my ex is a virgo man. What can i say he makes me feel safe at the same time he makes me feel lonely. Its been 4 years since we broke up, but i still kinda love him, but he is kinda distant, busy….but recently he told me that he still loves me, but he is still distant, he may not call for a month, then he will initiate a convo when ever he likes. Virgos are very honest…so he also kinda told me that we should sleep together (without any relationship), eventhough i get the attraction but its just so disrespectful knowing zt its only physical.
    I was the one who initiated the break up, b/c he was acting so cold and distant.
    So anyone pls tell me what he wants??

    1. Hi Sag! Thank you for writing in about your frustrating Virgo man situation. It sounds like though he cares for you, he isn’t interested in having a relationship. He’s being honest when he is telling you he would like to have a sexual thing with you but without a relationship. There is something going on with him in his life that he knows that being in a relationship isn’t something he can handle or want at this time. Many Virgo men can actually be single all of their lives and be alright with it. This is the one sign that doesn’t NEED a partnership. This is what makes them hard to get. I’d take what he tells you at face value. If you’d like to know more about Virgo men and their motives, please check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  9. Seems like you are the side chick for when the main chick isn’t around.
    I kinda wouldn’t tread thee if you found him cold in the past. Let go, if he isn’t calling or texting you daily then its best not to be a part of it. What if you found out he destroyed a relationship with you? Is that worth it?

    1. Hi Gem! I believe you must be replying to someone else’s situation as it doesn’t appear you’re asking me a question. However, I will go ahead and add some input. Cold is something that Virgo men do when they are scared or unsure. They can go cold when they’re done too but, to 100% know for sure, it’s a good idea to just go ahead and blatantly ask him so you can at least get an answer. Virgo men typically don’t have a “side chick” as they are the type that is old fashioned. There are rare instances where some may cheat but it would have to be caused by narcissism or perhaps another aspect in their chart making them more suceptible to such an action. You can learn so much more through my book “Virgo Man Secrets” at

  10. Honestly, I’ve been on and off with my Virgo consistly for 6 years now. He does all of these things and more but never wants us to break up.(for good),??? I’m starting to think it’s because HE wants to be the one to leave me and not the other way around but now I don’t know if this is the real him or we’re just not meant to be but can’t stand to see each other with someone new ., I promise this will be my first and last relationship with any Virgo forever “I think I’m crazy at times for entertaining his arguments when they are completely opposite of reality just to justify his actions . The sarcasm, rudeness, mockery, and pain they give is enough to last a lifetime if you’re not the most confident already. I’m the one that’s done! But I feel trapped and like I’m wrong if I keep trying to leave him. But he’s clearly not happy either so idk wth we’ Doing

    1. Hi there sweetheart! Thank you for sharing your shaky situation. It sounds like he’s doing the typical control thing that Virgo men do. They are critical, they are back and forth, indecisive until they analyze it over and over, then do a tug of war with their partner. Virgo men do not take relationships lightly which is why they take forever before they actually break up if that’s what they’re really after. He may be trying to come up with ways to salvage things but isn’t sure if he can or how. If you’re not happy with him though then perhaps you should move on without his permission or input. You’re not trapped, you have free will and can exit anytime you want. Though if you’re still in love with him or feel any hope between you, you may want to learn more. Check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  11. I’ve been in a relationship with a Virgo and and I am a libra, I’ve found it very difficult to deal with the hot and cold in our relationship, it’s made me very emotionally unstable it’s been about 3 weeks I’ve had any proper communication I’ve tried calling and messaging we didn’t have an argument this time but our almost 6 year relationship hasn’t been smooth sailing, it feels different though he’s done some very cruel things silent treatment for a week, standing me up on my birthday, hurtful criticism, but it feels different this time. I love him so much but I don’t know if this continuous pain is worth it. I’ve messaged him reassuring I love him and wanting to know what’s going on but it’s just so hard to not think about. My mum says maybe he wants it to be over but can’t find the words or doesn’t want to live with the guilt but I don’t know. I would love some advice. Im really confused and don’t know what to do.

