Is Your Virgo Man Playing Mind Games? Here’s How To Tell

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Have you suspected that your Virgo man might be playing mind games? Keep reading to find out the reasons behind your Virgo man playing games, and what to do about it.

Finding signs a Virgo man is playing mind games with you is pretty important if you are interested in dating this man. However, Virgo men can be complicated so it isn’t always easy to understand what these men are thinking!

In my opinion, Virgo men are some of the best guys to date as they are very caring and sensitive toward a woman’s needs. They make very good romantic partners, but there is a side to them that can be a little neurotic and confusing. 

So I can totally understand if you are wondering “Are Virgo men players?” You must’ve noticed that the Virgo man might change his mind often or come across as quite indecisive and as the woman dating him this is probably quite confusing.

So are you seeing a Virgo man and have the suspicion that he might be playing mind games with you? Then keep on reading to find out if your Virgo man is playing you:

Are Virgo Men Players?

I have good news for you, ladies! Virgo men might be confusing, but one thing is for sure, Virgo men are not players. But of course, there are always outliers in a group, and some Virgo men are players, but this is definitely rare. 

If you think that your Virgo man might be a player, then you have come to the right place as there are certain signs a Virgo man is playing you. It is always good to know what these signs are just to make sure that you haven’t got yourself one of the very rare breed of Virgo men that are players. 

Virgo Man Playing Games — 5 Signs He Is Playing Mind Games With You

1. He Disrespects You

The Virgo man by nature is very respectful and honorable. He isn’t someone who will usually intentionally hurt someone, but if he is playing mind games with you, he might actually be quite mean and disrespectful.

You need to remember that there is a side to him that can be quite critical as it is easy for him to notice flaws. So if you notice that the comments your Virgo makes sting a bit, there may be a reason for it. 

It is possible that he wants to criticize you so that he can feel more power over you. This is how you know a Virgo man is playing with you.

Here’s more about Virgo men negative personality traits (and how to neutralize them) <<

2. He Doesn’t Let You In Emotionally

The Virgo man by nature is quite protective of himself and it usually takes time to really get to know him. He prefers to wait before letting people in, however, if he is playing games with you he might also use this as a tactic to keep you out. 

A Virgo man is very well aware of his flaws and misgivings, he is one of those guys that will work hard to try and work on himself and improve. He knows that he has a tough time opening up to others. 

And if he has feelings for a woman he will work hard to try and bring his walls down, so when you notice that nothing is changing, then he might be playing you. He knows that with some women the harder he pushes, the harder she is going to chase him. 

There is a possibility that a Virgo man who you are hanging out with and who you thought you were getting closer to might be using you if he isn’t telling you anything about him. He doesn’t want to be intimate with you.

When a Virgo man is not interested, he can be really cold and cut off from you. One-night stands or flings are usually not encouraged by Virgo men. It should be noted, however, that every rule has an exception.

Read next: Why Do Virgos Need So Much Space? And How Long To Wait For A Virgo Man?

3. He Disappears Without A Warning

As I have mentioned before, the Virgo man is very respectful and caring. He considers his actions and how they might impact the people in his life. So say he might be out of contact for a while, he will make sure to let you know.

This is why when a just disappears and you can’t get hold of him, he might actually be playing you. This shows disrespect from his side and that he doesn’t care that you can’t get hold of him. This is definitely intentional.

It is very possible that he might be seeing other people and this is why he is disappearing on you. If he is playing you then he will often disappear on you until he wants your love and attention again. He doesn’t feel like you are important enough to know what he is up to.

Will A Virgo Man Reach Out First? Find out here <<

4. You Only Hear From Him For One Reason… 

Have you noticed that your Virgo man is pretty inconsistent with his communication… That you only hear from him when he wants one thing, and that is to hook up… Have you noticed when you reach out to him he either ignores you or is very short?

The reason for this is that he is playing you and only keeps you around as a convenience when he is horny. You’ll notice that you never hear from him unless it is for a booty call. This is him being firm in his boundaries and showing you that he wants nothing more from you than sex. Believe him when he shows you this side of him. 

When a Virgo man is using you for sex it is a very big sign that he is using you and playing you. He simply doesn’t want more out of the connection and is trying to keep you at arm’s length. Remember you have the power to say no to this. 

