Virgo men are quiet people who secretly love to have fun. Not many people could identify a Virgo at first glance because they’re so many things wrapped up in one.
They love to sit and think, they like to go on adventures and try new things, they love to do everything under the sun and they want to do it with someone they love.
Need to know where to go on a date with a Virgo man? Read on!
After more than twenty years of helping women understand the men they love, and after surveying nearly 3,000 women about their Virgo guys, I can tell you that where you take a Virgo man on a date matters more than it does with almost any other sign. In that survey, only 49 percent of women felt a definite connection with their Virgo man, far below the 62 to 64 percent women reported for other signs. And 23 percent wanted him but were not sure the feeling was mutual, the highest of any sign I have studied. The right date does not just fill an evening. It quietly answers the question he is always asking himself, which is whether he can finally relax and be himself around you.
If you want the complete map of how a Virgo man thinks, falls, and decides you are the one, you can read my full guide at Virgo Man Secrets, where I walk you through his mind step by step.
Aimlessly Wondering
Having fun just being around each other is the greatest thing a Virgo man could ask for.
He’s spending close quality time with someone he likes, but he’s not doing much at all. Walking around the town searching for things you’ve never seen before will give a Virgo man a sense of peace and calmness.
This won’t exert too much of his energy, and he’ll keep going strong for the rest of the date.
Strolling in a near-empty shopping mall may also be the way to go. Avoiding the movie theatre would be a good call when you’re with a Virgo man.
Having him keep his attention on one thing for an extended period can, and will most likely bore him. And he’s here to spend time getting to know you.
Acting like a child is one of a Virgo’s favorite pastimes. He won’t admit it to many people, but he loves not caring. Virgo men are always watching themselves and others, and it can be exhausting.
Allowing them to let go and not have a care in the world will make them feel alive and out of their shell. Initiate something fun, and he’ll follow your lead.
Once he knows he can be comfortable around you, he’ll grow to be himself. And your date with a Virgo man will go perfectly.
Concert
The difference between sitting and watching a movie for ninety minutes and watching a live concert for ninety minutes is that a show is enjoyable for a Virgo.
Standing overpowers sitting and moving overpowers standing still. If he’s dancing along to a good band and you’re right there with him doing the same, he’ll remember that moment forever, and he’ll realize that you made him so happy and he wants to have that feeling again.
He’ll associate his happiness with the good times you had, and it’ll have him coming back for more.
Music is a thing many people are passionate about, but for Virgo men, it’s something entirely different. It’s a way of escaping their head and getting out into the real world around them.
Fair
The flashing lights, the sugary delectable’s, the rides that make your stomach turn, everything about fairs makes a Virgo happy.
It’s a better setting than an amusement park because fairs, especially non-local ones, have an air of closeness.
You have to stick together, and you sit near each other on every ride, you wait in line, and you talk about the memories you made when you were a child.
Fairs can bring out a nostalgic feeling even if you’ve never been to a show before.
At the end of the night, once you’ve both exhausted yourselves, you both may feel like you’re floating.
Whether that’s the sugar and the rides catching up to you, or the warm feeling you have for each other, it’s up to you to decide.
Having fun and being loud is what a Virgo man secretly dreams of. He wishes he could just let go, have fun, and seem to be a different person, so if you can make that happen, he will keep you close.
Science Museum
Virgo men are incredibly smart and resourceful, and their love for knowledge never fades away. There’s always something they don’t know, even if they doubt that fact.
When Virgo men learn something new and exciting, they cling to it like it’s their baby and they want to know so much more about it that they make it their new obsession.
Taking a Virgo man on a date to a science center will allow him to show you how giddy he really can be. Virgo’s are giant nerds in the best way possible. Knowledge is their greatest power and seeing them learn and experience new things first hand is incredible.
Going on a date with a Virgo man never feels like a job or burden because it’s so much fun to chill with a Virgo that everything else falls into place along the way. Remember that Virgo men are quite fragile (not like they’ll ever let you know that, though) and they need to recharge on their own.
Having fun and letting loose is something a Virgo man dreams of, so plan fun, and adventurous dates with him and things will be amazing.
The One Mistake That Quietly Ruins a Date With a Virgo Man
The most common mistake I see women make with a Virgo man is treating the date like a test he has to pass, or like a chance to define where things are going. He feels that pressure immediately. In our survey, 44 percent of women said the relationship was moving slowly and another 32 percent said it was not moving at all, which means more than three in four are dating a man who refuses to be rushed. His pace is not a sign that he is uninterested. It is the defining feature of how he operates.
