Looking for a way to move on from a breakup with your Virgo fella? Breakups are hard, there’s no doubt about it. Sometimes it feels like the heartbreak will never end! While Astrology isn’t a magic wand, it can certainly help, and provide some much-needed tips to speed things along and guide you to open your heart to new love sooner than you thought. Here’s how –
Have you got a certain Virgo ex on your mind 24/7? Are you going over what happened – or didn’t happen – what you did wrong, how you could have been better? Are you swamped by guilt, or feeling as if there’s just no getting over him?
It’s common, in my experience as a relationship astrologer, to have these feelings and many more – especially after having been with a perfectionistic Virgo man. I often see women emerging from these relationships with quite a few cracks to their self-worth, having been criticized for years.
Blaming yourself is not going to make you move on faster. Thinking about your flaws – or his, for that matter – also won’t help. You’ve got to get to a point where you either feel neutrality for him, or a friendliness of some kind.
Seems impossible? It really isn’t. With some good advice under your belt, taken from the world of astrology, you can move on faster. It helps to have practical tips on what to do next, and how to take action, right?
Besides, you’ve got to open yourself up for a new, better love – and that will take some work on your part. So, here’s my best advice for getting over him:
7 Tips to Move on From A Breakup with A Virgo Man
1. Try Not to Overanalyze It
You may have picked up the habit of overanalyzing from your Virgo ex. This is one sign that overthinks absolutely everything! He thinks so much that he ends up twisting situations around, making mountains out of molehill and generally giving himself anxiety.
It’s easy to adopt his behavior. But, now that things are over, are you perhaps thinking too much about what went wrong? About how you were “imperfect” in some way? How many faults and flaws you had, and that he had?
Try not to let this overthinking hold you back from moving forward. If you really need to talk, get therapy or write in your journal– and then make a promise to yourself that aside from this time, you will do your best not to ruminate.
2. Take A Break from Communication
Virgo is a sign that thrives on communication. Whether face to face or via text, email or on the phone, Virgos have a strong need to talk about things, and sometimes excessively so.
Your Virgo ex may try to reach out to talk to you constantly. He needs to, because he’s lost in a world of overanalyzing thoughts and wants to draw you into his anxiety, maybe even criticize you for the downfall of the relationship.
The best thing you can do, is take a break from all communication. Let him know you’re doing it, and to not contact you, then block him if you need to (though this is seldom needed, he usually gets the picture).
Give yourself some time to heal, and get your own thoughts in order, not while under his influence.
3. Let Your Home Be Messy Again!
Have you missed being able to leave a coffee cup next to you bed for longer than a few hours? Were you tired of having to pick up your clothes every few minutes, or be lectured on how the shower should be wiped down with disinfectant every day?
Virgo people can be nit-picky like that, and it’s not always easy to live with their fussy ways and obsessive cleanliness. Sometimes you want to just be a slob. Now, you can celebrate and revel in a messy home for as long as you like, no longer worrying about a stern lecture from your Virgo ex.
It’s the small things that count, and will help you get over him faster.
4. Enjoy Having No Plans
Virgo men leave nothing to chance. They practically have a schedule for breathing, they’re so regimented. While it’s not meant to be a control of dominance, but rather a persistent character trait that they feel like they can never be without a plan.
It was exhausting having to follow his schedule and routine every day, right?
Now, how about enjoying the fact that you can be completely spontaneous! You can do anything you want – whenever you want!
Now, does it feel good? Do you feel like it’s easier to get over him, once you know you can have an unplanned adventure, eat cereal for dinner or have a free weekend to do absolutely nothing?
5. Go Out and Have Fun
Have you missed just being able to go out and have fun, instead of staying at home and doing the same thing, day in and day out?
Virgos are an earth sign, and like most earth signs, they are introverted. Your ex likes his space after a hard day’s work. He may have a party every now and then – if it’s in his diary, that is.
One great way to get over him faster is to reclaim your social life, to go out dancing, drinking, or whatever else you enjoy. This helps you get out of your head, and hopefully, meet some people who will take your mind off of him (hint hint!).
6. Build Up Your Self-Love Bank
It’s no secret that Virgo men are ultra-critical. They don’t mean it, as they really do have good hearts. But, as well-intentioned as they might be, they do wear you down, and impact your self-esteem and confidence.
When you are constantly being told that what you’re doing is wrong, that you could do better, or that you’re somehow imperfect, you’re going to run low on self-love. Now that you are free of him, it’s time to build up that bank again.
Validate and praise yourself. Do things that make you feel worthy, strong, accomplished, and confident. Most importantly, when you fail, forgive yourself. Remove his voice from inside of your head!
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7. Forgive Him
It’s not easy, but to get over him and really open up your heart for new love, you need to truly forgive him. Yes, he had lots of faults, he was critical, fussy, and hard to live with at times. But he always meant well. He wanted the relationship to be perfect, and that’s why he acted in those ways.
Once you forgive and let go, you’ll find yourself feeling so much lighter and freer. You will be able to see him without feeling awful and perhaps you will even wish him happiness for the future. In time, you’ll come to appreciate the lessons that this relationship taught you, as unbelievable as that may seem!
Do you have any tips for moving on from a Virgo man? I’d love to hear your stories, so please feel free to share them in the comments below.
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Your friend and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
