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Who makes the first move? The Virgo man or You?

who makes the first move the virgo man or you

Have you found a Virgo man completely irresistible and wondering what you can do to get near him? Will he make the first move? Will you need to make the first move? Who takes the lead with the Virgo guy?

Across the room, the First Move

Virgo men can be reluctant to go out of their way and make the first move. It’s not because he doesn’t want to. It’s that he doesn’t want to waste any time on someone who may not want him.

This means that if you’re interested in him; you’ll need to actually find a way to let him know you’re into him. Flirt with him, talk to him, gently touch him on the arm or shoulder.

Figure out a clever and witty way to reach out to him so that he definitively knows that you are genuinely interested. At first; he may question your motives. After he starts talking to you; he’ll figure out if you’re for real or have false intention.



While not all Virgo men subscribe to the same tactics; most of them will want you to let them know that it’s alright for him to come onto you. Once you let him know you like him; he’ll take it from there.

If you haven’t yet met him but have been watching him; find a reason to get nearby him and make some conversation. Once comfortable; you can touch his hand, laugh at his jokes, and give him your “come hither” eyes.

The Next Move

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Once you have initiated the process by letting him know that you have interest in getting to know him. He should take it from there and begin calling you, asking you out for coffee, or even out for lunch.

He may at first get your number and start text messaging you. He wants to ask you a million and one questions to begin assessing who you are and what you want in your life.

Ultimately; a Virgo will not take interest in someone who he doesn’t feel some sort of “chemistry” with. He will have “friendly” dates at first. During this time; he’ll figure out if you’re someone he wants to get closer to or not.

There are some Virgo men that may have different moon signs which could make them want you to take the lead. He should make it pretty obvious to you and quickly what he will want.

Taking over the Chase

Most Virgo men like the chase. If you’re too easy or open up too much; he’ll get bored. However; if you’re going to allow him to chase you; you cannot seem too uninterested or unavailable.

If you act as though you aren’t all that into it; he’ll think you’re being serious and he’ll go ahead and move on. It’s not worth the risk if you really like him. Pull back just a little bit though.

What I mean by that is, let him take the lead. You can text him good morning but then let him talk from there. He’ll likely want to give you a call as many Virgo men actually want to hear your voice.

He analyzes the way you speak and how you answer questions. It’s part of his “getting to know you” process. Text messages can sometimes be misconstrued and that’s something he doesn’t want to happen.

If he’s the kind of Virgo that wants you to do the chasing and the work; he’ll let you know by gently pulling back and wait for you to text or call him first. He’ll say something like “I think you should call me”.

Once you see he is like this; you should then go ahead and start reaching out a bit more to him. It lets him know that you’re very interested in getting to know who he is and where things can go between you.

Cat and Mouse

Young man holding bottle of beer and flirting with female bartender - who makes the first move the virgo man or you

Basically when it comes to Virgo men; it takes a bit of chasing from both sides. If you try to pull back via not answering texts right away, not accepting his calls, or not calling him back; you’d be making a grave mistake.

He will take this as an insult and that you don’t like him. He’ll withdraw and either pull back from you or he’ll go ahead and call it quits so he can find someone else who will be there for him.

Ultimately he is looking for his right match that will stay with him through the duration of time. He wants loyalty and commitment. He isn’t one to take dating lightly.

If he blesses you with his attention; he apparently sees something that can become very strong and amazing between you two. He doesn’t play games either. He is above doing that. It’s best that you don’t implement any.

While it may seem like it’s a dance of sorts; the two of you flirting back and forth should ultimately lead somewhere of significance. He won’t even get involved with someone unless he’s sure they could be the right one for him.

He’s a delicate soul that needs a bit of prompting and yet given the tools to pursue you as you pursue him. It’s more of an equal thing.

I’ve had some clients write in and say that their Virgo sometimes doesn’t text back and feels a bit cold. They do require a bit of personal space and as long as you give it to them; they’ll give you the moon.

This romantic guy needs his equal and it’s up to you to see if you’re ready for the challenge of doing the wonderful “courting dance” that will be done in getting to know him for who he really is.

He certainly wants to get to know you on a deeper level. Click here to find out why he tends to ask so many questions about you.

Hopefully this gives you a good idea of what it’s like to get a Virgo man and how to get him to want you.

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Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach


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  • Rachelle July 8, 2017, 4:09 pm

    I really enjoy and appreciate your in site…I absolutely adore my Virgo man …I understand him on so many Levels because I’m a Virgo woman …but he still puzzles me.

  • Mary August 11, 2017, 2:29 pm

    Hello. I want your opinion please. I am Dating a Virgo man 2 month now, we speak everyday.He said he wants a relationship but we haven’t met for 5weeks! And never had sex.He always says he is busy with work, and although he spends time with friends he never asks me out. When I compain that this is not a normal relationship and ask him why he is avoiding me, he replies that everything is fine and that he likes me,and its all in my mind.I stopped contact him , and he doesn’t understand that he pushed me away. Is this normal?

    • Ginny October 3, 2017, 9:21 am

      The things he is saying sounds like something a Covert narcissist says. RUN! Don’t go by what he says,….watch what he actually does! Which isn’t much. You can do better girl!!!

  • Ariel December 15, 2017, 5:07 pm

    I gave this guy my number after working woth him a short period of time and perceiving all the eye contact from him as the go ahead. It’s been 5 days and he hasn’t called. I’m trying not to think of it, but I am. I also complimented him in front of his dad saying “I see where he gets his good looks from” (which he seemed to like), would touch him subtly on his arm or back here and there and would sometimes look at him and try to hold eye contact here and there.

    Did I do too much? Is it normal for them to take this long to call or is he just not interested?

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