How To Get A Virgo Man To Commit (6 Tips To Help Him Overcome His Fear of Commitment)

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Are you dating a Virgo man and would like to take things to the next level? Here are 6 ways to get a Virgo man to commit to you.

Are you dating a Virgo man and you want to make things official, but you aren’t sure if he’s ready to commit? You are not the first and will definitely not be the last woman to wonder how to get a Virgo man to commit; they are just really slow in making commitments.

Being the sign that rules routine labor and organization, the Virgo man believes in setting up a strong foundation for himself before he settles down. He is focused on practicality, and he isn’t in a rush to form close bonds.

He feels inadequate if he cannot provide financially and emotionally for those he loves. Dating this logical earth sign is well worth the patience and calmness it requires. If you treat him with care and respect and give just as much as you receive, then you should have no issues getting the Virgo man to commit.

When a Virgo man is ready and willing to give you his heart, you will know. I will help you discover the signs a Virgo man is serious about you.

5 Signs A Virgo Man Is Ready To Commit

1. He Tells You He Wants To Commit

If you’ve spent enough time with the Virgo man, you know that he’s intentionally quiet sometimes, but he is never shy. If you’re ever wondering what’s on this man’s mind, you won’t have to wait for long. 

Ruled by Mercury—the planet of thought and communication, this eloquent man is gifted at the art of writing and language. He knows how to write and deliver a speech.

So when a Virgo man is truly ready to commit to you, he will tell you exactly what he wants.  If he wants to be monogamous and enter a committed relationship, he will tell you just that. If he wants to take things slow and focus on building a mental and emotional connection first, he will tell you that. So, listen to him when he speaks.

Check here for some surefire signs a Virgo man is falling in love with you <<

2. He Wants To Spend All His Free Time With You

Being the sign of service and routine, the Virgo man can easily become a workaholic, especially if he chooses a career that helps him fulfill his long-term dreams.

Even still, a Virgo man that wants to commit will make time in his productive schedule to connect with the woman he loves, no matter where she is.

Whether it’s a daily FaceTime call or quick coffee before work, if you notice that the Virgo man is making an effort to be consistent and spend time with you, he may be ready to take things more seriously with you.

3. He Calls You His Best Friend

Although the Virgo man is friendly, he doesn’t have very many close friends. He is very selective about who he shares his intimate space with.

Maintaining a level of mental clarity and inner peace is important for this health-driven man. Therefore, if the Virgo man has told you he likes you and he starts calling you his best friend, this man is serious about you. 

From his perspective, marriage and commitment are lifelong responsibilities, and as a practical earth sign, he takes his responsibilities seriously.

So, if he feels comfortable enough to be himself around you and call you his best friend, this is a sign that he sees long-term potential in you and wants to take things further.

Here’s more on what a Virgo man likes and dislikes in a woman.

4. He Tells You He Loves You

Love for the Virgo man is not a common word, so do not take it lightly when a Virgo man says he loves you. Be prepared to take your love to a deeper level.

When the Virgo man is in love, it means his eyes are only for you. You will be the recipient of his unprecedented loyalty and devotion. If you happen to be loved by the Virgo man, consider yourself lucky, he doesn’t like to put his heart out there twice.

Even if the Virgo man doesn’t tell you he loves you directly, he will show you with his actions and dedication to pleasing you, fulfilling your every want.

5. He Introduces You To His Close Friends And Family

Privacy is important to the Virgo man. When it comes to his loved ones and family, he is selfless. There is nothing he won’t do or give to make sure their needs and wants are met.

Therefore, he is very protective about sharing his family with just anyone. If you asked his parents, he was probably the child who rarely brought a girl home or never introduced his girlfriend as someone serious, although he was always being asked out on dates. 

In contrast to their quiet personalities, Virgo men are very social and tend to be popular due to their cool and mysterious nature. So, if you get an invitation to Thanksgiving or family dinner, know that meeting his loved ones is a telltale sign a Virgo man is ready to commit.

Here are some things to keep in mind when dating a Virgo man:

How To Get A Virgo Man To Commit

1. Engage In Intellectual Conversations

This guy is intelligent and therefore really loves a woman who is as well. It means being able to have really interesting conversations. Brush up on topics you know he likes so that you know what to say.

