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Do Virgo Men Like Being “Friends With Benefits”: Will He Want More?

Do Virgo men like being friends with benefits? I’ve had clients write to me before asking these types of questions. If a Virgo man only wants a committed relationship or can he have a “friends with benefits” situation.

I’ve also had women ask if their Virgo “FWB” will ever commit. Here is some important information for you to consider.

Friends with Benefits: A Unlikely Relationship

Most Virgo men do not like these types of relationships. However, some will commit to this type of relationship with a partner who understands his lack of desire in a serious relationship.

The woman he chooses must absolutely know that she isn’t in it for anything more than it is. She also needs to make it perfectly clear from the get-go that it will never cross the line of being something more.

This isn’t for his benefit but rather for her own. If she starts having more feelings for him than he has for her this could create a rift. The guidelines of what the two agree on will have to be upheld.

You can never assume that the Virgo man is emotionally committed to you simply because he’s committed to you physically. In his mind, you are a friend that he has sex with and good times. So, do Virgo men like being friends with benefits? It depends on your Virgo and your relationship.

Don’t Assume

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Trust me when I tell you if he doesn’t call you his girlfriend, you are NOT his girlfriend. You may be exclusively sleeping together but you are NOT in a committed relationship. There is a big difference between the two.

It may not seem that way to you but it IS that way with him. Virgo men are truthful with their intent. They mean what they say to you. It’s a dangerous game to ever assume they’re feeling something that they aren’t.

If you are having an “FWB” relationship with a Virgo man and are feeling more for him, you’re going to have to ask him if he’s feeling anything more for you. He will likely be truthful with you.

In the event that you asked him and he says he just wants to remain “FWB” then you’ll have your answer. It will then be up to you whether you want to continue with it or if you have more feelings and need more thus walking away.

Again, it’s rare for a Virgo man to even engage in this type of relationship in the first place. It will likely depend on their Moon as far as where their integrity is at. Most Virgo men want a fully committed relationship.

He will not typically start a lifelong relationship with someone he’s having a “friends with benefit” relationship with. It goes against his beliefs and moral code. So, if you’re wondering: do Virgo men like being friends with benefits, they might enjoy it only if they’re not serious about you.

No Jealousy

If you get a Virgo man to agree to a “friends with benefit” situation, you’ll not be able to express jealousy in any form. You both have to agree at the beginning that this is not allowed.

You will not be able to get angry or upset by other women he spends his time with nor can he get upset about men you are spending time with. You will also need to establish if you’ll be exclusive when it comes to sex.

He at least wants to have loyalty in the form of your friendship if all you are going to be is friends that occasionally sleep together.

Gemini women and Sagittarius women are fantastic matches for the Virgo man that IS interested in a sexually beneficial friendship. Gemini isn’t opposed to this arrangement as they aren’t looking for a serious relationship.

I cannot claim that for all Gemini women, however. Do Virgo men like being friends with benefits? Again, it depends on what their moon is. Sagittarius women are free and open minded much of the time; unless she has a Scorpio moon which makes her jealous.

No Expectations

If you are sleeping with your Virgo male friend you cannot expect it to ever become more. As I mentioned before, it should be clear at the beginning that feelings shouldn’t get involved.

Sadly many women do not abide by this and develop more feelings than they should and ultimately end up hurt. They assume that their Virgo man has more feelings than what he says and that there is potential.

It’s very unlikely he’ll go from FWB to Girlfriend. The woman he wants to fall in love with and spend the rest of his life with will probably not be the woman he’s been sleeping with without commitment.

In fact, he’s more turned on to a woman who will not give herself away right away upon dating him. This will appeal to his moral code better. If you’re trying to get through some back door system of getting a Virgo man to commit; this is not the way to do it.

Translation Problems

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Unless your Virgo comes out and confesses his undying love to you, you are NOT his girlfriend. This applies to almost all the signs in the zodiac. If you agreed to be friends that occasionally share naughty time; that’s what he’ll expect.

You will catch him off guard if you profess your feelings when he hasn’t done the same and it will result in him probably ending what friendship you have. It’s rare for a man like this to go from intimate friends to a serious relationship.

