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What To Do When A Virgo Man Is Distant Or Ignores You

Have you made your Virgo angry or perhaps hurt his feelings and now he’s ignoring you? Maybe he’s mad at you for something you don’t even know of.

Here are some things to keep in mind about when a Virgo Man is distant or ignores you:

Time and Personal Space

There are times where the Virgo man is distant and seems as though he is being cold toward you. If he doesn’t text you back or at all, it may seem like he either isn’t interested or is upset.

The thing is, sometimes he needs a bit of personal freedom to keep in perspective who he is and that he is not being controlled. This will mean he shuts off from you in order to get this.

If you have pressured him in any way this may definitely be the case. If you haven’t been pushing and he does this; he’s just flexing his freedom muscle. It’s no need to worry.

As long as he’s still spending time with you and showing you he cares; him pulling back from time to time is a very normal thing for the Virgo man. Be careful not to harass him about it or he will ultimately lose interest in you.

He’s Feeling Hurt

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Just like most people, Virgo man is distant from the person that may have hurt him. He is a sensitive guy even though he may not seem like it when he’s coming across as critical.

He dishes it out but he isn’t very good at taking it. You’ll need to be careful of how you talk to him but by all means, always be truthful with him. He is a human lie detector of sorts.

The man can spot a lie fairly easily. He knows you, he knows your behavior, and he knows when you’re being honest or if you’re being a bit shady. He is very observant.

If you made a slight against him but didn’t mean it; apologies to him. He may not feel like everything is Ok right away but at some point, if he knows you are sincere with your apology; he’ll work past it and forgive you.

However; if you’ve done something really hurtful; he may be less inclined to forgive you. I’m not saying it’s impossible for him to forgive you but it may take him significant time to get past it. If he doesn’t he may just break it off.

He’s Angry with You

In the event, you’ve managed to do something to piss him off you need to handle it the same way as if you hurt him. If it’s something that you know you shouldn’t have done or said, apologies immediately to him.

It will take him a bit to cool back off and start seeing things normally again. He will be watching your behavior when you say you’re sorry to see if you’re being truthful or not. You had better be or you may lose him.

The Virgo man often will put up with a lot from the woman he truly loves and is committed to but everyone has their limits. Lying will get you dismissed. It may not be right away but it will happen.

Again, if you find that he’s really pissed off at you; just apologize then back off to let him process it and cool off. Unless of course, he asks you to stay so you two can talk about it more.  Respectfully agree to his wishes and get it out so you can work past it.

So, if the Virgo man is distant it will make him be less so.

He Isn’t Feeling it with You

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Alas, another reason if a Virgo is distant from you is due to his lack of interest. Sometimes they come on hot and heavy at the beginning when he finally agrees to date you.

Then suddenly he pulls back and you have no clue what in the heck happened. He found something about you that he likely doesn’t like and doesn’t think it’s something that can be changed and immediately turns him around.

He is looking for the perfect woman and when he finds things he feels aren’t fixable or that he doesn’t want to address them; he’ll just bail out completely. He may not want to hurt your feelings and tell you what it is.

Virgo men are a lot of work and maintenance. They can be worth it though if you stick it out with them. Just keep in mind that if the Virgo man is distant still and you don’t hear from him for a significant amount of time; he’s probably done.

The thrill of the Chase

Virgo men do not like to feel oppressed or pressured. However, they also want a partner that can keep up with them. So sometimes after they’ve pursued you; they’ll pull back a little to see what you will do.

Will you chase after him or will you be calm and wait for him to reach out? The answer is: find the middle ground. If you don’t reply, he’ll think you aren’t that interested thus he will consider it over.

If you reach out too much via text or social media, he’ll feel as though you are putting pressure on him to reply. In order to make things flow reasonably well is by going down the middle.

You can text him “Hey, thinking about you” and then leave it alone. He may reply and he may not but he got the message. He’ll get back to you when he wants to and as long as you don’t freak out, he’ll probably want to spend time together.

