Do you want to know what the worst things are about a Virgo man? We have a whole list for you! Whether you are trying to get over an ex, or just making sure you are seeing his flaws instead of pretending they don’t exist (bad idea), we got you! No one is perfect, and every Zodiac sign has qualities that will make you want to strangle them!
Out of all the Zodiac signs, Virgo men are the most aware of their own flaws and shortcomings. Sometimes painfully so, and they may point out to you a dozen times a day what’s wrong with them – and with you.
Sometimes, we can get so wrapped up in our own expectations and fantasies of a relationship that we fail to see the bad side of someone. We may tell ourselves something, only to ignore it or push it away. Sometimes, it’s best to just look and see what we are signing up for!
Once you receive some validation and affirmation with astrology, it can be easier to accept someone for who they are, or to realize that they aren’t the person for you. We all lie to ourselves to keep the love we so badly want to have, but it’s not always the healthiest thing to do.
So, what are some of the worst character traits of the Virgo man?
The 7 Worst Things About Dating A Virgo Man
1. He’s A Nitpicker
Ready to have every action, word and deed nit-picking over? Virgo men are obsessed with details, and they make it their mission to make sure that they point out to you all the ways in which things need to me done.
In other words, he is a micromanager. Fancy being directed in every aspect of life? Or never having the opportunity to look at the bigger picture, make a mistake or not do something perfectly?
Whether it’s conversation or a chore than was somehow imperfect, he will make sure he picks it apart bit by bit. It takes a lot of patience and a good deal of learning to switch off to handle this trait!
2. He Always Seeks The Flaws In Everything
Nit-picking is right up there with seeking and finding the flaws in everything. It’s a major problem with the Virgo guy – he’s a natural problem solver, so he actively seeks a problem to fix.
Most of us women hate being “fixed,” so this will grind your gears in all kinds of annoying ways! And he loves nothing more than to fix you!
No one likes to be told that they are imperfect, that what they do could have been done better, or worse, constantly finding the problems in your relationship that aren’t there, or don’t need to be analyzed so much.
He definitely needs to learn to see the good in things, not the negative – maybe you can teach him that!
3. He’s Hard On Himself
One of the hardest things to watch with the Virgo man is his constant habit of beating himself up and not seeing the good inside of himself. If he happens to be particularly unconscious, he may project his lack of self-worth into you, and criticize you, too.
Even if he makes the smallest human mistake, he gets obsessed and wrapped up in the drama of how he could have done things differently. It’s hard to tend by and see him fall, yet at the same time, you can’t always save him or validate him. But you can try – if you truly care.
Just remember that he expects himself to somehow be perfect, superhuman, and capable of solving the entire world’s problems. He has a heart of gold, but he needs to soften a little so that he doesn’t live in a state of constant insecurity about himself and his abilities.
4. He’ll Overanalyze Your Relationship
This can be a problem that actually destroys the relationship, if he is not careful! Virgo men, because of their flaw-finding, obsessive tendencies (and especially if he has been hurt), will go out of their way to analyze the relationship and prick holes in it.
If he’s had a rough dating history, this will be even more so she becomes ever more fearful or repeating mistakes. You may be having a good time – or going through a bad phase – and he will analyze things to death want to over-talk it all, and constantly find problems to fix.
You can redirect him when he does this, and tell him to solve problems elsewhere. Your relationship is not a puzzle to be solved, so make sure you lay down your boundaries!
5. He Can Lack Romance
The Love Language for the Virgo man is service. That means he likes to do practical things for you, like running an errand, cooking your food or helping you with your accounts. These all count as a lovely date night for him, where he’s doing something useful to show you his love
However, for some ladies, this isn’t enough and you may even feel unloved. He may not buy you the flowers, or whisk you away on a romantic date or getaway, and he is not particularly affectionate. You’ll have to be okay with his brand of love language, and hopefully, over time, teach him what you like.
Also, it will go a long way to appreciate him for the small and big things he does, because he will do a lot for you and go out of his way to look after you well.
6. He Can Be Controlling
The honest truth is that Virgo men can be controlling. He likes to micromanage things, so it comes off as being this way. However, he isn’t necessarily toxic, nor is he possessive of you and your actions. He just always wants to make sure he has a plan for everything.