All in all ladies, I’m telling you that unless he says otherwise to you verbally, you should never have any reason to think anything other than you are not his serious girlfriend. You are not dating.

A “friend with benefits” are two friends that are close, spend time together, and occasionally have intimacy. It can be exclusive as in not sleeping with other people but its open for you both to date others. So, do Virgo men like being friends with benefits? It really depends on how he sees you and what he wants from you.

Getting to Know More

If you want more from your Virgo man you’ll have to do it the old fashioned way of trying to actually date him and let him get to know you. Click here to learn more about the Virgo man’s desires.

I hope this helps you figure out what type of situation you’d like to have versus what the situation actually is. Be careful ladies!

What do you think? Do Virgo men like being friends with benefits?

Share your story (or situation) with our community in the comment section below (don’t worry, it’s anonymous).

Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach



22 thoughts on “Do Virgo Men Like Being “Friends With Benefits”: Will He Want More?

  1. Wondering why this is? I’ve had a FWB situation with a younger Virgo since the beginning of 2017. He is constantly sharing knowledge w me; offering his help; giving me recommendations. We have crazy naughty sex then spend one or two hours afterwards talking and discussing subjects like politics, athletics, travel, sociology; he has shared some w me about his family. However, he is fairly private. I have never been to his house. He always comes to mine. The couple of times he has mentioned wanting to do something outside of sex, he became busy or changed the plans slightly. It is a strange situation to be connected to someone sexually and intellectually, who offers unsolicited help and is happy to share whatever knowledge or experience he can, but has clear boundaries about where things stop. It seems there is potential for more, but I take your article seriously. Wondering why this situation is so black and white. What is it specifically about a Virgo male that will keep him from ever allowing a FWB situation to be more?

    1. Hello I’m a Virgo Female and yes that article nailed it!! I’ve been in 2 Virgo Male relationships, one was a committed relationship, the other was. FWB.. Virgo Men are so complex and complicated, when trying to figure out their intentions because they aren’t always clear, and NEVER on the surface.. BUT you have to be less complex and less complicated, and more open up front and forward ask him what he wants out of your FWB relationship, Tell him what you want without being demanding or offering up an ultimatum.. He will be clear and honest with his answers almost to the point of seeming to be a little arrogant but he’s not.. His intentions aren’t to hurt you in any way, and he wants to satisfy your every need and also protect your heart, even if his actions appear to be emotionally selfish.. ?Give him some space and a little time to miss you, don’t always be available at his beckoning call allow him to miss you and time to reflect on Y’all relationship.. and when you do decide to answer his call or respond to his text and he ask where have u been? Why haven’t you been answering my calls or text? simply reply I’ve been working a lot, doing some research on future endeavors I’d like to pursue and didn’t want any extractions, ive also been doing some deep soul searching on where I’d like be in my life in the next 5yrs.. and also you’re not my man are you? So I don’t Really owe u an explanation now do I? And laugh it off in a jokingly tone.. ??And quickly change the subject by asking how has he been. And how’s work going etc this will leave his mind racing and wondering.. It’s all mental with Virgo Men it’s a constant battle of wits, he’s attracted to a witty brainy intellectual sensually sexy independent morally rooted chic!! Ikr ? They just want to love nuture and have it reciprocated back unto them..

      1. Hi Bree!

        Thank you for your wonderful contribution as a Virgo woman explaining Virgo men. I think it’s fabulous what all you’ve done and what seems to work. Kudos to you sweetheart. Sounds like you figured out a workable formula for you!