So when you sit across from him and steer every topic toward feelings, the future, or what you two are, you are asking him to do the one thing he is slowest to do, which is open up before he feels safe. A Virgo man relaxes when the night feels easy and unforced. Let the conversation wander. Let there be a comfortable silence. The less he feels managed, the faster he lets you in.
What to Say on a Date So a Virgo Man Finally Opens Up
Getting a Virgo man to talk about himself is the second most common struggle women shared with me, with nearly 689 women describing a man who simply will not open up. The trick is not to ask him how he feels. The trick is to ask him what he thinks. A Virgo man is ruled by Mercury, the planet of the mind, so he comes alive when you invite his opinion, his expertise, or his take on something he has been quietly studying.
Ask him about the thing he could talk about for an hour. Ask him how he learned to do the thing he is good at. When he answers and you listen without jumping in to fix or top his story, he feels something rare for him, which is the sense of being understood instead of evaluated. If you want the exact words that make a Virgo man lower his guard, my Virgo Man Magic Phrases gives you phrases you can use on any date.
How to Tell Whether Your Virgo Man Actually Had a Good Time
A Virgo man rarely gushes, so you have to read him the way he communicates, which is through small, deliberate signals rather than big declarations. The clearest one shows up in his eyes. In our survey, 60 percent of women said their Virgo man made strong eye contact, and that steady gaze is his single most honest tell. If he held your eyes, leaned in when you spoke, and remembered a detail you mentioned earlier in the night, he was fully present with you.
The other signal comes after the date, not during it. A Virgo man who enjoyed himself will often follow up with something specific, like a reference to a moment you shared or a small practical gesture. He is not the type to send a paragraph about his feelings, but a thoughtful, useful follow-up is his version of saying he wants to see you again.
Frequently Asked Questions About Dating a Virgo Man
Where do Virgo men like to go on dates?
Virgo men prefer dates that let them relax, move around, and learn something rather than sit still under pressure. Strolling a new neighborhood, a live concert, a fair, or a science museum all work beautifully because they keep his mind engaged while taking the spotlight off the conversation. He feels closest to you when the activity gives you both something to share instead of forcing a face-to-face interview.
Do Virgo men like to plan the date or be surprised?
A Virgo man loves a plan, but he loves a thoughtful plan even more than a grand one. He is reassured when he can tell you put real care into the details, because attention to detail is how he shows love himself. A light surprise is welcome, but spring it inside a clear structure. Total chaos and last-minute changes make this earth sign anxious rather than excited.
How do you know if a Virgo man enjoyed the date?
Watch for steady eye contact, genuine laughter, and his willingness to stay a little longer than planned. A Virgo man who had a good time will often circle back later with a specific comment about something that happened, which is his quiet way of telling you the night meant something to him. Loud enthusiasm is not his style, so judge him by his follow-through, not his volume.
Should you pay on a date with a Virgo man?
In our survey, 52 percent of women said their Virgo man always pays, which is lower than many signs, and a notable share said they split the bill. Offering to contribute is a smart move with this sign, because he respects fairness and self-sufficiency and tends to read a woman who reaches for her wallet as grounded and secure. Let him insist if he wants to, but the offer itself earns you points.
How many dates before a Virgo man opens up?
Plan for patience. A Virgo man typically takes three to six months of consistent, low-pressure time together before he truly lets his guard down, and 31 percent of women in our survey had not even kissed their man yet. That slowness is not rejection. It is him making sure of you. The women who win a Virgo man are the ones who stay warm and steady while he takes the time he needs.
Your Turn, Tell Me About Your Virgo Man
Now I would love to hear from you. Where have you taken your Virgo man, and how did he respond? Share your story in the comments below, because your experience may be exactly what another woman reading this needs to see today. If you want to go deeper, my guide on the best way to date a Virgo man and my breakdown of his Virgo man personality traits will help you understand what makes him feel safe enough to fall.
And if you are ready to truly understand the man behind the quiet exterior, my complete program at Virgo Man Secrets shows you how to reach him when he seems cold and distant, and how to become the woman he never wants to lose.
To learn more about Virgo men and their complex ways, head on over to expert astrologer Anna Kovach’s site Virgo Man Secrets. When a Virgo man seems cold and distant, she’s got the scoop on how to get through their shell.