    1. Hi Sara! As a Libra woman, you need a bit of balance and when he does this hot and cold stuff, it throws you off your balance. It’s easy to see why this would be very problematic for you. The thing is, Virgo men are known for being critical of others and themselves as well. In fact, they’re more critical of themselves which typically can cause them to have self-esteem issues. This makes them off kilter to themselves and finds it hard to relate what they’re feeling. If you want to know where you stand with him, what he wants, or where things are headed, you’re going to have to step out of your comfort zone and flat out ask him. He will have to tell you the truth. Perhaps learning more about Virgo man may help you understand a bit better how they are, how they act, and how to deal with them. Check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  12. I’m a Scorpio woman who was dating a virgo woman recently. We both had a lot in common, like the fact that our ex wives were both toxic and abusive, as well as our mother’s were both cancers and also abusive; we are both loners at heart and prefer to be in loving committed relationships.

    As a Scorpio I hate being compared to anyone and I found that this virgo woman was constantly comparing me to her ex wife. She complained that her ex wife was overly emotional (being as the ex was cancer I can believe that) and would appear to be charming to everyone but was abusive to her and would always start fights.

    A few days ago we had a debate in which we agreed on a lot of points however during our little debate she told me I reminded her of her ex wife and that “this can’t work” then she asked me to leave. I was really puzzled as to why she would say such hurtful things to me. Afterwards she texted me and told me she would explain but then she said she needed space. So I’ve been giving her space in the hopes that she will realize that her critical way of thinking and her critical words can be rather hurtful and also that she will realize that even though I’m a water sign I’m nothing like her ex (people often confuse being passionate for being emotional).

    I’m wondering though… should I just move on?

    1. So just as I was typing this up she replied to my message and then she called apologizing for how she reacted and explaining that she had suffered a great loss in the family. I reassured her that I was here for her and that I’d be praying for her but she kept saying she didn’t want to be a bother to anyone. How can I get through to her that I feel very strongly for her and her heart is safe with me?

    2. Hi K.M! It sounds like your Virgo is having difficulty getting over and healing from what the past brought to her. Virgo tries hard to move on and heal but they find themselves periodically reflecting back to the past and this causes them to self-sabotage. This would include being cold and callous toward a current partner or even accusing their current partner of things their ex did when it’s not even true. I think it would be wise to give her some space but occasionally text her to let her know you’re still there and still want to be with her. I know we’re talking about a woman and even though women are a bit different than men, you’ll find the Virgo quality is still very similar. That being said, you might want to check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets” as there may still be very useful information for you. Click here to explore:

  13. whew i have read a lot of painful scenarios here. and i think i’ll pen down mine.
    I had been with a virgo man for almost 7 years and it was fun and full of love at first i get energized and comportable being with him. about 3 years back he cheated on me over his ex but managed to keep me nevertheless until i found out so. seems the ex begged for some help to get stable and he did helped out. while maintaining ours. but the coldness and lies are all there he has had a hardtime but can let me go until i found out on my own and ended it.

    after a year he started courting me again, after some months i fell again for his efforts but less than a year there goes again his coldness, excuses, lies (for me not to get angry). just last mon he just send a message telling im better off to find a man who will truly love me and even more than i deserve. i tried my best to reach out calling him several times as if he has no heart seeing my calls but not answering, i send a couple of plain message asking for us to talk but i was ignored thou he read it.

    now iam really suffering and reassuring myself that i cando without him. im tired of crying thou but one thing im sure is if its not because of 3rd party i can accept him back. well we do loved once a virgo – =)