5. He Isn’t Being True To His Nature

The intelligent Virgo man enjoys stimulating conversations. He likes to talk about many things when he is with someone, and he always wants to keep the conversation going. In case you find that he is being quiet or that he doesn’t seem interested in discussing anything of importance with you, then be wary. 

He wants to keep his distance with you because he actually really enjoys communication and connection with people. So when he goes against this, I would be suspicious as he clearly doesn’t want you to know the real him.

Despite the fact that he may have other reasons for being quiet, he shouldn’t be quiet all of the time. There is a possibility that he is still hung up on someone else or that he may be actually seeing someone else, as a result, he does not feel the need to say much.

Obviously, when a Virgo man goes ice cold in terms of not texting, calling or returning texts, he’s probably done with you and you no longer have a relationship with him. There is a good chance that he is fishing for sex if he contacts you after weeks of not talking.

This is not the type of person you want to spend your life with, so keep searching for someone who you will be able to interact with in a meaningful way in real life.

Here’s what to do when a Virgo man goes silent or distant <<

Why Is My Virgo Man Playing Games With Me? Is He Testing Me?

There are many varied reasons why a Virgo man is playing games with you. Usually, this has more to do with him than anything you may have done, so don’t take his actions too personally as the issue actually lies with him. He could be playing with you for any of these reasons:

It Takes Time For Him To Trust

A Virgo man testing you is very clear when you notice that he takes very long to open up and trust you. He is very suspicious of people and because of this, he will often test people to see if they are worth having them in his life. 

This is one of his defense mechanisms as he is afraid of getting hurt and this is pretty much the main reason why a Virgo man will test you. He is playing games with you to see if you are worth keeping around. 

A Virgo man needs to see how much you want to be in his life and that you aren’t just going to run away when things become more challenging and difficult. He knows what it is like to be disappointed by people, so he is trying to prevent that from happening.

Read next: Are Virgo Men Jealous? Find out here <<

He Is Shy

I know this may seem like an odd reason why a Virgo man would be playing games with you, but sometimes a Virgo man will test you because he is shy and reserved. He will hide his feelings and pretend like he doesn’t care because he is scared of getting hurt. 

He is keeping his feelings hidden because he first wants to see how much you actually like him. A Virgo man needs to know that it is safe for him to reveal his true feelings because he doesn’t want to make a wrong decision and commit to the wrong person. 

This is why the Virgo man will play games. He wants to see that you are someone worth committing to. Here’re some obvious signs a Virgo man is falling in love with you (even if he hasn’t said it out loud) <<

He Is A Complicated Individual

One of the most important things you need to remember about the Virgo man is that he is very complex and complicated as an individual. Sometimes he doesn’t even make sense to himself, so don’t worry if you don’t always understand him.

He will play games if he doesn’t know who he is himself yet or if he doesn’t know what he wants from a relationship. This is why the Virgo man will test you, he is trying to figure out what he likes. 

This is actually a sign of immaturity as he is clearly figuring things out as he goes along. This isn’t always fair to you, as you deserve to be with a man who understands what he wants, especially in a relationship.

Learn here what a Virgo man wants in a relationship here <<

Do Virgos Like To Play Mind Games?

I wouldn’t say that Virgo men like to play mind games, but because they are so highly intelligent and intellectual it is actually very easy for them to play mind games. They are just so smart, so this makes it easier for them than most.

But just because something comes easy to the Virgo man doesn’t mean that he likes doing this. A Virgo man is both intellectual and logical, but also sensitive and empathetic. He knows what he is doing when he is playing mind games.

He is being manipulative and getting what he wants out of the situation with you. A more evolved Virgo man tends to not behave like this, but the unevolved ones will play mind games and be very manipulative, unfortunately.

How To Beat A Virgo Man At His Own Game

Virgo men don’t typically like to play games in their relationships, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. So it is first and most important that you are sure that a Virgo man is actually playing games with you. 

Once you have determined this, then you can take more steps. What you need to do is be very patient and calm. You don’t want to let on that you know what he is doing. Big emotions tend to make the Virgo man want to run away.

You want to remain as logical and rational as possible when dealing with a Virgo man. It is very important that you don’t let your emotions get the best of you, or else you could end up messing up quite badly. 

