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3 Questions You NEED to Ask When a Virgo Man Sends Mixed Signals

Virgo is a mutable sign—and that means your man can be hard to read because his mind is always changing. If you’re not sure what’s going on in your Virgo guy’s mind, ask these questions to get the answers you need!

Anna here again, and I’m here to discuss with you the 3 questions to ask yourselves when Virgo Men send mixed signals. 

It’s important to remember that Virgo can be a complicated sign. Remember, it is ruled by the planet Mercury, and Mercury is all about the mind and communication.

Virgo also happens to be a mutable sign, which means it is very fluid and can change, so you don’t always know what to expect. Keep in mind though, that Virgo is the most “rigid” of all the other mutable signs: Pisces, Gemini and Sagittarius, and that has to do with the fact that it’s an Earth sign. 

Before we start, remember that Astrology is not just an interesting topic but an actual science used by the ancient Greeks, Romans, Egyptians and Babylonians to predict the future. They literally relied on the heavenly bodies to know what was to come. 

Nostradamus was one of the greatest fortune tellers of all time and practiced Astrology too!

So, here are the questions you should ask when a Virgo man sends mixed signals!

3 Questions You Need To Ask When A Virgo Man Sends Mix Signals

1. An important answer to know…

Perhaps you and your Virgo man have been dating for a few months and things were going really well, and suddenly he has vanished.

There are no phone calls, no more messages and suddenly there is an empty pit in your stomach full of butterflies. 

What you’re probably asking yourself:

“Does he still love me?”

“Is he still attracted to me?”

“Has he found someone else”

It all depends on the circumstances. If things were going well, the most likely thing that has happened is that an urgent work assignment has come up, and that is the main focus of his attention right now.

Not to worry though, as soon as his work duties are over, he’ll most probably come around knocking with a bunch of flowers and will apologize for not contacting you.

However, if things were not going so well in the relationship, and he has suddenly performed a disappearing act, there’s things that you need to ask both yourself and him:

“Does this person still love me?”

“Did I do something wrong, and how can I fix it?”

Virgo men need time if there is a problem within the relationship, and this period of “abandonment” can take up to 2 weeks, before he contacts you again.

If he doesn’t, you need to take the lead and contact him with gentle messages such as:

“Hi, I haven’t heard from you in a while, are you ok?”

“Wow, I haven’t heard from you in so long, are you feeling alright?”

“Hi, where have you been? I’ve missed you.”

“Hey, I haven’t heard from you for a while, did I do something wrong? If so, I’m sorry. How can I fix it?”

These questions will get answers, and hopefully they will be positive ones. If not, try and fix the relationship, you just need to be gentle around Virgo men as they can be really sensitive.

2. This one may sting a bit…

So, you may be in the situation where your Virgo boyfriend just criticizes you. No matter what you do, everything is somehow wrong. 

 You need to ask yourself the following questions:

“Am I really doing things so wrong, or is he being extra critical?”

“Is he right? Should I pay attention to what he is saying.”

Perhaps he constantly tells you you’re putting on weight (which often leads to more weight gain through comfort eating).

Maybe he is just looking out for your health and doesn’t know how to be nice about it.

Maybe he criticizes your work, and calls you lazy. This one is actually unfair because he has incredibly high standards of work performance most people can’t reach.

These are the questions you need to ask him and things you need to address with him:


“(His name), I know that it may not look like I do a lot, but my work means a lot to me, and I really try my best. So please can you stop criticizing me?” 

That should put your Virgo man in his place and keep him quiet for a while.


“(His name), you know all those gorgeous meals I prepare for you that you love eating? Well, they taste so good because cooking is my favorite thing in the whole world. So, can you lay off my weight, and how about twice a week we eat just healthy alternatives?”

This should make him think twice before he criticizes your beautiful curves or:

“(His name), I know I have been putting on weight lately, but I’ve decided to go walking (or any other exercise) for 30 minutes a day to feel better about myself. Please stop calling me fat, it really hurts my feelings.”

Read next: 3 Fun Ways to Keep a Virgo Man Interested When You Are Kept Apart

3. He’s just not getting physical…

In the beginning of your relationship, things were hot and heavy. You couldn’t keep your hands off each other, and making love felt like a dream. Now he’s cold and doesn’t even want to kiss anymore.

You may be asking yourself:

“Is he not attracted to me anymore?”

“Is he seeing someone else?”

First and foremost, you need to remember that out of all the zodiac signs, Virgo is the one sign that respects their bodies the most and is the least promiscuous.

This man is not going to just sleep with another woman just because you had a fight. The guilt would kill him, especially if he is in love with you.

Questions you may want to ask him are:

“Hunny, do you still find me attractive? We haven’t had sex for a month. Is something wrong.”

Or you can even take the initiative and just say,

“Wow hunny, you’re looking so good, I want you so much!”

Maybe you try and kiss him out of the blue and he pushes you away. Then you need to think about things.

Yes, one of the reasons could be that he is not attracted to you as much physically. He is a Virgo and looks are very important to him. Not in the way you may be thinking, as in having to look like Kim Kardashian, but you need to maintain yourself.