The very best thing you can do is remain calm with the Virgo man. Find out what it is that upset him; do your best to let him know you didn’t mean to hurt him or make him angry.

Get to know him better by checking out my step by step guide to him in the “Virgo Man Secrets”. It will help you get a handle on what you can do to get and keep this sensual man.

What do you think? What makes a Virgo man distant?

 

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach



33 thoughts on “What To Do When A Virgo Man Is Distant Or Ignores You

  1. I was talking to a virgo guy and we agreeded to meet and we was liming and had some drinks and i acted on my emotions and when in bed with him. He messaged me the next day and when i replied he never messaged back again and he was online but he didnt read my message. But i know he just messaged just to say ok he messaged. He didnt message because he was thinking of me.Has he gotten turned off from me because of what i did?

    1. Hi Crystal!

      Virgo men have very high standards and tend to prefer women who do not dive into bed with them right away. They typically will only do this themselves if they’re intoxicated but even then sometimes they still don’t. He is probably embarrassed that he even did it. My thought is that he’s probably judging you. I’m sorry to say it but if he still isn’t talking much to you then he’s having a hard time getting past that. You can try to continue a friendship with him and see where it goes but if he’s that torn up over it then you may want to keep your own options open.

  2. Hello. I messaged you several months ago. I’ve been seeing a married Virgo man and I am a married cancer woman. I ordered your books and they were very helpful. I also had our charts done. We are so very compatible. I am still quite confused. I am crazy about him. He very slowly is developing feelings of some sort for me. I am in the process of leaving my husband. Virgo and I have seen each other for 5 months now. But for 2 weeks he is very distant. Barely talking to me. I thought reassuring him he has nothing to do with my separation would help. Which is true btw. Texts me things like he wants to see me, but never responds when I text him ok, I’m free. I’m not sure if this is a space thing, a loss of interest or if I made him angry. I feel like I’ve been pushy so I don’t want to over do it or bug him about it. What should I do?

    1. Hi April!

      I think he is probably just really nervous about everything going on. Don’t panic yet honey. Hang in there and keep doing what you’ve been doing. If he loves you then he’s not going anywhere even when he may not respond or initiate at times. Cold feet is a normal thing for Virgo men.

  3. I still love my baby father that Virgo man . We had a baby and we are to far from each other…I just want to be he’s friend for are baby.. I don’t know what happened suddenly he doesn’t want to see even video call are baby…just wondering do he never care about his own child? …

    1. Hi Vic!

      I wish you could give you a definitive answer on that. It hurts my own heart to know he doesn’t want to interact with his baby. All you can do is be you and continue taking care of your child. If he loves the baby or still cares for you then he’ll come around but if he’s trying to cut ties then you may end up staying a single mother until you find someone else that is willing to pick up the slack that he dropped. I’m so very sorry you got a bad seed.

  4. I know a virgo man for four months. I am a Taurus woman he is my class mate first when we met he was just casually flirting with me but in social media he was acting casual ….like we are just friends. It’s okk for me . he told me that he has a girlfriend …..but in few days when I observed him he was upset not because of I don’t know what was the reason until he told me his feelings about being neglected by his close friends, I was upset for him but somehow happy that he shared his feelings with me. Then we turn into close friends. ….for 2 weeks he chat with me regularly ,gave me a name and all that…..but then I don’t know what happened he start to pull him away from me ……when he was upset I asked him the reason but he told me nothing. …when we met in our batch he was ignoring me……even now he is ignoring me …..I don’t know the reason but it’s very frustrating. ….by his affection and caring personality I was starting liking him…..but now he is just flirting with some other girls in front of me…..it’s very disrespect full for me…..I don’t know what to do now……for my stabborn nature I can’t ignore him .