    2. Although I am a virgo woman I relate very deeply to a lot of virgo man traits and What I can say for myself having friendships like this and still wanting boundaries to be respected can be for a number of reasons. one being protecting my own feelings two not trusting a FWB because in my head unless you are in union is morally the only time you should share your body with someone so when we are doing out of character things like having sexual relations with someone we aren’t married to, it feels like a sin. I feel like if a person doesn’t reserve their body or a person just gave it up its not really valuable so I don’t want to own it just want to rent it and have fun for a while perhaps until Im tired or annoyed with that person. Could still be friends as long as the person isnt clingy. Could still be of assistance because thats what friends do for each other. Another reason I feel us virgos may retreat from pursing more with a FWB is that there is a lack of trust maybe that virgo doesn’t feel like you’re loyal or you might not be open enough. Although virgo shares what seems to other people personal or private information it may not be personal or private at all in the mind of a virgo because it is something we have grown from so a person couldn’t use it against us. the dark stuff is still in secret. Also a virgo may no want to pursue more than FWB because there could be some other motives at play because we have high expectations for a partner. it may depend on your assets or resources and how giving you are. this doesnt mean we have bad motives we just like to be secure and have equality in partnerships. so u have to have something of value to that virgo. doesnt have to be money although preferred we are independent but have high respect for other independent people. i know some virgo man like women to lean on them a bit just not too much. Have a August virgo dad too he may be the one to want you for ya money something about those August virgos idk. lol

      1. Hello Virgo Woman!

        Wow thank you for sharing your own personal insight as a Virgo woman. Most Virgo men see it as you do but some do want to play around until they find someone more serious. What I know of Virgo men is that they some how see a woman as “tainted” if she’s willing to only be FWB. He thinks she’s too easy and he doesn’t want to settle down in a serious commitment to her. It’s not right but that appears to be what happens given my client emails I get. Again, thank you for chiming in, it’s much appreciated!

    3. Annette~ I’m in the same situation as you. I’m also with a younger Virgo man who has gone through a bad divorce . He told me he wanted a FWB relationship to start out with changing to a LTR. We have been together for 10 months now and I don’t see things progressing. I asked him once if I could go to his place of employment to see what he does. I was told no. He keeps his private life separate from his personal life. I feel like a big secret. Been thinking a lot lately about walking away because I’m falling in love with him and I’m afraid of getting hurt.

    4. Hi Annette!

      Well as far as I understand it, Virgo men are very picky. Once they have a FWB with you, they assume that you’re not the kind they want to take home to their family. I know that sounds really odd and not really fair but they tend to want to settle down with someone who is a bit more reserved with themselves and won’t settle for a FWB status. It is ridiculous but it’s how their mind thinks. I hope this helps you understand more but please check out my book series if you’d like to know more.

  2. Does this still apply if you were in a relationship with a virgo men and broke up and became friends with benefits?

    1. Hi Ang!

      When you’re FWB before or after a relationship, the Virgo man sees you as too easy and may not revert back into a relationship. Even if he knew you before, he will say you threw in the towel enough to settle for a FWB therefore you’re back to the FWB zone to stay. As long as you let him do this, he will keep it up until he finds someone else or until you end it. Stand up for yourself if you want more from him!

  3. I am a 37 yr old Scorpio woman that is in deep like with a 24 yr old Virgo male. We have been talking over the phone and in person for 6 months. We now talk just about everyday going as long as four days at the most without talking(calling is a mutual effort) . At first of course with any friendship we didn’t say or share much with each other, but recently we are way more open and in deeper communication with one another. I since then have fallen in like with him and i know most Virgos are shy and not good with expressing their feelings. No he has not made any advances towards me but its some if not a lot of things he says or don’t say because he goes quiet and says “im just thinking” when i feel he is trying to express himself to me, or when i bring up other guys in a casual conversation. I always say to him please share what your thinking with me but he just changes the subject. He is ALWAYS trying to prove to me that is a MAN a grown mature man and wants me to see him as nothing else. He always includes me in all his business endeavors. I am around him so much that i don’t see any others woman around as much as i am. I’m just so unsure about his feelings for me of being more than friends. He has told me that when he usually likes someone he approaches them with great confidence and if he gets rejected then oh well he moves on with no bad feelings, so i then thought well i can count myself out because he has not done that with me. He is out of state right now while i am moving into my new place and the last few times he keeps asking am i moved in yet, why haven’t you moved in yet, why is it taking so long for me to get settled in, he acts excited but plays it REALLY COOL. Please help! Am i in like alone or is he just a big shy guy because he doesn’t know how im going to react if he says something.

    1. Update: I finally became brave enough to tell him how I felt and asked him if he feels the same and his answer was NO ? Not exactly in those words but it was made really clear. Now he still comes around doing the same exact things. Honestly I really don’t wanna be around him, I keep my distance from him often then he questions where have I been, what have I been up to?, but he doesn’t want distance clearly with his actionsstill dropping in on me still dropping subliminal messages then reneging on them after I ask “what was that?” I still catch him staring at me ALOT! When I’m not looking.