You also need to be straight with him and say something like:

“(His name), we haven’t had sex in so long. What is the reason. Please can you explain why you don’t want to touch me anymore?”

To shed light on this situation, perhaps in a positive way, he will just tell you that he’s got so much on his mind (Virgos do suffer with anxiety) that he hasn’t felt sexual for a while.

Take things slowly, have a nice meal together, watch a comedy together and laugh. Have a good time and it will remind him why he loves you so much! Then take him to the shower and proceed from there…

Yes, Virgo can be a complicated sign, and their mixed signals can really confuse you, but what’s important to remember with a Virgo is to always have patience and the truth of his actions (and mixed signals) will come out.

You just need to ask the right questions!

Take this simple compatibility quiz and see if you and your Virgo are meant to be together forever!

2 thoughts on “3 Questions You NEED to Ask When a Virgo Man Sends Mixed Signals

  1. Hi Ana
    I am a Taurus woman in my early 30’s and my Virgo bf (one year younger) and I have been dating for over 3 months now. We met on a dating site was the one to pursue me heavily and to be honest at first I had no interest. We started messaging each other and he was really funny and extremely consistent and constant with the messaging. Then he arranged to even come drive 6 hours to meet me.
    When we met it was instantly fun and just comfortable, I started to have interest in him when I saw how we meshed in person. He made me feel safe and like I could trust men again. He made me feel like a princess. I told myself I wouldn’t date if it was a long distance relationship but he somehow just broke that hesitation I had.
    Everything went well but then he got into a very busy time period of his work and he does various jobs and some are overseas, so that requires him to work nonstop. He is a workaholic to the maximum. I know that since I read that about Virgo men. He is a perfectionist also but I am as well so that we can understand. He is super hard on myself and not kind to himself but to others maybe they take advantage of him because he does his job so well and he tends to go and fix others mistakes or it is brought up on him to deal with the workload.
    I am pretty emotional Taurus, although I am very patient and not show my distress all the time unless it’s to someone close to me. We used to call each other everyday and sometimes fall asleep on the phone together, then that stopped. Then the phone calls stopped everyday and then the texting is every day but less and less. I text him or he texts me good morning usually every day. But now I don’t hear from him for hours and hours. He is very awkward with expressing his feelings as he is shy but doesn’t show it and has a cool exterior. Your traits of Virgo fits him to a T. He just recently told me for the first time he loves me but he had to get a bit drunk first and then he called me to tell me it is hard for him to say it sober but he isn’t lying and he told me about 20 times he loves me and I am the only woman in his life, other than his mother that he has ever loved or told them he loves. He also told me he always thinks of me even though it may not seem like it or when I don’t hear from him. He is just so busy with work and extremely tired and stressed from work that’s why he just doesn’t want to take it out on me or call me when he’s in a mood because he wants to treat me kindly. He also told me he wants to take care of me and that even though he had some women try to hit on him he only wants me and me only and he’s a one woman man so I don’t need to worry. And that he is going to come to see me this weekend even though he is busy.
    So me being extremely elated about hearing all this, having tears of joy because I was so anxious and worried that maybe his feelings were fading away.
    Well a few days later I ask him which day he is exactly coming this weekend because I wanted to prepare meals for him and surprise him(without letting him know). He said either Friday or Saturday depending on how fast he finishes work and he will try to finish as fast as he can to see me. He said no matter how busy he will still come. The next day messages get less and I call him at night and he tells me he hasn’t been able to have a break and that he’s been having a problem with a coworker who borrowed money and kind of disappeared for a few days and can’t reach him. I understand that. So he also tells me he probably won’t be able to see me…and he’s really sorry and he wants to make time to see me for sure and that will give him motivation to work harder.
    I know I should understand and I do in ways but he has told me he will come visit me (without me asking him to or nagging him to) a few times but always works get in the way. There is always some emergency or he gets dumped with a lot of work. I know work is his priority but that night he told me also that I am his number 1. Then other times he tells me he is married to his work and it’s his priority because he likes the nicer things in life. I cried when he told me all this info because I asked him why when he was drunk and the way he is now sound like two different people. He told me both of them are the real him and he just doesn’t know why he can be so cold to me sometimes. When he is cold he is extremely cold. But I know he has a very kind heart and I try to keep that in mind but it is difficult sometimes.
    I don’t know how to deal with my emotions and sometimes say things that I regret but I always do apologize for it afterwards as soon as I say it.
    Would you advise me how to deal with the times I don’t hear from him and how or what should I do in that time as in should I give him space and just not text him until he does or should I still say good morning with no expectations of him texting me back?
    Sorry for typing a novel but it also has helped me relive some stress to have an outlet. I really enjoy reading your advices as well! Thank you and hope to hear from you soon!

    1. Hi Ai!

      Virgo men have a hard time with really emotional women. You have admitted to having issues with this and so now that you have, you need to work on that if you want to have things work with him. I would suggest trying a meditation on Youtube or something like that for “Letting Go” and listen to it daily. This could help you to let go of your expected outcomes thus causing you upset and lashing out. If you’d like to learn more about the Virgo man, please read “Virgo Man Secrets”.

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