    1. Hi Moitri! It sounds like the Virgo man you are talking about only wants friendship and perhaps when he started feeling like you wanted more or that you had feelings for him, he decided he had better back off so that you don’t get the wrong impression anymore. It could also be that he has a lot going on in his world and since you are not his girlfriend, he doesn’t feel compelled to tell you what all he is going through. Virgo men are complicated and can swing back and forth with their thoughts versus their feeling regularly. He’s confused therefore doesn’t make any sense with you either. Perhaps it would help you to learn more about the Virgo man so that you can try to make more sense of what he’s doing or why. Please check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  5. I am so in love with my Virgo man since 1993 he was a player back then and he hurt my heart very very bad and I have went off the deep end ever since then always find guys abusing me using me. Recently we hooked up through a friend of mine who was married to his brother unfortunately the guy I’m in love with has in 12 years of prison time and is getting ready to get out in January of 2019. This guy I thought would never ever give me a chance to talk to me but he did want to talk to me and we are just head over heels for each other you had good conversations but he isn’t that open but he does answer when he can and he’s the most romantic and explains how he’ll be romantic and has gave me romance stories of imagination in detail he tells me he loves me all the time. Twice I have said a few things that upset him and it really wasn’t about him it kind of was because as I am a Scorpio who started feeling just a bit jealousy because there was never any conversation about any other woman just things I was reading online and got to my mind and I did not want to question him so it make me look like I was possessive so I guess the things that I wrote to him was kind of making him feel like it was his fault and I’ve been reading the last couple weeks about the astrology and the characteristics of a Virgo and for myself and I’ve been learning a whole lot. After that second one and ignoring me once again not calling me not emailing me through their system I was freaking out and thought I lost them I cried nonstop for days did eat sleep he finally said and for the last time he was not going to do this again and stop playing with his freaking mind I didn’t think I was playing with his mind only just sharing my thoughts we’ll just a few days ago after he got off of a week of lockdown he was so happy we had a great conversation and he said he was going to call me back and I didn’t hear from him for 2 days and then I heard from him and everything seems to be fine so out of curiosity I had asked and him in a nice manner if everything was okay with him and he told me what was going on but as me as I am I keep going back and forth with little stupid thoughts and usually when I get like that I do always push people away now I think I will commit suicide if I lose this guy cuz I feel like I cannot live without him in my life and I have a chance to have him and now I am ruining that chance so I tried so hard to do things and say things for that not to get in the way I messaged him a few things because I was having some of them doubtful feelings again but didn’t say that to him I just kind of put up a guard and in five sentences told him that I wouldn’t let nobody mess with my head that’s I play a game a Chess strategically and I could be the worst nightmare for the best dream but did I did not use his and also because right before that I had a roommate that I was having problems with and then that couple sentences I had threw her in there saying she played with her and Fire as to make it look like I was talking about her. It is going on 3 days now and I have not heard from him no text no call I am so scared to death and I have no idea what to do and I really want to fix this so much can you please help me I’ve only sent him one or two messages trying to take other sites advice and give him a little space but I’m afraid also that if I give him too much space who think I don’t care I’m so confused I can’t stop crying and I will not live without him please help me what I could say what I can text him when should I text him thank you Christine a very heartbroken woman

    1. Hi Christine! That’s quite a story with your Virgo man situation. You must have commented on this sometime back now that it’s nearly March of 2019. Virgo men can be very cold and callous when they are hurt or angry. It takes them awhile to think things over and figure out if it’s something they can get over or if they want to walk away to find another way forward for themselves. If you’re saying you cannot live without him, I think you probably need to learn more about yourself and learn to work on your own path instead of depending on someone else to provide your happiness. Happiness comes from within ourselves, not from others. However, there may be some useful information for you to learn more about the Virgo man if you’d like to check it out. Take a look at my book “Virgo Man Secrets” and perhaps there is information you can use to help you understand your guy a bit better as well as how you should take care of yourself as well.