This does make it seem as if he wants to run the show. But don’t be fooled, and try not to see him as someone who wishes to make your life harder. He is just terribly afraid of the future without some sort of guideline, which can make him live life in a limited way.
Read next: 6 Tips for Handling a Virgo Man Who Sweats the Small Stuff
7. He Seems Detached And Cold
Virgo men, because they aren’t terribly affectionate and romantic, can come across as cold or unfeeling. They may not hug you as much as you’d like, for example, making you wonder if they actually love or like you.
They’re different in the bedroom, of course. These men are wildcats when it comes to sexuality, but not big on the other things. Because of his rational nature, he may also come across as cold, but he’s far from it. Usually, he has lot of anxiety going on, which you’ll come to realize.
Do you have anything you’d like to add? Any flaws about the Virgo man you want to share? I’d love to hear from you, so please go ahead and share your story below. It’s stays anonymous, of course!
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Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,
Anna Kovach
Virgo men keep condoms in their pocket as he does with his mobile.
Same time you say he is loyal.
He told me once, he can only have sex twice a week, which for now is not with me.
How can you explain it?
Hi Farah!
I would explain that as your particular Virgo likely has a moon sign or rising sign that makes him have tendencies to be more promiscuous. Most Virgo men are reserved and picky. They do not carry condoms like your guy. So this particular may have strong water signs in his chart that make him a bit more of a go with the flow type rather than the classic stable earthy Virgo. Hope this helps!
I am so confused. In an LDR but we grew up together. After two years of constant communication, often for hours at a time during the day, this last few months I might hear from him once every few days and only a message or two. It may take him a couple of days to answer. I tried to walk away last year, he had gotten distant and I thought maybe the relationship was too hard for him. He wouldn’t let me leave telling me he wasn’t going to let me go. I pulled away a couple of weeks ago because he went 7 days with no contact, and when he finally did, it was a small talk message. I tried to keep things light but not continue the conversation, and he told me he needed me healthy and wanted me to get vaccinated as soon as possible. I know his dad moved in about the time he became less communicative, but this change is baffling. He is coming to town in a couple of weeks and I am wondering if I should end things or wait it out. He 08/23, Me 11/04. Any advice?
Hi Sarah!
Oh well if his dad moved in with him then this was a major transition for him and definitely played a role on him being busy. That can throw a Virgo man off course sometimes. He’s simply adjusting. Don’t stop reaching out to him. I think honesty is the VERY best approach with Virgo man honey. Tell him the truth about how you feel and ask him to be conscious about speaking to you a little more again. It’s a fair thing to ask for. I wouldn’t end things unless he’s just giving you signs he’s done. I don’t think he is though honey. Trust your gut! If you want to know more, check out my books on Virgo man.
Hello Anna
I have virgo and I’m not even sure what to call him lol if he’s my friend or boyfriend. But I’m almost positive that he loves me. We have been together for going on 2 and a half years we meet at work and since I’ve been on a roller coaster ride he has never asked me to sleep with him or broke things off. But I have told him I didn’t want to talk anymore because he wasn’t spending any time with me and left me alone for a bit and he came back. He has always communicated but would ghost me too.But in the last 6 months its different his communication has skyrocketed and he spends time with me. He cleaned my house and if I ask of something it’s not a problem. I have been having car trouble and he said.We will put your car in the shop at the end of this month. I asked him recently what we were doing? He said that I’m his bestfriend and he wants more with me in the future. But I have never been to his home or meet any of his family I’m a leo 29 and he’s a virgo 37. My question is do he love me and does he already see me as his girlfriend?? And y haven’t I been invited to his home?
Hi Erika!
If you feel loved by him then that is what it is. He will always make you feel loved by his actions. Also him saying “we” in terms of him helping you with things shows his dedication. By him saying he wants more in the future means that he’s taking it slow and making absolute sure you’re the one before he 100% commits and calls you his girlfriend. Patience is very much required here. If you feel he’s worth it then you need to let him do this his way. He won’t be rushed. What I think is that you just keep going with the flow and not worry so much about the title. He will introduce you as his girlfriend when he finally feels ready. If you’d like more information, please check out my books on Virgo Man Secrets as it could reveal much more for you to learn.