What A Virgo Man Wants In A Relationship

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
The Essential ingredients to making your relationship work with a Virgo man. Here are the things every Virgo man wants in a relationship.

If you are wondering what a Virgo man wants in a relationship, you have to be aware that Virgo is a feminine Earth sign, which makes them both gentle and fierce, strong and insecure. Ruled by Mercury, a Virgo man is mindful, communicative, and looking to do things that are useful.

What does a Virgo man need in a relationship? He needs to feel comfortable and secure, so faithfulness is a big deal to him. He also wants a comfortable home and a partner who supports his practical ambitions, understands his insecurities, and shares his need to be fully committed.

What they want can be many different things; it can be a person who is kind and genuine, or it can be a person who knows what they want and lets themselves have it.

Virgos aren’t simple creatures, and their partners aren’t either.

Virgo Men In Relationships — What Is He Like?

Virgo men will stand by the woman they love. They may take forever and a day before they will commit. But when they do, they will stick with their partner for life. Only a deal breaker would end it.

He will do everything he can to make his woman happy and keep her healthy. He’s so strong and independent that he is someone who can be a shoulder for his partner to lean on.

Though he doesn’t like to receive advice, he’s actually quite good at giving it. Even when his partner doesn’t want to hear it, he’ll offer it up. It could be unwanted, but if she were to process it, she may find it useful.

He is a nurturing man to those he cares for, and he will always be there for them. It’s strange because he doesn’t like to be taken care of. When someone finally does, he feels weird or somehow undeserving of it.

Once he becomes comfortable enough, he’ll accept it gladly and return it without question. He will always be there for his partner, friends, or family when they need him. He’s loyal and dependable.

Here’s more about what attracts a Virgo man to a woman physically.

How To Deal With Virgo Man Mood Swings?

When dealing with a Virgo man, you cannot ignore a Virgo man mood swings.

Virgo is ruled by Mercury, and Mercury carries with it nervous energy that is passed on to Virgo. With this nervous energy, Virgos can become extremely moody. Sometimes they will be rational and calm; other times they will be in the mood for arguments and criticism.

This is because Virgos are very unstable, and you need to balance his energies to neutralize his mood swings.

First and foremost, you need to ignore this fault and take care of it. Whatever you do, don’t disagree with him. Instead, let him vent and give him time to reflect on his feelings. Be kind and understanding.

It would be good if you could be optimistic around him. If you can lift his mood and make him happy, he will be forever grateful.

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What A Virgo Man Wants In A Relationship — 4 Things He Desires For


Virgo’s love to love people who take pride in themselves. Whether it’s their work, appearance, or hobbies, if you’re passionate about it, they’ll appreciate you for it.

If it’s your worth ethic that you take pride in, show your Virgo that you’re willing to work toward a happy medium and that you’re able to be flexible with both your needs.

Virgo men want to be understood and it may take some effort to fully grasp that reality. When you take pride in your appearance, it sends a Virgo through the roof.

Virgos themselves take great pride in their appearance and the peoples’ around them. When you two are well-coordinated and stylish, your Virgo man will be a happy one.

Emotional Shell

Virgo’s aren’t the most emotional people out there, and they’re not exactly prepared to handle the sort of people that are. They’ve lived their entire lives not knowing how to deal with their emotions, so they probably won’t know how to deal with yours either.

This isn’t to say that they’re emotionless robots, but they’re just not in tune with their soft side just yet.

If you just happen to be an over-emotional and clingy person, starting off with a Virgo might not be the best option. Virgo men prefer to be with someone who can hold their own and who can talk things through with them.


When you go into a relationship with a Virgo man, he secretly needs your support all day and all night.

He is hard on himself as he is others, but more so himself and with your support for him, he’ll feel as if he’s doing a job well done and he’ll feel encouraged and loved and that’s all anyone can really ask for from a relationship.

When you start showing him that you care about what he does and what he supports, it’ll be magnificent in the fact that you’ll both be happy and loved and you’ll be encouraging each other to do what you love.

There are many ways to get someone to fall in love with you naturally, but to pick up the pace with a Virgo man, these things will help speed up the relationship process.

Virgo men are usually very loyal and honest and they’ll let you know eventually if they’re in it for the long haul.

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Cooking Skills

Having useful skills is always, well, useful, but when in a relationship with a Virgo man, it can be extraordinary the things you may do. If you happen to be a good cook, making him a home cooked meal will probably make him the happiest guy in the world.

He’ll recognize that you took your time to do this for him and he’ll love you for it for sure. Doing this will also reassure him that you would be a good life-long domestic partner.

If you can show him that you can take care of him, he’ll see you as a valuable asset and he may fall deeper and deeper in love with you.

3 Crucial Things Every Virgo Man Needs In A Relationship

1. He Needs Understanding Of His Cyclical Nature

If you are given the opportunity to date a Virgo man, you will quickly realize that this guy has steadily repeating needs.

A Virgo man needs time to be distant and time to be close. He wants both, but he can only be one at a time. He will need some time to sit quietly in a reflective state in relative solitude, but afterwards you’ll find him running back to you to watch your favorite show together.

Virgos have heavily varying energy levels, so finding a partner who is understanding of that would endear them for the long haul.

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2. He Needs Emotional Stability

Virgos are practical, so one might believe that they don’t need a whole lot of emotional care because they seem pretty self-sufficient. Incorrect! Virgo men need to know that their relationships are stable to sleep well at night.