  6. am in love with a virgo man since 2016,nd he started as if he have feelings for me before he travelled to another country.we always chat nd also make phone calls then nd he do tell me to reject nd tell any guy that ask me out that am his gf.i did what he said bc i fell in love with him too nd i love him so much,but at the ending of 2018 he stopped replying my text nd he hardly pick my calls even now.am a pisces girl nd am very emotional too but dont know why he is acting like that pls i need ur advice cuz i think i cant live without him.

    1. Hi Ruth!

      It sounds like your guy is either very busy and is just having a hard time juggling everything on his plate OR he’s lost interest for some reason. The only way you’re going to find out though is by straight out asking him why he isn’t speaking to you and if he’s still interested. I think you’ll get your answer. If he still doesn’t answer then that’s his way of letting you go. I hope the best for you though Ruth!

  7. So it’s a Virgo guy I’m interested in at my job. He’s very attractive, very quiet. I never really said too much of anything to him because I thought I was g his type. We ended up having a small convo and ended up meeting at his home, from what we talked about he’s very nice, very sweet, and we don’t share that many common interest but he did display some sort of interest in me. He has told me that he’s busy a lot and rarely on his phone, we had an intimate moment, he invited me out on the next day for a date and I really enjoyed my weekend with him. Now he hasn’t said anything since the weekend we both said we had a good time, I’ve reached out to him twice and got nothing. He hasn’t said much to me at work and I haven’t either. The other day I kinda chased after him outside of work to ask if he was okay? I was told hes fine and I told him I tried to reach out to him twice and he said he didn’t see anything. But I know he did. Upset that he lied I haven’t tried to reach out again and I’m kinda hurt that he lied about seeing my messages. But why is he ignoring me after we agreed our weekend was fun. What did I do?

    1. Hi Sassy! I don’t think you did anything wrong sweetheart. Virgo men are complicated and can come off sometimes as “unreachable” or “untouchable”. They do this to protect themselves from getting hurt. These men seem like they have a giant ego when actually, they’re quite critical of themselves and can feel insecure about how other people see them. This can make them awkward or not know how to talk to someone in the proper way. It might help you to learn more about Virgo men. Perhaps it will help you wrap your head around what happened, who he is, and what he wants. Perhaps things are not as “over” as you think.

  8. I need advice
    I have had a huge crush on my Virgo boss for quite a while now,and I can swear he feels same to,his nicer to me than everybody else,we have great connections,long conversations,and interesting chemistry.such that everyone around us sees this and think we are an item,this went on for months and I couldn’t hold back my feelings and decided to let him know…he didn’t say yes that he felt same way,and didn’t say no either but has become much more open to me and tell things he might not have told a random friend,I decided to find out if he had a girlfriend and he said yes,but I haven’t really seen or noticed any unusual excitement cus we spend the day together at the office,his response didn’t affect how he treated me,everything seemed same,until few days back he told me she was coming over and he won’t be available to me for the weekend,he has been a bit distant for the first time..am so scared and really wish his joking and testing me…are there chances of breakup with his gf as they are just 5months together according to him…I sincerely find true happiness with him

    1. Hi Suchi! If he has a girlfriend already then your Virgo man not be really open to you. Even if he’s nice and flirts with you, he’s not going to give you any stability or commitment unless things do end with his current relationship. You shouldn’t try to interfere though because if you do, he may end up doing something uncharacteristic such as sleeping with you and then blowing you off thus hurting you badly. I don’t think that’s worth the risk. There is much more you should learn about Virgo men before trying to go any further with him.

  9. I dating a virgo man. It feels heaven and hell. I don’t know how to keep up with him. He always thinks he is right. Won’t apologize. he is screaming and insult me in public. He doesn’t reply. I tried to be strong and make him happy and i cant so i told him everything that is wrong with him. Well, he hated it for sure. I do love him but the hurt is too much. I think i’d break up with him because i can’t take it anymore. I will have to hurt him.