Bring up that last topic of interest he shared with you and talk about all the angles of it. Show him that you’ve got enough wit to keep up with him. Stimulate his mind and you’ll stimulate his heart.

His heart and his brain are intertwined, so you need to excite both in order to be able to maintain and build a long-lasting relationship with the Virgo man.

Talk about your favorite books, your favorite subjects in life, your favorite artist, or your favorite music. He’ll appreciate that you’re able to open up your mind and enjoy many things in life.

Check out these sweet things to say to a Virgo man to melt his heart <<

2. Help Him Open Up

a Virgo man may react or talk differently with different people. When it comes to opening up and being candid about his feelings, he may need to know how he can do this with you.

Some women receive things differently, and he needs to gauge how you will receive what he says to you. This will let him know what style he can use to talk to you openly and honestly.

Learning this will help him talk to you more, thus making a commitment much more possible. So be sure that you help him feel comfortable and able to talk to you about his inner thoughts.

The more a Virgo man opens up, the closer he will become to you. Communication can help you build and maintain a healthy relationship with him. Open up!

Here’s more on how to get a Virgo man to open up and share his feelings with you <<

3. Take Care Of Yourself

Virgo men are very much about the beauty of the human form. No matter what you look like, if you are putting an effort into the shape of your body and overall aesthetics, he will recognize and admire that.

He can’t help but notice when things are out of place. If you show up on a date with greasy hair, a funky smell, and baggy clothes, he’s going to have two thoughts: “What is she thinking?” and “I’ve got to get her out of here.”

Unless you have the metabolism of Nicole Kidman and Heidi Klum, you’re going to have to hit the gym (and let your Virgo man know about it). It’s not about the result—it’s about the effort.

If you hate the gym, walk for 30 minutes a day, go to your favorite dance class, or get into a yoga routine. You’ll feel great, and he’ll notice the love you give to yourself every week.

This applies to food, as well. Choose healthy, yet still delicious, items on the menu when out together for lunch or dinner. He’ll take note—and you’ll feel great afterward.

Virgo men commit to situations that seem healthy for them, and this kind of attitude toward your body will make that easy for him.

4. Compliment Him A Lot

The Virgo man wants to know you support him in the things he works at. So when he tells you that he’s accomplished a goal in his life, tell him how fantastic it is and what a great job he did. 

He wants his partner to be the one to lift him up and give him the love or attention he needs. He wants security in his relationship. If he does something for you, compliment his technique or his care. This is one of the ways how to convince a Virgo man you are really into him. 

Whatever you can do to lift him up, will make him feel like a million bucks. That is something that will win his heart for sure. Make sure that you’re being genuine when you’re saying these things.

He will sense if you are not being true to your words. Only say them though if you mean them and if you mean them, say them! Everyone wants to feel good, he’s no different.

If you’ve been struggling with how to capture a Virgo man’s heart, I strongly recommend checking out my 30-day Virgo Man Love Challenge… It has all the secrets to becoming his dream woman in no time!

5. Don’t Jump Right Into Bed

Virgo men really treasure women’s innocence; in fact, they find it a beautiful quality. The more “virginal” you are, the more committed and interested he’s going to be. Don’t have sex straight away, or the relationship will probably not last long.

Also, don’t tell him about the sexual partners you have had in the past. Let’s put it this way: for every sexual partner you speak about, you “lose a point” in his mind. He really doesn’t need to know. And if he asks, you can simply say that you don’t want to talk about the past and would rather concentrate on the now.

A Virgo can understand if you only believe in sex after marriage (if that’s true), and this should really pique his interest!

Here’s more about Virgo men in bed <<

6. Be Independent

Virgo men are introverts who recharge in their own space. Whether that means hitting the gym, playing on the computer, quietly listening to music, or taking a hike in the woods, it’s his time, and he doesn’t want to be bothered.

If he sees that you are an independent woman who doesn’t always need him around, that will make a great impression.

A Virgo man needs his space, and if you give it to him, he will return to you like a rubber band. He will start to miss you more and more and will treat the time you have together as more precious.

Give him “time off,” get busy, and have your own life, and your Virgo man will commit that much faster!