    1. Hi starbabe,

      It seems like your scenario is quite similar to mine. I had been with this virgo man for more than 7 years who is born on 4th sept. Beginning of the relationship was awesome, he treated me very well giving me a lot of attention telling me how wonderful I am. Things changed after few years as he relocated for a job. Long distance relation has a lot of problem but we somehow manage. we used to fight for a silly things which made me sick. He sometime used to fight with me purposely and then blame me for it. Being a Scorpio I’ve always returned the favor. If he hurted me I’ve hurted him too. & our relationship was going through tough time but it was Dec 2018 when he said he is done with me. I knew he is loyal to me but because of the fights we always had, he broke up with me. He was in contact with me but being a Scorpio there was alot of things going in my mind about the break up. I became suspicious if there was someone else in his life. This made me more insecure and even he said there is no one we had a fight again. I tried convincing him I said sorry and begged him for another chance But he didn’t replied. He knew i am emotionally weak, madly in love with him, he knew i cant handle this break up, still He blocked me and I was completely broken. After trying & crying for 2 months I felt like I don’t have self respect. So I decided to move on and i start focus on myself. Now i have achieved so much in my professional life, I don’t want him anymore. I got a text from him on Feb 25th saying that he left his job. I replied him 3 weeks later saying thank you for break up coz it changed my life. It seems like he miss me. Now i got his text he wants to meet me and clear things. Yes I will give him another chance now but at the same time I’ll love myself more than I love him. I have strongly decided Anytime he want to break relationship in future I’ll help him by making sure I kick him out of my life. No begging and crying next time. I have drawn a very thin line, he won’t be able to hurt me again.

    2. Hi Starbabe! It sounds like your Virgo guy suffers from horribly low self-esteem. This isn’t uncommon when it comes to Virgo. They pretend that they have it all together and appear to be “the bomb” when they are actually quite insecure. If he feels that he doesn’t deserve you then this causes him to have self-destructive behavior including sabotaging his relationship with you by doing what he did. Virgo men are complicated. They have to define their self worth and rise above in order to succeed. Sadly they criticize themselves far too much and this tears their own esteem down. You may want to check out more regarding Virgo men so that you get a better handle on what they’re like and how to deal with them if you choose to deal with him again at all. Check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets” here:

  14. im a virgo man, and i feel like if a woman im w is entertaining a bunch of men then ill start to exit from around her. if somebody thinks they have me wrapped around their finger bc im being nice and affectionate, then i get pissed like im in danger of being played.
    if i become aware that she doesnt last long in a relationship, has a reputation for getting “bored” w her bfs, and is said to be a more “sinister” person when away from me then youre otw out once my worries of being another bf you dump overwhelm me.
    talking trash about your friends to me? youre an idiot and its highly backstabbish, and i instantly know youre trashing me to whoever when im not around.
    i love w alot of loyalty. ive disregarded bad behaviors from former gfs in hopes that if i treat somebody right that theyll act right too. not true. i was always sacrificing my own boundaries just for the sake of us being close through compromise.
    virgos are not assholes just to be assholes. were sensitive and we dont wanna hurt anybody. we wanna help you be the best you that you can be basically. so when somebody hurts us and we didnt provoke it, then we feel attacked for just having your best interests at heart.
    some of us, including me, tend to just say what i gotta say and after no real change happens, then you become non existent to me anymore.
    i made that decision bc who am i to say anything to anybody about what they should be or not be concerning me?
    if i say something, ill get shunned bc women ultimately dont wanna be w a man who voices his insecurities. not just 1x but many times bc im a virgo and i worry my ass off in certain situations.
    ill let you know what makes me feel unsafe while being w you. ill let you know in a polite and loving manner. you will be aware of what is causing me to feel unsafe, but usually im not heard and eventually im very done.
    a man feeling unsafe? yes and im voicing it. generally if you are showing signs of compromising loyalty, vulnerability, and transparency to a certain degree then i will feel very disrespected and view you as a hypocrite. my loyalty comes easy, but it comes w the price of being just as loyal as i am to them – or ill be gone completely.
    i need exclusivity if im gonna be in love or with somebody. i mean, would you wanna have anything less when dealing w your heart?

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