    1. Tha is not because he is Virgo it is because he is an immature pr*ck! The other reason is because you tolerate that behavior witch it doesn’t make him happier either or have any respect for you so he can’t fall for you.

    2. Hi Llala! Thank you for sharing your complicated situation with Virgo man. They are frustrated because most people do not understand them. They tend to criticize other people because they have a hard time reconciling with themselves. They seem confident and sometimes egotistical but truthfully, they’re vulnerable and they’re insecure. They then project their feelings about themselves onto others. They are wounded people who need a delicate touch. You telling him what all his flaws have probably exacerbated the situation, I’m sure. Of course, he’s not going to like that. He’s more critical of himself than you ever could be, that much I can guarantee. There is so much that someone needs to know about Virgo before they can properly form a successful relationship. It might be worth it to you to know more. If you’d like, you should check out my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  10. He added me up on social media 2017,we started chatting and became really cool friends. At a point he told me he wants a relationship with me but of course i took that to be a joke.
    He asked me out for a date and tried having sex with me on the first day we met which i refused. Since then he’s been cold. Giving me a one word answer anytime we chat. He still likes my pictures though

    I strongly feel he might be putting me through some kinda test right now. I know virgos are like that. They tend to be picky when choosing a partner. They crave for perfection and any woman they date should be perfect for them.
    I’ve decided to give him time, let him be for now,no chats, no calls.
    But am scared if he might never contact me again

    1. Hi Brenda, it’s alright for you to reach out to your Virgo guy too. You don’t have to wait for him to reach out first. Communication is very important when trying to form a bond with a Virgo. That being said, you might try to kick things up a bit by suggesting getting together to spend some time having fun. It’s good you didn’t sleep with him on the first day because you definitely don’t want to give him the impression you would be up for a “friends with benefits” situation. Also, Virgo men like women with self-control because it shows they have a good moral system. There is so much to know about the fascinating Virgo man. If you’d like, you can take a look and learn more in my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  11. Hey, all I need some advice,
    I met a lovely Virgo Libra Cusp man ( Virgo Moon) online. I’m a Leo Sun Capricorn Moon. He pursued me, I obliged. We’ve been talking for just over 2 months now and dating/intimate for 2 months. Initially, we both had electric chemistry, we text message every few days, he asked me to text me pics of myself to him daily, he cooks dinner for me, we play tennis and enjoy activities together, we both enjoy traveling. I’ve made sure to give him his space, I need my space too. I’ve noticed that he messages only on the days that we have plans to spend time together. He tells me that when we’re together is when he gets to relax. I’ll text him and he’ll respond sometimes 3 days later. I asked him if I was his “Wednesday Girl”. he told me he wasn’t seeing or sleeping with anyone else, yet, the ONLY time we communicate is when we’re in person. After I asked him if I was his Wednesday girl he was no longer “visible” on the online dating site whether he blocked if I can see him or deactivated his online dating profile, I’m not sure. I try to make sure that I don’t pressure him, give him his space, am affectionate, and very respectful as Virgos are very sensitive & very particular signs. He says he doesn’t like to text or talk on the phone…I decided to allow him to set the tone and pace, and I haven’t heard from him for 4 days. I’m not sure of what to make of this. We didn’t have an argument, we established from the beginning that we would be honest with each other. He has been busy, as have I. I have my own life and things going on so I stay busy as well, I can’t help but wonder, it only takes a moment to send a have a great day text. When I’ve text him that, he doesn’t respond for days, so, I stopped. I’m not into forcing or changing anyone. I’ve been out of the dating scene for quite some time. I just need to know if I should just move on. Since we’ve been “dating” we see each other once per week, where we speak in person once per week. Nothing in between. Constructive advice would really be appreciated. If you have any questions please ask.
    Best
    Chill Leo