You need to outsmart him, which isn’t always easy so I hope you are up for the challenge! A Virgo man will always think he has come up on top if you become too emotional. He only sees reason in logic. Whatever you do, don’t let him get a reaction out of you. 

Don’t let him see that he has upset you because this is why he is testing you and playing games with you. He wants to see that he can get a reaction out of you. But the calmer and more peaceful you stay, the more perplexing you are to him. 

Your best weapon is staying as unemotional as possible. Show your Virgo man that he is dealing with a super mature woman and nothing he can do can shake you up. This will most certainly intrigue him!

Read next: Giving A Virgo Man Space To Figure Out What He Wants — Does This Actually Work?

Does Your Virgo Man Pull Away After Intimacy?

Is your Virgo man distant or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer? Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.

He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment…

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times. And both are caused by childhood trauma.

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant…

Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior.

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology.

It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.

So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.

Click here now to turn things around with your Virgo man in 30 days or less <<



About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

7 thoughts on “Is Your Virgo Man Playing Mind Games? Here’s How To Tell

  1. Yes my Virgo man really cares about me but he is hard fiqure ok like at his okd house he told me I can come over but I never did but wen he move his new place he wanted me come over this mrng check it out I’m sooo confused but I think he the one we have good talks he holds my hand while we on date he pays me good attion he even let me use his bank card get coffee

  2. This is sooo NOT true! My ex-husband is a Virgo, and lied repeatedly and had a horrible temper and major anger issues!! I also dated another guy that was a Virgo, who was a pathological liar! Signs mean nothing, all people are the same no matter their zodiac.

    1. Hi Lisa Lisa!

      Signs do mean something but your Virgo must have had a more aggressive sign that was dominant in his chart thus causing him to have a nasty temper and lie to you. It sounds like perhaps had a water sign as his moon or rising sign. There are a variety of things to take into account when it comes to Astrology. Sun sign is only the bare minimum of someone’s personality. There is so much more to tell via someone’s birth chart and signs that collaborate to make a person who they are.

  3. Hi, I have been communicating with a virgo via text and we meet online. We have only meet up in peron on on occasion and I was super nervous so I was very quit and awkward. Which in turn I wasn’t myself. I think I turned him off. We have been talking for a while after that but then he stopped texting. And I would send him a text in the morning l ask him if he was ok. He responded late and I didn’t care. So i let a week go by. The after answering my text he said he didn’t want anything romantic. I said something polite and let if go. But a few week later I asked what changed his mind because the text before made it seem like he was interested, he said things like he wanted to kiss and cuddle. Stuff along those lines. He said he would get back to me. Them more weeks went by so I ask again. He answered and said he didn’t connect with me like he wanted I understand and let it go but he then said that maybe we should try to get to know each other a little more. And we have been talking since but not the same way. But I still cant tell if he likes me in that way or just as a friend. I don’t mind being friends I just don’t like not knowing what were doing. Idk what do you think?

  4. I have a Virgo boyfriend that has a horrible temper. And dose crazy things to get my attention. And he won’t ever shut up and let of live our life together. He complains about me being late on Valentine’s day. Everyday since and it’s October now. I really care about him but he is driving me crazy. And im getting worried it may hurt me.

    1. Hi Michele Bleecker!

      I am so sorry to hear he has a horrible temper. He must have some strong fire in his chart (Sagittarius, Leo, Aries) that makes him a bit more temperamental. Many Virgo men are slow to anger since they are an earth sign must like Capricorn and Taurus. They don’t trigger easily but if something has built up overtime they may explode. Tell him that he complains too much and the negativity is pushing you away. If he really loves you then he will absolutely do what he has to in order to change that. He never wants to hurt you intentionally. He needs to know that it’s really getting you down. Tell him! I wish you all the best!

  5. Hello miss Anna,
    Im leonora from philipines,i have chat meet virgo man,been in 3years.he’s acctually ok we have matual understanding,but the point he has a high ego,but in 3years i have feelings with him,and he also ,and this 2024 he wants we meet in real life,is it possible me and he are together,actually he regularly send me messages everyday and he always call me first,and if he go hang out with hes friends he always tells me,i born in june 30,1983,i ask if possible hes serious with me,i hope i recieve your answer
    Sincerly yours

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