How To Get A Virgo Man To Open Up (9 Effective Ways)

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
What if I told you that there are simple things you can do to get the Virgo man to let his guard down and open up to you? Here's how...

Hey, ladies! It is me, Anna! I have been getting so many questions recently about how to get a Virgo man to open up and share his thoughts and feelings. It seems like all my readers have Virgo fever at the moment!

Virgo men are definitely an interesting bunch, but sometimes, they are quite difficult to read emotionally. This is because they are definitely analytical and often give more credence to thoughts rather than emotions.

I really know how frustrating this can be, as all you want to do is feel closer to your Virgo man. However, a Virgo man opening up is definitely not impossible, and there are several effective ways to encourage him to do so.

Knowing how to get a Virgo man to open up emotionally is important if you want to get closer to him and build a deeper, more meaningful connection. Here are 7 effective ways to get a Virgo man to open up

But First Things First, Do Virgo Men Open Up Easily?

Virgo men tend to keep their feelings bottled up and may find it challenging to open up easily. These guys tend to prioritize logic and reason over their emotional expression. If they could argue and think their feelings away, they would!

Why Do Virgo Hide Their Emotions?

Virgo men hide their emotions for various reasons. These reasons might include fear of vulnerability, the belief that emotions are a sign of weakness or the need for control.

These guys are also very private and may feel uncomfortable sharing their emotions with anyone. It really takes a long time for them to feel like they can trust someone enough with their feelings and emotions.

They also don’t like feeling vulnerable as it makes them feel totally out of control. They are very specific about certain things, and when life doesn’t go according to plan, it tends to make them feel a little freaked out, if I am honest.

You may also want to readWhat Is The Best Thing To Do When A Virgo Man Is Distant Or Ignores You?

How To Get A Virgo Man To Open Up

Getting a Virgo man to open up may feel impossible, but here are 7 effective ways to encourage him to do so:

1. Have a Healthy Mindset 

It’s no secret that Virgo is the sign that rules health and wellness. Because he is ruled by Mercury, the planet of thought and communication, the Virgo man is also closely in touch with his mental health.

In relationships, his connection to mental health means that he feels most comfortable and emotionally vulnerable with a woman who understands his need for a positive and peaceful environment. 

He needs someone who is calm-natured and emotionally mature. He will only open his heart to someone who respects him and his dedication to maintaining his mental health. 

For example, the Virgo man is a mutable earth sign, which means that he does not live a fast life. He is grounded and in control, even when uncertain or just going with the flow.

Someone naturally goal-oriented and easily excitable may disturb Virgo’s adaptability. He won’t mix well with someone heavily opinionated and always looking for a fight. 

If you want to earn his love, you must bring peace to his heart and mind. Show him that you can be cool, calm, and collected. Encourage him to be better in a kind way, and you’ll have a friend for life. 

2. If You Wan A Virgo Man To Open Up, Make Him Feel Appreciated

As a selfless supporter, the Virgo man always goes above and beyond for the people at his job, in his community, and especially for his family and those he loves. 

So, regarding his romantic relationships, the Virgo man is most attracted to the woman who represents his equal, not another project or person who will depend on him for her every need. 

Based on this reasoning, the best way to get a Virgo man to open up to you is to be the one he can lean on during tough times instead of the other way around.

If he always surprises you with small gifts and tokens of love that brighten your day, do the same for him. Over the years, I’ve noticed that Virgo men really appreciate acts of service rather than physical goods. 

For example, you can cook him his favorite meal, buy a ticket to a sports game or recreational activity that he likes, give him some time away from his friends if you have a busy life, and especially if you have kids. 

By showing the Virgo man that you appreciate him, you show him that his heart is in good hands and that you are emotionally mature enough to both give and receive love.

Read also15 Best Gifts For A Virgo Man — How To Get Him The Right Gift

3. Follow His Pace

If you asked the Virgo man what one of the most important aspects of a relationship is, he would probably say timing. As a mutable earth sign, the last thing the Virgo likes to do is be rushed. Known for his obsession with order, cleanliness, and efficiency, trust that the Virgo man will leave no detail unnoticed. 

Therefore, the Virgo man is observant and opinionated when it comes to love. He knows exactly what he wants and is willing to take the long route until he’s assured that what he has with you is what he’s been searching for.

If you want someone who believes in love at first sight, sorry, but the Virgo man is not your guy. If you want him to open up and share his feelings with you, you must be patient and allow him to take his time. 

The best way to do this is to follow his pace. Go with the flow and allow him to take the lead. He will let you know when he’s ready to take things further with you. Virgo men will always wear their hearts on their sleeves. 

4. Ask Him What He Would Write About If He Wrote A Book

This is an exceptionally important question because the planet Mercury, the basic writer in the whole Zodiac, is ruling the first house for a Virgo man, and it also rules his house of career.

He might be involved in any other type of profession, like being a barman, electrician, or bus driver, but this influence of Mercury, the messenger god, will always be burning deep inside his soul.