      1. Hello there Unsure Scorpio!

        I’m sorry you’ve had a souring experience with a Virgo man. It sounds like he likes you but not like how you like him. He knows he isn’t on the same page as you but does see you somehow as a friend maybe. He cares for you but not in the way you want him to. Why? Well, he is probably insecure or unsure about what he wants for the future so he keeps playing with you until he CAN figure it out. You need to set boundaries with him and let him know that you’re either alright with just friends or that you don’t want it. Be really honest.

  4. I’ve been on again/off again for 4 years with my insecure Virgo man. We break up.then start to see each other throughout this time.

    He’s always putting me in that FWB box than staying he doesn’t feel safe or I haven’t done my emotional workwhen he’s the mess.

    Here’s the crummy news — it’s so hard to walk away from these men because when they’re with you they’re amazing. To have them go to the next level is accepting a snail’s pace of wishy washy behavior. Not for the faint at heart.

    He claims were just FWBs but he spends his intimate time with me. It’s all too confusing.

    I’ve learned to set boundaries and keep.the door open for my sanity.

    1. Hi Adrianna! I completely understand your frustration with your Virgo man situation. They can be downright hard to understand at times. They themselves don’t totally understand who they are either to be totally honest. They are more critical of themselves than they are of others. Sometimes they project on other people what they themselves are doing or feeling. If you aren’t interested in FWB, you need to tell him that you want more. Perhaps you can try being friends without the sex part and try to get to know him more that way. It’s rare for a Virgo man to want a FWB and could be caused by tremendous hurt he has from the past but there is so much to know about Virgo man that it would make your head spin. If you’d like more helpful information, please consider checking out my book “Virgo Man Secrets” as it may reveal things to you that may help your situation.

  5. The article enlightens me to some degree.
    Has known the Virgo man over a year, were intimate for months until I left his country, but we’re still in touch frequently.
    I thought it meant something that he’s always the one initiated everything, as well as his patience with me. Now I suppose it’s probably just him being very kind.
    For me it’s black or white. I like him, but if he has someone, I’d definitely leave, I don’t want to be one of the options.
    So, I can expect less from him.

    1. Hi Nokia! It’s hard for me to asses or advises you on your situation without knowing more information. Virgo men are complicated guys and are the type that can actually live a full life without having a partner. On the other hand, when they do seek out commitment, they’re very picky about it. They want to be absolutely sure that the woman they choose to commit to is someone they can see a future with. That being said, there is much much more you could learn about Virgo man if you’re willing to read up on it. I have a fantastic book that shares so much about this unusual guy that it may help you grasp who he is better and find a way forward.

  6. This article really hit close to home for me and totally explained what happened to me recently. I’m a scorpio woman and he is a virgo man who had been in a relationship where she cheated on him and he didnt want to be involved with anyone or have a girlfriend. I was a friend, and was there for him, we talked all the time, supported him, did what I could for him and fell in love with him. He wanted intimacy…and at times he revealed that he was developing feelings for me as well, so I thought it would develop into a relationship. Boy was I wrong…as soon as we were intimate, he changed immediately, and when I asked what was wrong and told him how I felt…he accused me of playing mind games with him and treating him like crap…i was stunned…he turned on me, blocked my number, blocked me on social media…i can’t believe he acted this way…i never expected it. Its been over a month but I’m still hurting from it because I care about him so much, and miss him. I felt a connection with him that I has not felt with anyone else…..but now…i guess its time to move on as I’m sure he has found someone else.

  7. As a Virgo man I have never had a FWB but being a virgo I’m certified in giving insight into ones mind. The Virgo may be afraid of getting hurt and protecting himself due to a bad situation in the past. Virgos are very confusing because they are constantly analyzing EVERYTHING and their opinion on certain situations may change at times with the more thought he gives it. Virgos like their freedom or “me time”. If a Virgo feels like you’re not the right one for him then he won’t commit, the more you push the more distant he will become.