A Virgo man may seem like he is emotionally solid, but if he senses a disturbance in the relationship, it will drive him out of his mind.

These partners are steadfast and caring, however they need to be convinced that you are happy in the relationship with them.

After all, if there’s one thing we know about Virgos, it’s that they are fixers, and they’ll quickly tire of the relationship if it feels that their effort to maintain happiness and joy with you just isn’t paying off.

He needs validation that all of his hard work and efforts to keep the peace are working for the greater good of the relationship.

3. He Needs Loyalty And Honesty

Nobody wants to go into a relationship based on lies, but if you’re dedicated to a Virgo man, lies can’t even be an option.

Lying is one of the worst traits you can have if you’re with, or want to be with, a Virgo man. It’s nearly despicable, and it can’t be tolerated in a Virgo’s world.

Loyalty and honesty are important to them, if not the most important, and if you’re a loyal and honest person, you’ll be an honest couple. When you have a clear relationship, you don’t need to bend the truth or tell little white lies.

Virgos love to play around and joke about things, so fibs and gags are a good source of bonding and happiness, but don’t go past that; try not to take them to the level of real lies.

And if you just so happen to let one slip by, just let him know what happened. This will let him know that you can be trusted, and he’ll feel secure because of that.

How To Emotionally Connect With A Virgo Man

If you want to have a healthy relationship with your Virgo man, then you are going to have to accept the fact that you can’t rush him into anything and that he needs to come around in his own time.

A Virgo man values security and stability and can be slow to trust others. So, to emotionally connect with him, you need to offer stability, show your appreciation, and be dependable. Be deeply caring and considerate.

Virgo can be slow to trust others, so be patient and don’t push him to open up too quickly.

When you don’t pressure him, when you allow him to come to you in his own time, that’s when the real magic happens for the Virgo! Keep in mind that he has long-term plans but is a little bit scared of moving too fast or rushing into something he might not be certain of. So above all, be patient.

Will A Virgo Man Fight For You?

If you cross one of the Virgo man’s boundaries, such as loyalty or infidelity, you need to know that he will not fight for you.

However, a committed Virgo is an amazing companion. Virgo is considered to be the most loyal sign of the zodiac. He may keep his distance when first meeting someone, but once his confidence is won, he is loyal and he cares. If he senses that you are aligned with his purpose and that you are an honest person, you can be sure that he will fight for you and for your relationship.

Communication is one of the ways he shows his love for you, so when it’s still flowing, take this as a good sign!

If you’re ever wondering what’s on this man’s mind, you won’t have to wait for long. When a Virgo man is ready to fight for you and be in a committed relationship with you, he will let you know. If he wants to take things slow and focus on building a mental and emotional connection first, he will tell you that as well.

Being truthful to a Virgo man is what matters.

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XOXO, Anna

About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

4 thoughts on “What A Virgo Man Wants In A Relationship

  1. I’m an Aquarius with a Virgo man, it’s been 28 years, we are currently divorcing but we shouldn’t be. We are both true to our signs so it’s been one hell of a ride, my advice is this, if your sensitive and can not handle criticism then a Virgo is not for you. I have Virgo in my chart so I give what I get. But I’m serious when I say criticism will be an issue. My Virgo man loves deeply and completely, but showing flaws will lessen that love. He will always care more about what others think then what you yourself think, that can be hurtful but still doable. The number one thing you must do is treat your Virgo like he’s the moon the stars – your everything at all times, they are insecure creatures, I haven’t met a Virgo man yet that isn’t. I will never regret my Virgo man, I adore him still, if you’re trying something out with one, I say do it, I don’t regret mine, I’m sure you won’t regret it either.

  2. I met my Virgo Sun and Moon Last year May 26th. Every since I’ve been so intrigued. They remind me of Aquarius men in some ways besides the nit pic that they are known for. I dont mind it too much because I was raised by a Virgo mother. So im pretty accustomed to how they are. I have never had a better relationship with my mom since I started dated this man. I dont know if because of him being a Virgo and I am able to truly understand how they are and its just in their nature not be a little more harsh or what but me and my mom is definitely closer I feel like. It scares me when I read about them about how kind cold they can get when seeing a flaw in you ….but I heard they are super loyal. I see myself being with him for a very long time. We are different but so similar in the way we think and feel with each other. Its so lovely waking up everyday knowing I have someone so unique in my life. Im a Aquarius Rising he is Taurus rising.

    Best of luck to any Aqua + Virgo out there!

    1. Hi Bella! A Virgo man possibly going cold has more to do with their own inner dialogue. They beat themselves up constantly and they do analyze absolutely everyone they come across, including their partner. You could be acting normal all week but in his head, something wasn’t quite right and he’ll mull over it a million times almost obsessive like. This can make them sometimes cold. They aren’t sure what their thinking, why, and what they should do so they come across as cold or abrupt when they don’t actually mean to be. I’m glad that your relationship is going well, hold onto that but be aware that Virgo men do have mood swings and it affects how nice or how cold they can potentially be. Try not to take it too personally though as it’s probably just weird thoughts he has. Yes, they are much like Aquarius in ways. If you’d like to know more about Virgo man, I’d love to help you. Take a peek at my book “Virgo Man Secrets”.

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