He will feel the powerful unconscious need to write down his life’s experiences and at first, he will be surprised by your question thinking, “This woman reads me totally,” and again, this will be another compliment for you no matter will he say it out loud or he will keep this amazement to himself.

Now, he will truly open up to you feeling like you are one of the rare people who can understand him completely. And you should pay attention to his revealing story because this won’t be just the short description of his published or planned book, you will also get a premium insight into his heart and mind.

Read also: Questions To Ask A Virgo Man To Spark His Interest

5. Talk About His Favorite Hobbies

Asking him about his favorite hobbies is a great way for a Virgo man to open up. There are usually some exciting things these guys get up to in their free time, and they would be more than happy to share their passions with you.

Regarding hobbies, Virgo men can be quite particular and focused. But sometimes, he can come out of left field and surprise you with a hobby or interest you never expected.

Like dancing or playing a musical instrument, some Virgo men might really be into yoga and meditation, or perhaps they have a knack for cooking. No matter his hobbies, showing curiosity and enthusiasm for what he enjoys will encourage your Virgo man to open up.

4 More Ways To Talk About Feelings To A Virgo Man

Getting a Virgo man to open up about his feelings takes a lot of time and patience. Here are a few more things to consider when wanting to get him to open up:

  1. Ensure he feels comfortable and not judged, creating a space where he can be open without feeling vulnerable.
  2. Virgo men appreciate honesty. Approach the conversation clearly about what you feel and why you feel that way.
  3. Virgo men take time to process and are often slow to open up. Give him space and time to articulate their feelings.
  4. Be a good listener and show genuine interest in what he has to say.

How To Connect Emotionally With A Virgo Man

A Virgo man really struggles to wear his heart on his sleeve. He is scared of being vulnerable and making a fool of himself. He feels a lot of pressure in his life to want to be perfect.

To connect with him emotionally, it is imperative that you continuously show him that he can trust you and that being in your life means that his inner world is safe with you.

You can create a supportive and understanding environment where he feels comfortable expressing his emotions without judgment or fear of ridicule. Be there for him and show him that you are a reliable woman, someone he can rely on to listen to and understand him.

Read nextVirgo Man Hard To Read — Why Dating A Virgo Man Is So Difficult?

Make A Virgo Man’s Heart Yours…

You are probably wondering how to make a Virgo man feel better. Let him know the validity of his feelings.

It is OK to feel the way he feels, it is completely justified. 

Be a fearless leader who shows her Virgo lover the way, and you’ll have a worshiper for life. Be his guiding light and help him move through the world with grace and love.

Don’t be afraid to take the plunge and build this beautiful life together.

The two of you can do anything because you are together. Enjoy your time with your Virgo man! This is a relationship meant for the record books!

But it is up to you to make it happen…

If you truly want to make a breakthrough and make this relationship a success, then you are going to have to work for it…

Learn more on how to soften your Virgo man here <<

Don’t be disheartened if he doesn’t commit or show his feelings right away.

Virgo men need to be sure they’re not being played.

They need to be completely sure about the woman they are committing to because for a Virgo man, any relationship is for life and he needs to know 100% that you are in it with him.

Show him that you are serious, but just be patient because this may take a while.

Wishing you all the luck of the Universe.

Your friend and relationship astrologer,

Anna Kovach

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Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

4 thoughts on “How To Get A Virgo Man To Open Up (9 Effective Ways)

  1. So my Virgo I’ve known for a long long time , so I obviously became insanely attracted to him , but we started as friends and I’d never jeopardise losing the friendship as it’s true about his kindness and being a great communicator ! It’s also true about being eager to help , so nothing is worth losing that . So anyway I think the way I eventually was blessed by him opening up came after years of seeing how I handled my own crises and how I treated people , he’s such a deep kind helpful soul and now he openly comes to me when trouble hits or he’s feeling anxious , he never shows it but I know it and it’s a compliment when he thanks me for giving him kind words or wise words . So yeah just be kind , be centred and be real , he will open up in his time . I’m happy to be in love with this man and from the friendship point I’m happy to accept that . Who knows maybe he cares fir me more than a friend but again the way he cares for me as a friend I’ll take all day long . Let them open up to you like a flower , tend to it , give it nourishments and most importantly light . They love humour and it’s a break from they’re routines lol .

    1. Hi Merry!

      Ah yes… Virgo men are gorgeous creatures. If you don’t tell him how you feel then how will you ever progress into anything more? He may be thinking the same thing you are and is afraid of losing what you two have by telling you he wants more. Virgo men need to be told what you want otherwise they are oblivious. I’m not exaggerating either. Take a chance!!! You can learn more by reading my “Virgo Man Secrets” books.

  2. Thank you so much for this help Anna. You are the only astrologer I ask about my Virgo man. I will imemwnt the ideas you send me and let you k ow how it goes.

    1. Hi Nicole!

      You are so very welcome sweetheart. Thank you for your kind words. It’s nice to have affirmation that I’m giving out the proper advice. If you ever want more help, you could also purchase my guides on “Virgo Man Secrets” and get a consultation with me. I wish you all the luck of the universe!

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