    The hot and cold (a lot of women usually complain about this) thing comes into play because there is qualities that he really likes about you, but then you do something that he doesn’t like which makes him pull back and think about it. There’s somewhat of a battle going on in his mind and sadly there’s a bunch if boxes to check.

    Virgo men typically find it hard to commit unless they’re sure you are the one they want. If they commit too soon then they may end up being unhappy and trying to search for that perfect girl they’ve always craved in their mind. It is usually about mind games with us Virgos, the biggest way to win over a Virgo (IMO) is at times try to let him be the hero by asking for his help….but don’t play the “dumb girl” because we don’t typically like those types of girls.

    Most Virgo mean I know don’t really like FWB, if they do agree to that type of thing then that’s all they want and nothing more…unless you check all of his boxes and he feels you’re the one).

    All in all, Virgos are very difficult people to read and don’t open up in a way that is understandable. A lot of people complain about us and don’t like us, we have very high standards for ourselves, too picky, and blah blah blah. I find very few people to be intriguing and most to be annoying. Sorry I rambled but hopefully helped someone.

    1. Thank you for your insight: “The Virgo Confusing”. I am a Taurus woman fiancee of a Virgo man 7 years younger. He had a fwb with a Cancer for the last 2 years until we were introduced by a mutual friend. He had previously been in a 14 year relationship with the mother of his kids and never married. It took him only 1 month to know that I am the one. He professed his love within a month and told me I am the woman he would marry and spend the remainder of his life with. As a Taurus I spoke with him about slowing down a bit. Our wedding is in 5 months. He does most of the planning. We recently moved in together. He hasn’t ever gone hot and cold with me in the 9 months we’ve been together. He changed his phone number when he moved in and cut off all contact with the fwb cancer lady. The cancer attempted to contact him via Facebook messenger stating she was surprised that he was getting married because in the past when he dated others she was always able to get him to come back as a fwb. Virgo men get a bad rap. He is the most attentive, affectionate, loyal, and loving. He’s a good provider as well. Virgo men are misunderstood. My observation is that he just wants someone who gives the same energy he does in a relationship. He’s emotional but it takes the right woman to intuitively understand because he wont tell uou unless you ask. He wants validation, security and loyalty the same that Taureans seek. He found it in me. Good luck to the rest of you ladies.

    2. Hello The Virgo Confusion!

      Thank you so much for sharing your insight as a Virgo man. All of what you have said is what I know to be truth about Virgo men. I also know that sometimes they will sleep with a girl but then change his mind because she jumped into bed with him too quickly. She’s now “tainted” or “too easy” which makes them walk away. Virgo men can be very complicated but with patience and understanding, they can be won over.

  8. I’m in a FWB situation with a virgo man and I’m constantly being confused we are off and on mainly because he pulls away stops contacting me or texting me I feel he is not interested and I leave then he blows up on me and calls me emotionally unstable. When we are around each other it’s perfect we get along the conversation is easy. But when we are apart it’s like he doesn’t even think about me we can go days without communication and I’m the one who teaches out. He’s told me he just wanted FWB and when I agreed and was ok with that he would say stuff like I’m not his everything yet calling me baby and texting or trying to see me all the time. And then the next week nothing we stopped talking for a week last month started talking again and now he’s extremely distant and cold and it feels like I’m starting at 1 again. He basically got mad at me when I expressed being upset that he upsets me when he takes days to respond to me and he said I’m not his gf so I backed off because he’s right but then we hung out after that and it was great. I told him I have feelings and he didn’t say anything back but he still wanted to see me. Now we are back to him not responding to messages I asked him if he ever saw us being more than FWB and he hasn’t responded so idk at the moment.

    1. Hi Brittney!

      It sounds like you actually want more from your Virgo guy than just FWB. I say this because you’re concerned about contact and how he acts or doesn’t act. That requires more care. Most FWB relationships are “no strings’ which means they spend time and have sex but do not keep up with each other’s lives outside of what they have. In other words, what he does isn’t your business because of the “no strings”. I hope this makes sense. He doesn’t seem as into you as you are into him otherwise he’d be showing you far more and wouldn’t be just FWB. Stand up and tell him what you want so you can either get it or so that you can get closure to move on.

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