    1. Hi TaMar! Wow, a Virgo/Libra cusp huh? Yeah, that would make him move as slow as a turtle then. Virgo man is already slow-moving because he wants to be totally sure before he commits himself to someone. Libra men are slower because they’re indecisive and want to make sure the person fits into their way of life and future. Either way, this creates a mixture for having to wait things out. It sucks he doesn’t want to text but you can’t force him to either. That being said, you may make mention next time you see him “Even if you only send me a hello text or respond to one of my texts, I’d be thrilled. I love hearing from you between visits”. Perhaps that will get him moving a little bit without feeling pressured. Learn more about the mysterious Virgo man by reading my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

  12. Hello,

    I have been seeing a virgo guy casually for 3 months. We never defined the relationship but we were pretty close, I know all about his family and future goals etc. He seemed jealous when I mentioned traveling with another guy friend, he told me he wanted me to communicate with him when something was going on in my life. Overall a great relationship expect for his refusal to define it. I respected his wishes and a few weeks ago when he seemed distant I asked if he needed space a couple of times, he told me he was just busy and we left it at that. Only a few weeks later when I asked him what was wrong again he told me he was upset about me asking him that. We had a huge fight about this and the final text I sent was to tell him my side of the story and why I asked if he needed space (I told him it wasn’t negative in anyway and I saw it as something healthy, he doesn’t agree to this and he already told me this) I got no response to this and finally I asked if he decides agains dating if he will he be friends with me because I don’t want to lose him we were friends first…I still got not response. He did say he wanted to hold off on dating due to a new job and that there is still a possibility that we can go back to how we were but I think the fight has made it worse. I am not contacting him for now…but is there any chance he will comeback after taking some time?

    1. Hi Cap55! I think that what happened here is a difference in communication. I don’t know if there is a cultural difference between you but if there isn’t then there is definitely a difference of how you two talk to each other and how you understand what is being said. There is a loss there and it needs to be fixed. You two have to learn more about one another in order to really get how you should talk properly. He took you asking him about space as you telling him that you need space. See what I mean? He took it the wrong way. Try to apologize to him for the way it came out and explain what you meant. Perhaps he’ll get over it and start talking to you again properly. It takes time to iron out the differences in communication but if love is there, it will smooth out with proper timing.

  13. Hi Anna, I need help. I can’t understand this Virgo guy born in September 14,1996 same age as me as I was born in April 26,1996. This guy he doesn’t seems to care much as I told him I want to see him again but he only wants sex from me which I am not interested in at all. We saw each other one night as I asked him to drop off my card and I told him that I like him and would like to see him again. And also asked him if we are not seeing each other anymore or not. He says he never said that. But later before leaving he gives me a hug and a kiss that’s all. After that day I texted him hey so we are not seeing each other anymore right? He didn’t reply my texts at all. If he doesn’t wants to see me then why doesn’t he deletes me from social media. Why the hugging and kissing even before he left? What does this mean? He isn’t interested in me anymore or he doesn’t wants to see me anymore. Please help.

    1. Hi Suchita!

      If he’s making it clear that it’s only a physical thing between you then he’s essentially letting you know he doesn’t want an actual relationship with you. He’s angling for a “friends with benefits” situation. If you’re not into that you better make that clear to him. A Virgo man who is interested will not make everything about sex. He’ll care more about you and what you bring to his life. Sex will be secondary. He sounds immature or non-committal.

  14. oh man i also have a virgo bf.. and it’s exhausting. at first he chased me. we got together very soon. but one time he wanted to meet me in the evening but fell asleep.. that makes me anxious and the next time we met i was pissed at him… i was not angry at him.. only in bad mood. after that he stood me up every time we wanted to meet. later he told me it was his anxiety. he was afraid when we meet again i will be in a bad mood again. So now it’s long distance… he writes a lot but no call from him, he is not asking. I have to ask all the time. My Virgo says a lot but doesn’t act on it…
    Don’t know what I should do.. I’m withdrawing myself from him

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