Wondering why Virgos need so much space? Find out here <<

More Ways To Convince A Virgo Man

Virgo men love routine, structure, and order. In fact, they go crazy when their carefully laid out plans go totally out of whack! He is looking to commit to a stable woman who is consistently rational and level-headed. He cannot handle emotional outbursts at all.

A Virgo man can only see himself with a wife that does not give him a hard time or act like a drama queen. Those qualities shut him down.

Never act on the spur of the moment with a Virgo man unless it’s to do something fun. Even that is hard for him, as he dislikes surprises, but occasional spontaneity is fine. He likes to control all situations.

It makes him feel safe and comfortable to know what to expect in the relationship, and if you go crazy with waterworks and expect a huge emotional response, you’re not going to get it.

Instead, take a few calm breaths and speak to him rationally about any problem that may be bothering you. The calmer and more stable you are, the more surer he is that you aren’t going to surprise him with emotional outbursts—and then he’ll want to commit.

Why Is A Virgo Man Slow To Commit?

I know that waiting a bit longer seems daunting and not something you really want to do. However, the Virgo man isn’t willing to commit to someone he isn’t 100% sure about.

A Virgo man doesn’t want a relationship to be forced and this is why a Virgo man might avoid commitment. He will want to take his time and get to know you as much as he can in order to figure out if you’re the woman of his dreams. 

If you truly care for him and you want to get to the next level with him, you’ll want to be patient for his sake and for yours. If he totally commits to you then you’ll be really happy you waited.

Being patient with a Virgo man is crucial. Virgo is considered to be the most loyal sign of the zodiac. He may keep a distance when first meeting someone but once his confidence is won, he is loyal and he cares.

How To Know If A Virgo Man Is Serious About You

When a Virgo man is serious about you, he will do his best to fit you into his ideal version of a partner. Check here what a Virgo man is looking for in a woman <<

He wants to see the people in his life succeed and become better versions of themselves, this is why he will pour so much of his time and energy into being of service to the woman he cares about.

When a Virgo man makes a fuss over you, you can be certain that he is serious about you.

You may also want to readWhat To Do When A Virgo Man Sends Mixed Signals

FAQ About Virgo Man Commitment

How to know if a Virgo man wants to commit to you? Well, luckily for you I have compiled questions that might come up in your relationship. Hopefully, this can help you navigate your relationship with your Virgo man.

How Long Does It Take A Virgo Man To Commit?

A Virgo man is slow to commit. He takes his time and he is not in a rush. What seems like forever to you, is a very short space of time for the patient Virgo man.

Winning the Virgo man’s heart and getting him to commit isn’t really that difficult but the biggest thing is not trying to push him, pressure him, or make him feel like he has to make a choice “right now”. That will only make your Virgo man shut down and pull away from you.

Will A Virgo Man Ever Commit?

Yes, eventually he will. Stick with him, show him that you’re built to last, and be very sweet to him. This will let him see that you’re going to stay with him when times are really good and even if they aren’t.

The more practical and calm you are with him when dealing with emotions, the more he can see himself having a life and settling down with you.

Get Your Virgo Man To Fall For You In 30 Days (Or Give Up Forever)

Are you frustrated with how slowly things are progressing with your Virgo man? Do you wish you had a magic ball to see into the future to KNOW for sure if he’s “The One” for you? Are you getting tired of trying to figure him out?

Well… I have fantastic news for you!

There is a simple system that takes only 30 days <<

And it will draw him to you like a magnet and get him to fall deeply in love with you… Or you will know for sure that he ISN’T your soulmate so you can move on.

This powerful program will give you everything you need to know for sure if your Virgo is your forever guy.

He WILL respond quickly to this approach if he IS the one for you. And if he doesn’t, you will know in 30 days so you don’t waste another single minute of your precious time.

Virgo men can be stubborn. And they can leave you waiting and wondering for a VERY long time!

I don’t want you to still be in a holding pattern with him a year from now.

This is EXACTLY what you need to get him to commit quickly.

And if he doesn’t… You’ll know he isn’t the right man for you and you can set him loose so you can find your true soulmate.

So no more waiting around. No more playing it cool.

Get your Virgo man to step up or move on. Get your answer in 30 days…



About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

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